I’m trying to get out there and date after taking some years to work on myself. The overall biggest thing I’ve always struggled with is approaching women I’m interested in and then, if the initial interaction goes well, finding a balance between showing enough interest and coming on too strong.
I am an INFJ personality and I desire intimacy so I often seem too overly interested without meaning to. And of course, I’ve become aware of that and in the effort to not be that way I tend to show too little interest. I can’t seem to find that balanced, middle ground of showing just enough interest to not come off as creepy on the one side or disinterested on the other.
Any tips on how I can show women the appropriate amount of interest?
I am an INFJ personality and I desire intimacy so I often seem too overly interested without meaning to. And of course, I’ve become aware of that and in the effort to not be that way I tend to show too little interest. I can’t seem to find that balanced, middle ground of showing just enough interest to not come off as creepy on the one side or disinterested on the other.
Any tips on how I can show women the appropriate amount of interest?
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My definition of a balanced guy or girl is somebody with a sense of context and acceptable rules. He uses his facial expressions and not his fist to apply pressure to causes important to him, he considers my happiness and not only his if we decide to break up or separate for career growth, he does not over-emphasize or under-emphasize my importance in his life or in relation to his goals and interests.
I’m an infj too and it’s true I scare people easy lol. And I don’t mean too. Sometimes I’m told “breath it’s ok why do you worry it will be ok?” And I’m there sitting with best perfect blood pressure feeling chill indeed wondering why do I appear so stressed. It turned out due to some personality tests I’m an INFJ to make it worse combined with Pisces in horoscope lol I can make it worser my life number path is 6🥺❤️🩹
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Sorry I have no answer all I can say is that you haven’t found her yet. When you find whoever is meant for you things are going to flow like water. So all I can say is keep doing what you are doing.. don’t change anything that’s hard to do right it’s easy to stay and do as you are and you will find her.
Meanwhile try to ask friends and family if they can vouch for you if they know a good girl you never know haha look anywhere too
Online is a good option too
Thank you. It sucks being a “unicorn” of personality type. Most often the advice I get is that I need to change X, Y or Z about myself to “fit in” with the other types. And that feels false and inauthentic.
Right now, there is one woman I know who I have my eye on and everyone I’ve spoken to about her says I should definitely ask her out. She’s the inspiration for this question because I’m genuinely interested in her and don’t want to scare her off like others in the past. This one checks off nearly every box I have for a potential wife and possibly mother.