Why did he behave this way?

[Anonymous]

I’ll call this man Ian (not his name). Ian was a friend. We both liked each other, but he wouldn’t agree to date me, saying there’s no point. Then later, after he’d flirted with me, he kept singling me out in friend group activities to talk to. Then he told me he can’t bear to be intimately touched (we both have Asperger’s). Then he started accusing me to mutual friends of being emotionally abusive when I wasn’t. Then he accused me the following year through mutual friends of being after his money. Which I wasn’t. When I told him I loved him, but our values are too different, Ian followed me around for ten months and sent me fake, suggestive and romantic Facebook posts. My friend said he just didn’t have the guts to date me. But this man asked me out on Christmas day and then refused to kiss, date or sleep with me. Then I don’t really understand. Don’t people go after what they want?

[Guy13]

It is a shame that he can not handle the physical contact. This can really play tricks on anyone. He also sounds like he has other psychological issues that you do not.

It would be a complicated life with him as he sounds very accusatory. This kind of thing rarely improves and sometimes can escalate into other things. It is best that you two are not together. If it were me, I would stay away from him.

[Summeroflove]

I don’t know. Some people are weird. Just be glad he rejected you.

[Iron_Man]

Sounds very complicated. It’s up to you if you want to try to fix it or not. Sounds like he has issues

[Asker]

I don’t think I do. He’s known to the hospital that I stayed in because he wouldn’t leave me alone.

[Iron_Man]

Well, I wish you the best of luck

[Asker]

Thanks and thanks for your help 😊👍

[Iron_Man]

You are very welcome

[Anonymous]

Some people give up trying.

[Asker]

Then they weren’t that interested to begin with, were they?