I care about him but I feel like we are making no progress in our relationship. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

So we are together 7 months 31 and 32 yo. He is very closed, reserved and emotionally detached and I felt like with time it will ease up but it's not. We are dating like teenagers, meeting up for a sleep over every three days and I feel like there is no progress made in terms of attachment and needs.

I was in 5 years relationship before him and we lived together so this set up is not enough for me. On the other hand he was alone for 7 years, casually dating and he never lived with anyone. So he doesn't really mind this rhythm.

I don't really know how to approach it as I am getting kinda bored while lacking everything. This way of dating I outgrew and it's making me feel more alone than in a relationship. Any thoughts or advices?

NOTE: I am mostly bothered by his casual approach towards not meeting up regularly, as if he isn't bothered and having zero needs, while at the same time he insisted on us being serious, meeting families etc.

[boggboss]

So speak to him about it stop expecting him to just change to what u want without a conversation

[Asker]

I thought that that kind of needs come around naturally. With time normally needs are growing... I didn't want to force anything upon him but I just realized that I feel as if we were dating for 2 months not 7. And the reason is exactly lack of progress. It's kinda discouraging and pointless to invest your feelings, time and everything if you keep standing at the same spot with someone. I will definitely try and talk to him.

[boggboss]

No but they are your need no clue if he wants the same

[Stevefiveo]

Hmm, well I guess you can try one more time talking to him and see if he will change. If he doesn't, then you are going to have to find some that can make you happy.