I’ve never had a boyfriend, which before you say anything is abnormal because I’m a senior (18) and the avengers age for a first boyfriend is 12 and a half… (it’s embarrassing at this point.)
I do well in school, I’m very social/well-known (only amongst the girls though), and I’m at least decently pretty. My friends don’t know what guys are either so no introducing…
I’ve gotten asked out a few times but almost always by slackers and guys I wouldn’t want to be wrapped up with (not being picky these were people with serious character flaws.)
I’d like a kind boyfriend with hobbies, funny, and preferably on the less popular side, someone who isn’t involved with drugs. Nothing too crazy in my opinion just a solid non boring teenage boy haha.
I’m not gonna take the whole “just wait.” that’s never gotten anyone anywhere some people just get lucky coincidences, I’m not one of those people. How can I find, meet, and secure a decent guy?
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There’s the library and coffee shops and books 📚 options 🤷🏻♂️🤷🏻♂️
I go to those places but I rarely see guys and I’ve definitely never been approached there :((
No other ideas less indoor soccer meets on meetup.
Your question is well-written, thoughtful, and articulate. You make great points.
I think the first piece of the answer is start talking to guys. Everywhere. It's the shotgun effect: the more you talk and the more people you talk to the more likely you'll find a boyfriend. So, in class. Lunch. Halls. Gym. Sports. Etc.
Then, start going places and doing stuff. Not saying you're not, just that's how you do it. Library. Gym. Coffee shop. Shopping. Offer to go grocery shopping for your parents and find guys there. McDonald's. Go to the games for your school, regardless of sport. Play sports. Volunteer to be a manager or admin for one of the guys teams. Music recitals. Start hanging out with the theater kids or the band/orchestra/chorus kids. Join clubs either at school or find one through your library or community center. Church if you're religious.
Finally, cultivate your hobbies. Go to meetings or groups for that hobby in your area. Join a message board for it. Write for their newsletter. You'll get noticed.
Then, keep talking to these guys. One (or more) of them will notice you.
If you have a local hobby store that runs table top RPGs like Dungeons and Dragons or Magic the Gathering card games, join those games to meet new guys.
If you don't have a local hobby shop, join online games on Fantasy Grounds or roll20. net