What's the best way to meet the love of your life in 2023?

[coachTanthony]

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Hey Gang,

The trolls are back downvoting comments so don't be alarmed. Just some chick who has some issues in the head. Let us pray for her in Jesus name, AMEN.

[Guy13]

In 2022, those rigid Meetup outdoor and indoor games, socials, and conservative professional club paid off. One of the girls I met, who was very liberal, and I did not bond. Took another month of friends with her and one day, “I have got the girl for you.” Meeting real people, around 300 a week, instead wasting time on apps, paid off.
Anyway…. She may be the one as we hit 6 months and have completed all the requirements including her work and one of my charities parties. Mountains fresh Christmas tree cuts for both instead of just me…
One Sunday after church at her parents, mine next, Sunday, and one Sunday to us… etc

[msc545]

I sincerely hope this works out for you.

[lightbulb27]

wait, so you went with the liberal girl, or she linked you up with a conservative friend?

[msc545]

@lightbulb27 me?

[lightbulb27]

@msc545 Guy13 “I have got the girl for you.” Sounds like she set him up with a friend.

[msc545]

@lightbulb27 I see that now. I can't figure out what girl he went out with at all.

[OlderAndWiser]

I am currently in a committed relationship with a girl I met on zoosk. If I was not in a relationship, I would return to online dating sites.

[coachTanthony]

Older I think everyone knows you are happy lol we get it ha

[coachTanthony]

And I am happy for ya

[OlderAndWiser]

. . . like a pig in slop!

[coachTanthony]

Ha Ha ha yes

[AmandaYVR]

Go outside.

Speak.

Smile.

Have something interesting to say, so be up on the world, current events.

Learn how to dress.

[Vinnygraphix]

I actually do know how to dress i just dress up and go nowhere reason I don’t know where to go I do not know most popular places to visit in nyc for a night out

[Jamie05rhs]

@AmandaYVR I agree that that's a good way to meet another human. But it's much too random to be able to claim that that person will be the "love of your life.". Much more likely is that you meet someone and fall in love with them and then break up after finding out the truth that you never were compatible in the first place.

[AmandaYVR]

@Vinnygraphix NYC is tough. There's so many people, I hear the dating scene there is really cut-throat and people move on quickly, don't really take time to get to know one another.
Is there any place in your neighbourhood that has a good vibe you like in the evening? Familiarity (people being familiar with each other over time) tends to help make people feel comfortable and a bit more social over time.
I asked my husband about this q and he said tell him to go to a bar/restaurant on a regular basis, get some dinner and a drink and just treat it like it's his hood, a second home, sort of.
That would probably still require you to go and talk to a girl (or guy, if that's what you're into.)
Do you have a dog or a guitar? Chicks kind of dig both. They're good conversation starters, and you'll look like you're just hanging out, like in Central Park or something.

@Jamie05rhs Well, I was being kind of facetious because the q is so serious. Unless you go on dating apps and use that "wants serious relationship" drop-down, odds are it's all just dumb luck.
Sounds like you're not feeling too optimistic these days, eh. Yeah, you do have to "kiss a lot of frogs" as they used to say, lol, before someone seems compatible-ish enough.

[Jamie05rhs]

@AmandaYVR Yeah.
And I haven't been optimistic since like 2002, or earlier! Lol. So I found it kind of humorous that you said that.

[AmandaYVR]

@Jamie05rhs lol. I've seen optimism in you. I didn't actually know this was your default.
But I'm a realist/prefer underpromise, overdeliver, not the other way around, and hate sales pitches, so you go right on ahead. Just be nice if some rando does strike up a convo, lol. Which I'm sure you would.

[Jamie05rhs]

@AmandaYVR Thanks. I guess I'm a cynical optimist. My mentality is basically this: "It's a shitshow out there. And the chances are slim. But I believe that someday I will succeed, despite it all."

[Vinnygraphix]

I actually own a few micheal khors shirts and armani

[Vinnygraphix]

Where i live in New York coty is a ceryvsmall town of 72,582 its mostly 80% black community not my cup pf tea in woman choice

[Vinnygraphix]

And its very low quality restaurants

[Sasha0426]

I don’t know. Is there a “love of your life” these days?

[coachTanthony]

Yes only for certain people though.

[Luopio27]

Amen

[Sasha0426]

@coachTanthony You can delete my comment if you want.

