Is it normal that my boyfriend likes making me watch horror movies with him because he loves my reaction?

[Anonymous]

I hate scary movies and I really don't enjoy them. My boyfriend likes them. I'm such a huge scaredy cat I don't really watch the movies I am mainly looking off to the side and I'm pretty miserable. Even though I'm not even watching, the jump scare music always gets me. He laughs and finds it so amusing. I always tell him I'm not down to watch those movies. Anything but scary and he still forces me to watch them. He'll buy a movie and not tell me what it is until I'm sitting there in the living room and I find out it's yet again a horror movie. It gets annoying and we are in the beginning stages of the relationship only been dating for 2 or 3 months. Once he bought a movie I already saw and I knew where all the scary parts were and once he found that out he was really disappointed. If you are wondering what he is doing he doesn't even comfort me at all. I feel like I'm on display of entertaining him even though I'm not enjoying myself. Like my reaction is so amazing and funny that he needs to see it all the time. I just wonder is this normal?

[Anonymous]

You are making a mistake. But your boyfriend is not on the path of ascension so he doesn't realize what he's doing 'For my people perish for lack of knowledge (Hosea 4:6)'

I don't think you realize just how much this says about the entire relationship but I am viewing it all through the lens of spiritual ascension, prosperity, empowerment, love and raising each others vibration. Each partner is supposed to assist each other on that path in all ways. What you just described is something I wouldn't put up with period. It would be so far from my life that you couldn't even see it with binoculars.

Your higher self knows this hence this question. This behavior is 'normal' for any couples who aren't on that path.

[GreenLanternI0I]

From what I'm gathering, your B. F. enjoys seeing you scared and helpless, that is not a good sign for a good and happy long term relationship. If he is into watching you basically suffering, that means he also would enjoy brining you discomfort, pain and misery during your sex session and I'm not talking about Fifty Shades of gray type of enjoyable pain here. I'm talking about you legitly being in pain and discomfort. If I were you, I'd be careful with this dude. One more thing, since it has been only 3 months and you still haven't lost much time, it is never a bad idea to look for another guy who is somewhat like you and who has somewhat same interests, thoughts and hobbies. Just saying.

[Asker]

You know what now that you've mentioned that, when we were kissing he bit my shoulder out of no where and it hurt so bad. He said he's into biting

[GreenLanternI0I]

He is into brining painful discomfort to girls and as I said before, not the one that most girls do want to get ones in a while. I think he was either mentally or physically hurt when he was younger. He was either bullied (mentally or physically) or maybe one of his family members were physically beating him or really insulting him on a personal level. Miss. Asker, I can only lead kangaroo to water, but I cannot make him drink. You already see red flags coming off of him left, right and center and it's been only 3 months
P. S. people don't change, it is a false hope and it would be a failed endeavor if you decide to go down that route.

[Asker]

Okie I'll end things

[GreenLanternI0I]

I hope you can understand that I'm not trying to ruin your relationship, I simply want you to have a better B. F., because with better B. F. you will have a better and happier life.

[Asker]

Oh no I totally get you. Don't worry. Thank you for everything:)

[Rosexøxø]

He’s not a strong man, if he needs to weaken you, just so he feels empowered.

It would be doubly cruel if you asked him to fight many guys to prove he can protect you.

He doesn’t have to prove like that, to you or to himself, and he shouldn’t be enjoying you in some state of ‘needing assistance,’ just so he could be the one to offer it, or so.

That’s even if he is consoling/ holding you, at all.

Tell him you don’t like em, but you’re also not going to watch them. It does nothing for you,

and does nothing for you both as a couple.

He should want to see you succeed and vice versa.

[Rosexøxø]

Best to you sis

[sirderpsalot123]

I'm the same way with my girlfriend, but I watch her dumb movies too.

[Danny_dan92]

Horror movies = cuddling = sex

[Asker]

I would be down to cuddle but he doesn't try to at all

[Danny_dan92]

Wow. That’s just sad