For a bit of context, we are both 26, in our first relationship, and we met on hinge in June 2022; we made things official in August, and things are going great for us. My boyfriend was also internationally adopted at age 2 and mentioned this to me on our second date, and his parents are very much old-school Catholics according to him.
I first met his mom in October 2022 during one of his recreational hockey games, and we chatted a bit. At this time, I also met his brother, and during that first meeting, I felt as if they were a bit apprehensive of me; my boyfriend was immensely annoyed at his mom for how she had introduced herself.
The second time I saw his mom was during another of his recreational hockey games back in December, and this time, she was a bit more friendly; we chatted, and she even shared her blanket with me as I was a bit cold.
They had kindly invited me over to their home for Christmas this past holiday season, so I attended their brunch and dinner. During this time, I noticed the dynamic lol between his parents, as they seemed to argue back and forth, his dad called a woman on tv stupid as she had placed her shoes in a bathtub on an HGTV show, and then his dad was telling his mom, she drove like a woman lol, it was all this weird gender/misogynistic tone the entire time and honestly lots of bickering.
So the atmosphere was honestly so weird, and then his dad just sat in their second living room watching TV the entire time and didn't interact. They got me lovely Christmas gifts, but the vibe was so weird and very cold, even between his parents, his brother, and my boyfriend; they all seemed to open their presents, but no hugs and so forth, it was very transactional. So when we left and got back to my boyfriend's home it felt as if the warmness and love came back lol.
Anyhow i'm new to the dating scene and we are inter racial, is this usual among families when you first meet them?
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It sounds like they are very protective of their adopted son. And, they are aware that it is his first girlfriend. You can't expect them to warm up to you anytime soon... even if they ever do.
It is likely that they ever do especially if you are not Christian or even Catholic. If not, then basically they see you as the enemy. You have to figure out how to get along with them though !!
Maybe they are just cold people and they treat everyone like that?