If you want more context just watch the video. Let's try and argue the rule and not the exception because we all know there are always "one off's" in life where a woman would have an open Instagram account while in a relationship like being a movie star or in the public eye or even part of a business.
I just want to say, questions like this one make me so glad I don't post real life pictures of myself on social media. Why? Because you know insecure people ask this kind of crap all the time-
Let me ask this question- if it's cheating for a woman, would it be cheating if a man did the same thing? Because it goes both ways, right?
If you have to go online and post pictures for yourself for a self esteem boost or attention, while you're in a relationship? Sure, go ahead... to me it seems nonsensical because you have a partner, but that's just me.
However, just be sure your partner knows about this account as well, AND your watchers/followers know you're in a relationship if prompted. If you're posting half naked pictures of yourself online and not being open with people that you're in a relationship? That's questionable!
Everyone can define what they consider acceptable and unacceptable in a relationship. I personally wouldn’t consider it cheating unless you’re heavily dm’ing and flirting.
Years ago, I had a boyfriend who had a problem with me even having a MySpace account. He thought MySpace was for attention whores along with a bunch of other mentalities like “she’s asking for it when she dresses like that”. That’s when I started to realize he likely wasn’t the one for me. I was right.
In any case, if you’re going to consider that cheating for women, then you should also consider it cheating for men. This crowd think they’re slick when they start excusing the same behavior for men that they condemn women for. I don't know about you but I’m not going to be quiet about it.
Of she is posting provocative/revealing pictures on there for likes and comments then it is cheating. If she is just posting normal stuff like hobbies or something like that then it isn't cheating.
Messages should be turned off except for people they are friends with and they should really only be friends with people that they know and hang out with in real life.
Men should also not post shirtless pictures. Both people should put "not single" on their profile too.
Either way, if someone values social media likes and comments very much, they are likely to have problems in their relationship. Relationships, cheating, and general UNhappiness has gotten much worse ever since social media has been around.
Again, not gonna watch the video.
Crime is dependent on intent. Lawyers call this “mens rea”. If your intent for having an instagram account is hookups and dating, then having that account active while in a committed relationship is cheating in no uncertain terms.
Has instagram devolved so far that this is the debate? People…. goddamn people can destroy anything and everything.
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100% CHEATING! Also "cheating", or at least unacceptable suspicious behavior:
1. Having a Facebook account.
2. Having outside interests and "friend groups"
3. Spending too much time with "friends" and "family" outside of the home.
A woman needs to be kept at home, isolated from social media and other influences on her.
You know who thinks this way? Abusers. That's what they do. They control everything, don't let a person have their own life. Cut them off in isolation from the rest of the world, including friends and family. Make them feel like they are dirty sluts for getting any kind of interaction with anyone except their abuser. This is the mindset of a controlling and manipulative abuser.
Oh and for anyone who didn't pick up on it, a great big /sarcasm on everything except these last two paragraphs.
How?
I have had an account for years.
Most posts are self promoting my basketball career.
I used it to help get me noticed for a scholarship.
If being in a relationship means i can't help myself get a scholarship.
A relationship actually would hurt me far more than help me🤷🏾♀️
Now i use it because i have made college friends and it is the easiest way to keep in contact wit them. We share stories and posts.
If someone comments on my post and i do not know them, they don't get a response.
Why?
Because i am not using instagram to meet new people.
What's considered cheating is something that's agreed upon within each relationship. If an open instagram has not been voiced as a dealbreaker at any time, it's obviously not cheating, unless she's deliberately hiding it and using it for cheating. If that's the case, instagram isn't the real problem anyway.
No, absolutely not! I actually like Pearl, I don’t always agree with her, but I do sub her Youtube channel “Just Pearly Things”. However, she is WAAAAY off base on that one! I also don’t agree that sex is for men the same as attention is for women. Sex is sex, I think the difference is in what sex MEANS to most women vs what it means to most men. Having an open Insta account is not even remotely the same thing as cheating! Believe me, my first real boyfriend cheated on me! I broke up w/ him immediately, but I wouldn’t have given one single shit if he had an open insta account!
No. But depends on what she's doing with open acct.
Not cheating unless the couple has decided that it is. Better communicate because the assumption will sink this ship pretty fast.
LOL some people are incredibly insecure. Let's take a step back and look at how cheating is defined. Cheating is defined as being emotionally or sexually unfaithful to your partner with who you are in a monogamous relationship with.
So, by definition, having an open Instagram account is not cheating, but can be used to cheat, just like any other social media platform, even GAG.
If it wasn’t cheating then girls wouldn’t get upset by their man liking other girl’s photos
Just having an Instagram account? No. Maybe she shares pics of her cat. If she is dressing 3/4 naked in order to garner the attention of thirsty guys? I would consider that as being unfaithful and would proceed accordingly.
Is that for real? So if we choose the third option we can get a follow from the legend himself on Instagram? Omg what an honor
I don't know what's an open Instagram account? I'm assuming you mean not private?
Anyways no its not cheating. Adultery is when you physically get involved intimately with another person, are desiring to get with another person.
Open or closed Instagram account means nothing in regards to adultery.
Instagram is Disneyland. What does having an open account have to do with "cheating"? LOL Like that one girl said, men look at other women all the time whether or not they're in a relationship... so what? Women do the same. That's not cheating, that's enjoying the scenery, Coach !!
I'm not sure. I have no idea what Instagram is really, or what it's utility is.
Cheating requires intent. Same for guys checking out nudes online. Window shopping isn’t intent.
If you ask your spouse to stop and they don’t, that’s another issue.
My MARRIED neighbor has an instagram. It's just like a stupid copy cat of facebook where your arrogant ugly self can show off your family and selfies lol.
as long as she isn't messaging other men, i don't understand what the problem is?
I don't think having an IG account would be a problem, unless it's taking over your life, like any addiction.
How is posting photos or videos cheating? This attitude some people have is just bizarre.
I don't think that it is.
unless she posts sexy stuff no
