Does dating a single mother ever work?

[SamLopez1111]

Just curious before I get into this does dating a single mother work out long term I get there are exceptions to every rule but in my personal life I’ve never seen it really workout.

Yes

No

[PrettyPriya]

Well, I cannot speak from experience, but I can see how it could be tough to really get into a good relationship with a single mom (or dad for that matter). I can only take some guesses why it doesn't work out for single moms specifically.

One, she is likely busy with kids. She is alone and without the other part of the team to help on a daily basis. I am not going to discuss why someone got divorced and how that affects family dynamic. I am purely pointing out why it could be hard to get into a relationship with a single parent.

Outside of the extra time she has to put into it, there is also the very good chance she has her guard up around her kids. Introducing someone new (in a dating sense) to kids cannot be an easy thing, especially if the kids are very young. She doesn't want to have them get attached and then find out things don't work with the person she is dating/getting to know.

Last thing I can think of is time. That has a lot to do with the first two things mentioned. She probably doesn't have a lot of time and it might be a while before she is comfortable having someone around her kid (s). So that limits how much she can be out, pay someone to watch the kids and go on a date.

I am sure there are many other reasons. Point is, if you have no luck with single moms, don't date them then.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't know personally.

My cousin is a single mother. Her baby's daddy and her cheated on each other from what I heard. They are no longer together. She started dating a married man (not sure if he's divorced). I don't know how young she was when she started dating him. She's 26 now and he's 42. I think it's creepy because he has a son that's her age. I think he has 3 kids in total. My cousin has 1. He bought my cousin a house and a nose job. My cousin doesn't really take care of her kid... she leaves him with her mom most of the time. And the guy sometimes brings his kids to the parties they throw. My cousin and him have broken up like 3 or 4 times already. My cousin's grandma told us the guy has houses in other states. So I think when they get in fights he stays there. Her grandma told us that the reason they are not on good terms right now because my cousin wants to get married and have another kid. I think he doesn't truly love my cousin but just bought the house so he could have somewhere to sleep with her.

[Opinion Owner]

Tbh I think he's going to go back to his wife. I think his wife still loves him.

[Chazmatazz269]

The problem with dating single mothers is kind of a catch twenty-two. If she’s a good parent, you will never be a priority to her. The kids will always come first. If you’re kool with that, no problemo. If she prioritizes you over her kids though… now you’re the reason she’s a negligent or abusive parent. If you’re kool with that, take a long walk off a short cliff. Ell oh ell!
If you fall into the first group, you can’t be a priority to her until her kids are a priority to you. There are some important trust boundaries involved in getting to that point. Once you do, instant family! Ell oh ell!

[Anonymous]

Dating a single parent isn't right for everyone and it isn't something to enter into lightly. No matter how much chemistry you share or how much you both value your relationship, there will be times when the kids interrupt, take precedence over your relationship, and require the devoted attention of their parent.

Dating a single mom is different because she will need to ensure her children are adequately cared for before focusing her attention on a potential mate. There are a lot of things that need to be taken care of for the children daily.

[SamLopez1111]

Is it safe to say that if you date a single mother you will not be "first priority" or even that the relationship itself won't be "first priority"

[jennifer_bloom]

A single mother is less likely to get drunk or sleep around. She won't complain you did not buy her caviar and steak for lunch and she won't demand you lose weight if you slack off at your fitness goals. She will act like you're a hero if you buy her groceries when its your turn to pay. She won't judge you by whether you wore puma or nike.

[PinkRose24]

There's nothing wrong with staying in shape.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

But they're also more likely to be the one to cause his husband's disappearance.

[coachTanthony]

Most guys will say no and to be honest the odds aren't good. I only have personal experiences with friends who did make it work. So if you love her then go for it.

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you seriously think that, in the history of our species, every attempt at dating a single mother failed?

[Guy13]

If you are ready to be an Insta Daddy and she has vision of popping out some more 👶 👶 then why not.