[coachTanthony]

Why would I do that? lol

[PatriceONeal]

Guys : Go outside. Delete social medias. Follow your careers or goals. Women will find you when you're successful and on your purpose, then you get to choose. Do not lead with your wallet. Do not ever marry until the family courts have been "fixed". Prenuptials do not always work, in fact they can easily be disputed. Most importantly don't bend to the will of the progressive left who teach us to call women queens and celebrate the single motherhood epidemic destroying the country.

Ladies: Condemn feminism. Delete social medias. Be realistic about what you want in the long term. If you dont prioritize men rather than the career, wage slave, hoe phase, cat-mom lifestyle, you will never find a man or have a family with a man of any real worth.

[Guardian45]

Well, actually, I was relying on you, Coach, to play matchmaker (yenta) and match up ALL G@G members!

So here's my deets, I'm cishet poly male dominant switch. Get to work!

Matchmaker, Matchmaker

[Guardian45]

https://youtu.be/59Hj7bp38f8

[coachTanthony]

I mean I never thought about being a matchmaker. First one that comes to me and says he was a jerk I'm out. lol

[Guardian45]

So you'll do it, Yente... I mean... Coach?

[coachTanthony]

Uh no.." I'm cishet poly male dominant switch"

LOL you got the wrong guy. Sounds like a chinese dish.

[Guardian45]

Awww! Cmon Coach! PLEEEEEASE! I'm NOT that hard to match, am I?

[coachTanthony]

yes yes you are lol

[Guardian45]

WHAT? WHY?

[Guardian45]

I'm easygoing, mostly, funny, smarmy snarky! Easy on the eyes!

[Guardian45]

VERY ROMANTIC! A TRUE REAL GENTLEMAN!

[coachTanthony]

I don't have the skills to help you.. it's not you it's me lol

[Guardian45]

Don't tell me you DON'T know any eligible women!

[coachTanthony]

Nope why would I?

[Guardian45]

Cuz you're COACH!! LOL!

[coachTanthony]

yes I am a coach not a magician

[Guardian45]

🤯🤣🤪👍

[RavVid]

I take it we are talking about the love of your life as opposed to the lust of your life.

Tinder might be good for the later but not I think the former. Bars/clubs for the later but not the former.

I am not sure there are any good places for the first. Partner dancing venues at least facilitate you to meet most of the girls (and vice versa) in a more natural way.

[NathanDavis]

I'll wait for 2024... from what I hear, the new way in 2024 will suit me best, lol...

the 2012 ways will make a comeback...

[Vinnygraphix]

iWait you mean to tell me that there might be a woman out in this world we live in wanting to date me…?
1) How can i find her?
2) Does she care about height?
3) How can I keep her intrigued so she won't loose interest in me?
4) Final question: is would she care if I never traveled, have friends to hangout with ever been to a club or a bar don’t get me wrong I do drink I just never had the time.

[coachTanthony]

No sorry didn't mean to give you hope.

[OfMiceandMen]

Obviously, figure out where the hell that place is in the picture above? LOL

[Sixgunsound]

You're funny, in a crying clown sort of way, with this question.

[Anonymous]

Get out and talk to people. That's 95% of the battle. You can't be successful hiding in your cave and talk about doing it. Get out and enjoy yourself. A woman will take notice. I almost guarantee you. Take it from an ugly mug like me.

[humanearth]

Best place is pornhub

Because thats all I hear form the young forks

[Anonymous]

Get away from computer screens and phones would be a good start.

[Pete671]

Join a church and find someone there is a spiritual connection with,,,

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Get a lucrative job, buy an aeroplane ticket, go to my love’s city, find Her.

[Sparkie460]

You find a good looking woman then kidnap her. My wife is still tied up. Rotflmao

[LiamJHayden]

No clue. I'm just here to see if anyone else has good ideas.

[msc545]

Perhaps prayer - I have no idea of anything else that has a chance of working

[Orion76]

It’s getting harder and harder to meet and connect with quality people these days, for me it’s highly unlikely that something like that would happen or I have met and lost them already.

[SnowedIn]

Girls ask Guys

[coachTanthony]

There have been a few lol

[aaron210419]

Can't call it, but it's definitely not on dating apps

[coachTanthony]

I've done quite well on dating apps but you are right it takes a boss to do well on them.

[LemiaOfThunder]

I guess by being a troll.

[LemiaOfThunder]

Your person?

[LemiaOfThunder]

Wrong Person.

