Is this how a boyfriend should act?

[Anonymous]

I have a boyfriend and I do like him. It’s been 3 months. He always goes clubbing and ignores me and dosent reply? He always ignores me for 1 day and tells me he fell asleep? He sees me once every 2 weeks? Is this normal from a boyfriend am I being dramatic here? Sometimes even once every 3 weeks? Everyone is telling me I’m being dramatic but how am I being dramatic? Is this normal from a boyfriend? The fact I’m getting told I’m dramatic is making me think that I’m not settling for less? He never even answrs my phone calls. He’s my boyfriend?

[kylee2437]

Everyone that is telling you, you are overreacting is gaslighting you. You have a right to have standards and if the person you’re dating is doing something you don’t like, you have a right to speak up and ask them about it. If they don’t change that’s when you throw it away. I think this relationship is bound to not be long lasting if he’s already doing things that represent he’s not that invested into you. Dump him and find someone more willing to invest

[virtue2332]

The first thing you must realize above all else is it doesn't matter what anyone says how a boyfriend should act. Especially when they are not in your relationship. What works for some may not work for others. You should listen to something though and that is your emotions how it makes you feel. If your needs aren't being met you need to communicate this directly with him. If he cares about you and he has the means to change it than he will if not he is not the one. It's not your issue its his. You should have a conversation with yourself and find out what you really want and need and go from there. Questions like is seeing him once a week better than ending it and not seeing him at all? Are you both in the same relationship? As in does he view it as a casual fun vs something serious. Bottom line is your gut is telling you something is wrong and that has to be fixed or its time to move on.

[SnowedIn]

You are NOT being dramatic. Ditch the boyfriend soon and while you're at it, consider dumping all of the "everyone" who is telling you you're being dramatic.

This is NOT how a boyfriend (or girlfriend) should act. This may be normal for him and might work for some people. Doesn't work for you. That's okay.

[BlueScorpio]

No, sounds like he's not serious about you or the relationship and just wasting your time or wants to come see you on his time. I would end the relationship cause it's already not off to a good healthy, start with this guy. Chances are you are a back up/bench warmer for him whiles he's out pursuing other things or girls. You're young, you still have time to find the right guy at the right moment.

[Summeroflove]

If he’s not making you happy. Maybe you’re both not meant to be.

[Reece12345]

The surefire way to tell if a guy likes you is by how much time he spends with you. He'll spend time with you because it's the happiest place that he could be and he knows that he wouldn't be any happier anywhere else except being with you.

Dump this guy and find someone better. You deserve it.

[JasminTheRose]

He probably has a bunch of other girlfriends. A man that is truly invested in you will spend much more time than this.
Block him and remove him from your life without even confronting him, because he knows exactly what he doing and there is no point in telling him how ge should treat you, because if he wanted to he would have done that already.

[Vegasrunner]

@JasminTheRose A man that is a loser will spend more time. She likes him because he had options. A man doesn't need to invest all his time into a woman to keep her.

[JasminTheRose]

Enjoy low standards!! Bye

[Vegasrunner]

@JasminTheRose You're correct, her other options are to simply lower her standards and get a basic man.

[JasminTheRose]

Good men are not low standards, they are a gem that are hard to find. I would prefer a man that treats me in the best way possible over some big shoot who runs after women imitating animal like behaviour.

[Vegasrunner]

@JasmineTheRose I agree good men are difficult to find, that is why most good men have multiple women, because there are less of them then there are of women to go around. I'm sure there are plenty of men that would treat you the best way possible, problem is no one wants those guys because they are usually losers who can't attract other women.

[JasminTheRose]

When a woman gets her heart broken by one of those pricks!! She will agree that a good man is better.

[Vegasrunner]

@JasmineTheRose That's all in the game. Heartbreak goes both ways, the difference is women believe that the world revolves around them so their heartbreak is more important than others. It's such a tough spot for them, because you guys have to find a guy that you have an emotional connection too, however because you all are seeking the same man, the man that you end up w/ a connection too, is the same man that other women have a connection too, and then you find out that you're not as special as you were led to believe, and that's hard for women to deal with.

[TallAnon]

Remember, him being a boyfriend doesn't define him. Think about it in a different way; Do you like a person who acts like he does? Do you feel like you could talk about it and expect him to reconsider? If not, this might not be the relationship for you.

[Keyboardkat]

All I can say is, when I was dating, if I were really interested in a girl, if I were really attracted to her, I wanted to see her and spend as much time with her as possible. It doesn't sound like he feels that way about you.

[midnightmoon05]

How did he get you to be his girlfriend. to begin with?
based on what you said. He is a boy. Not even a friend. So get rid of him and find yourself a real boyfriend who will care for you.
good job asking…now time to take actions.

[Adam1978]

He isn't a boyfriend you are just friends with benefits. To be boyfriend/girlfriend you should have communication or contact most days and he should have no interest in going clubbing. You are probably not his only sidechick either.

[DaisyM23]

No not really
If you guys live close enough to see each other whenever, it's a bit weird that you only see him once every few weeks and he doesn't text or call? Why bother with this or him

[BCRanger10]

No, this is neither normal nor how a man should act in a relationship. I think you ought to call it off.

[slatyb]

He's gaslighting you. He's a ticket to misery. You're already unhappy. End this and find someone who makes you a priority

[Wiredone]

When you care about someone you don't act that way. When you care about someone you want to talk to them and see them as much as possible. It sounds like he has some " other" activities that are keeping him really busy. You're not being dramatic.

[RavVid]

If this was inverted and my purported girlfriend was doing this I would have dumped the bitch long ago. There is your answer.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

I see he doesn't really want a commitment and only wishes an open thing. It is not normal for a boyfriend. He surely doesn't want to bind with you. Thats just fact that there are people out there who dont want to be attached to a person.

[jshm2]

You're just his sidepiece, kiddo. Get a clue.

[suckmytitties]

He obviously doesn’t want to be your boyfriend anymore. The best thing to do is leave now or you will just be hurt more.

[JDtheman19]

It seems like he's interested in something other then you

[ThatguyDon]

He's not your boyfriend, he's an acquaintance. Move on...

[MikeInHawaii]

If you’re having sex with him, why should he improve. It sounds like you’re his fall back.

[LimitedBenefits101]

You being way too dramatic and want to control his life, hopefully he finds new girlfriend who treats him better.

[Shamalien]

Lol if you don’t talk at least once a week he ain’t even close to your boyfriend

[Asker]

We speak everyday but we don’t see each other everyday

[Shamalien]

Well you speak every day…that’s good then. Hard to see someone every day when you don’t live with them