[milkov]

I'm very close to these two single mothers, one who's got a teenage child and another got a little child.

They both ended up having a successful relationship to this date. Both of their partners got no children and those men accepted the child of the woman very much like their own child.

The mother with little child got church and legal marriage with her boyfriend without a child. Now they're expecting a baby.

The mother with a teenage child just got civil marriage with her boyfriend who got no child and they have 2 children of their own.

Both are very happy with their lives, regardless of being a single mother once.

So I guess it worked for them. Majority of my facebook friends who are single mothers have a good dating relationship.

Though I know 1 single mom (my classmate) who doesn't have a boyfriend.

[milkov]

Dating a single mother is good for men who are ready to take responsibilities even before being a father. Because a child is already given.

Dating for a single mom is also good for them, since they have someone to be a father figure to their child and to help them with some things necessary.

[Ligerzzero]

If you are ok with not being a priority in her life, you will also half to put her and her kids needs over yours and go out of you way to do what they need, and you still have a high chance of her dumping you if she finds someone who makes more money, or who looks better.

But if her kids are older and out of school then you have a better chance to date and it be more of a relationship.

[Pegases]

I dated a woman with a kid a few years ago, and when the relationship was clearly over, I convinced myself that I could make it work for the kid. Thus, knowing how hard it was to pull myself away from a kid that I loved, I'll never date a single mom again, nor would I recommend it.

[hypojoe]

I dated a single mother who had a 5 year old daughter and her and her mom and i lived together til she was 18 and i helped raise her her mom and I are still friends and I just got done working on her daughters car I think as long as you can get along with her kids then yes

[RockyHammock]

From my experience, no. Single moms have too much baggage.

- You likely won't ever be the priority.

- Her Ex who you know slept with her in the past will actively communicate with her.

- everything you do includes a third wheeler (kid)

My advice, stay away.

[SpokenTruth]

The things that would bother me with single mother's are for one adultery. Would she be divorced and or would her husband still be alive? Then would come the question would she be faithful? Those questions and all the risks to men that are involved with society and all being against men. Children themselves would never have been a problem I love children and would have loved to have them.

[Anonymous]

depends what you mean by "work". Been dating a single mom I met off hinge for a few months now. We don't go on dates we just meet at her place for whatever kinda sex I want. She tried to get me to babysit her kid one time but told her I wasn't here for that and ignored her for a few days before she apologized and asked me to come over so she could make it up to me. So it can work great depending on what you want

[Adam1978]

Define work? Your resources will be drain to support her family while you get less attention and less opportunity to actually date. You won't get the best deal out of that, but it's up to decide if it's enough for you.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but the odds are not in the guys favor. I mean think about it. She's already had one failed relationship that produced the kid. And that's if she only has 1. I would be suspect with any single mom. And if she has multiple kids from multiple men then that's a definite NO.

[LiamJHayden]

I'm sure it does sometimes. I've seen it work when she is single by widowhood. Maybe it worked because she was single through no fault of her own and the young daughters were not from random dudes. Also no crazy ex lurking.

[Apple1996]

I've seen lots of people make it work including my own parents

[Kelly6]

so you had stepdad?

[Apple1996]

@Kelly6 nah like my dad dated my mom even tho she was single with a bunch of kids. I'm the only child my parents have together

[Kelly6]

got it.

[Kelly6]

even though nothing wrong with step parent.

[genericname85]

sure it does work out for some people. though why would you get into that shit? if you love her like crazy, i guess it's worth a shot. but i wouldn't intentionally go for it.

[JamesDiaz11]

Does it EVER work, sure. Does it usually work? No.

[lightbulb27]

I've seen more than one work out... at older ages.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

I've seen a few work quite well. Two ended in marriages (one couple is still married, the other one passed away), and a few are still couples just not married.

[Twalli]

It's not easy and it's extremely stressful. I would always feel like her kid has to like me as much or more than his mother does because if I am with her, I am in contact with her kid a lot.