Is there any truth or value in the saying bros before hoes?

[BarryLiverstone]

The other saying would be chicks before dicks. But in my case I recently had a friend who I was going to go on a double date with get rejected by her before we did the date which got cancelled. However yesterday that girl texted me directly said I was the one she was interested in the whole time and she wants a date this weekend.

Should I just tell her no and be loyal to my friend or should I meet up with her on a date?

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Added info. My friend let her know that he’s not yet over his ex yet. In case that matters.

[Juicyred921]

Yes. To a point. Just don’t turn your back on people that care about you for a girl you just met. I’ve know guys to turn on there friends, friend they’ve had for years, for a girl that he just breaks up with in a couple months. But you also gotta watch out for friends that are jealous. Switching up and spending all your time with this new girl is gonna get some negative feedback. Or they could be jealous because you have something they don’t. It’s all about keeping an eye on people and balancing your relationships with people.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes I agree that balance is key. So best to just tell her no?

[Juicyred921]

Depends on how important your friendship with him is to you. Or is she more important. Unfortunately someone’s going to get hurt. You know if you go out with her, even if you try to keep it on the DL, he’ll eventually find out and it’ll ruin your friendship. I’ve seen many friendships and even families torn from things like this. I think saying no to her is gonna hurt her less than your friend. And at least explain the situation to her best you can. Nobody wants to be rejected without reason. Just creates confusion and anger.

[linka_pat307]

The fact she wasn't truthful to your friend already tells you to not trust her... What if she is trying to fool you...

You should let your friend about her recent behavior maybe it will help him be over her

As I rest my opinion "don't go to that date with her"

[NathanDavis]

if you mean this to be about loyalty...

then it is very simple, either you are genuinely loyal or you are not...

a stupid juvenile saying... or a poll/input on G@G should not be the decider whether you're a loyal friend or not

true character is more genuine rather than conditional

now, what being loyal means... that is more personal to you and your life experiences and all that

[BarryLiverstone]

Cut and dry loyalty is a virtue. But the situation isn’t as cut and dry as you can see

[NathanDavis]

right, which is why I said... it is more personal to you

one question here could be... do you really need to entertain this girl and to do it right now? just because she asked you to entertain her?

or another question... before their fall out, were you actually interested in her?

of the answers to both questions are yes... or closer to no, then that might give you an idea of where you actually stand

[DaveJord]

Depends, how hot is she? How good of friends are you with your bro?

I mean I got three friends in the world that I would definitely never do this to. But other then one of those three guys, I am fucking this chick. If he's a real brother, he's not going to cocktail block you. He should be like fuck that chick!

[TsmGai]

The quote means "Trust your friends over women you recently met and can leave you any time." It also has roots in women's general sneaky behavior. Your story even confirms this. Virtually no dude would go out of their way like that, which circles back to the quote. You might think it sounds sexist, but women have their unique flaws just like men. It's just not socially acceptable to admit it because modern society is bitch made.

[AmyHew1tt]

It depends on the situation, I think. But I'd say here it depends on what's most important to you. Do you think your friend would be really upset if you went out with her? And do you actually know her/like her?

[Akam93]

Yes there is some value to it. Especially if you have known him longer than her. Glad I was right on my side though.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yep I’ve known him for a while. Frankly he kinda messed things up with her. You were right?

[Akam93]

Yes I was.

[Akam93]

If your not over ex then what's the point?

[BarryLiverstone]

I told my friend it was unwise to go out on the first date with her anyway.

[Akam93]

I'm not understanding something here.

[BarryLiverstone]

Because he wasn’t over his ex and still hoping she would want him back

[Akam93]

You mean your friend?

[BarryLiverstone]

Ya my friend

[Akam93]

I was thinking of something else.

[alcorriher]

i’d keep my word to my friend.

[Caramelpie]

I say bros before hoes. lol

[BrightBubblyKat]

Meet up with her.

[Anonymous]

It's silly, childish guy stuff.

[BarryLiverstone]

What’s silly?

[LiamJHayden]

Some

[BarryLiverstone]

Care to explain?

[LiamJHayden]

There is some truth in putting male FRIENDS before random pieces of tail, but sometimes "bros" is extended to every guy on the planet. I'm not passing up on a girl because some dude I do not know, or barely know, failed to get with her.