[coachTanthony]

Oh hmmm yeah looks like I messed up

[LemiaOfThunder]

Easy mistake we are friends, Do come on at the same time, we like to spit ball ideas for mytakes and questions.

[coachTanthony]

She tags you an awful lot saying you should be an Influencer? How do you feel about that?

[LemiaOfThunder]

She just trying to boost my confidence up thats all. Its up to @GirlsAskGuys who they promote.

[coachTanthony]

Yes indeed. You are correct. Good luck.

[BJP21]

Singles nights, bars, night clubs.

[BJP21]

Hey trolls &*^% you. @coachTanthony your cool.

[coachTanthony]

Ha ha ha

[lightbulb27]

Ask her to meetup at the Oyster bar.

[Timid-guy]

I'd be too shy to look at those women in the eyes.

[coachTanthony]

You're 31 you still have time to turn it around unless you enjoy being shy and timid.

[Timid-guy]

Can you help me?

[coachTanthony]

I work with women man. But what I can say is you need to get out of your comfort zone and ACT AS IF you have confidence. You will need to force yourself to be social and brave. Do it enough and you should be fine.

[Timid-guy]

In what place should I start?

[coachTanthony]

First thing you need to do is stop identifying as this shy guy and hoping women have compassion. You have already given up mentally. I used to stutter. I didn't identify as a stutterer I worked to get rid of it and now nobody remembers me stuttering because I didn't wear it on my sleeve like you do so start talking with confidence and when you are out say hello to as many people as you can. Look women in the eye and just say hello.

[Timid-guy]

Makes sense, maybe I should delete this account and create one with an username like confident dude or something along those lines, maybe strongstud.

[coachTanthony]

I mean my question would be why have you already decided you're this guy? If you believe it in your soul and choose not to change then maybe you're addicted to the pity you get? I don't know but Yeah I would change everything.

[Anonymous]

Look in the mirror. Because loving yourself and avoiding relationships is the only way for a man to stay happy in this poison entitled female world.

[Anonymous]

Has to be through dating app or work

[coachTanthony]

which dating app you think is the best?

[Opinion Owner]

Tinder, bumble, even Facebook has a dating app now

[coachTanthony]

Facebook is surprisingly good. All my clients use bumble though. I think so far it's the best. Age does come into play though.

[Opinion Owner]

I just feel like girls do not want to get approached in public

[coachTanthony]

Many women don't want to get approached by just anyone in public. Men need to change it up a bit and get some signals first before just approaching strangers like they did 15 years ago.

[Justneedtokno]

Mutual friends and doing a hobby

[Vinnygraphix]

I don’t have friends

[Justneedtokno]

@Vinnygraphix OK what about cousins and family members or colleagues that you work with any of those can do?

[Vinnygraphix]

None of my family members talk to me. After my mom passed away. & co workers I do not hangout not being picky but I can’t hangout with ghetto class humans

[Vinnygraphix]

And i am a only child

[Vinnygraphix]

I have none I’ve have spent 99.99% if my life in solitude.

[Vinnygraphix]

I have no-one i have spent 99.99% of my life by my self.

[Justneedtokno]

@Vinnygraphix well my mom passed in 2016 and I am an only child as well but I still do activities with my family and this new year. I am trying to commit myself to going out a little bit more even if it is by myself I literally have one true friend here, so it’s hard because she has a child so I have to do some growing up

[Vinnygraphix]

Thing is i have been by my self 99% of my life so how can i get out and fit in society without having social skills not knowing what to talk about with people

[Justneedtokno]

@Vinnygraphix if you didn’t develop social skills back then you can always develop them now most people talk about current events and whatever celebrity is popular or whatever or trending if you have social media or the news it’s easy to just see these things if you like books, there’s places for that go to the places you are interested in and try it out. If someone comes to you and sparks a conversation with you best thing you can do is smile and say hi and see what they’re talking about then add to it. Trust me I get it. I have social like anxiety sometimes because , I’m not sure what to say or am I actually able to have the conversation but you’re their input what you want

[SweetTwistedSatanist]

Living Life

LIVIN LAAFFF

[Songomatic]

At age 52 probably senior living or go play bingo.

[coachTanthony]

I’m out here boxing fools and knocking them out

[Damcky]

Women, please let us know.

[robocop666]

you dont

[Bklynbadboy12]

Church lol

[Slim57]

In person