Are men intimidated to date female pilots?

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Female student pilot here working my butt off to live independently and put myself through training. I am actually currently working in aviation for an airline and pursuing a commercial pilot's license (CPL). The goal is to become an ATP (airline transport pilot) for a legacy airline like the one I work for. And I'm single. Annnnnd I find that, while men are intrigued at first, many will make snarky comments to me about aviation (even when they have no association with this field) to try to quiz me/school me in an area I am very educated in and they only have a cereal box-level knowledge of. Either that or they warn me that it's dangerous (LOL!) when, in fact, I have trained so hard just so that it is quite safe when I am in the cockpit (I am licensed to fly certain kinds of aircraft in general aviation already.) It's so unattractive and it happens all the time and I lose interest soooo fast. What is up with this behavior? Are they intimidated? Somehow I feel like they'd respect me more if I said I were a stewardess.

jim_moriarty · Accepted Answer

Why don't you stay being independent, why do you need a man? Men don't want women who act like you. It's not because we are "intimidated" we just don't want you. We don't care about your career or salary or height. We care about how attractive you are , how sweet and feminine you are, your age etc. We have different needs and wants.

Eg: There are plenty of passport bros in west who choose women from third world countries who don't have any education or job. Can a woman do the same?, absolutely no. For women poor men are considered very low value men and it's very hard for them to get any women.

Because women want men they could look upto, however strong and independent they say they are women want someone they could depend on mentally, financially, emotionally and physically. Thats why its very easy for rich men to get young women and Harder for poor men to get any women.

But for women its different, It's easy for an attractive women below 25 years to get plenty of high value men. But as they deteriorate in value m. So it's Harder for older women (however salary they have) to find suitable men.

Men and women have different preference, different needs and wants

msc545 · Accepted Answer

I've also had a lot of flight training but not had the problems you are describing - but I'm a guy which is probably the difference. The guys that are bothering you about this are probably feeling a bit threatened by the whole thing and compensating for it by behaving as if they know more than you do - not people you would probably want to be involved with at all. On the other hand - it's a good BS detector and will probably keep you away from trouble., so there is that.

Maybe date other pilots?

TrueConfection · Accepted Answer

Female pilots aren't new or shocking anymore. Pilots are sent all over the place and it's not easy to have a relationship with someone who's away. Pilots can't chat on the phone while in their office and they are catching up on sleep in a hotel when they're not in the office. That hotel room is shared by the way, so there's no privacy. Starting a relationship with someone on the go is difficult too. I think a female truck driver would have more time for her family.

I think there it's ac sense of arrogance with all pilots. "I'm a pilot. What's your superpower?" It's not sexy from men and most men don't find that sexy in women.

kylee2437 · Accepted Answer

I don’t think they are intimidated by the job itself, but the fact that you strive on being independent can definitely be an issue. Men like to feel useful in women’s lives and you have to give them a reason to stick around

Avicenna · Answer

Having known a couple of people who worked in aviation, I've heard plenty about the promiscuity that is rife in it. That would turn most guys off, as well as your work schedule and your job's geographic requirements.

dkintheusa · Answer

I’ve been dating a pilot for a while, and your post hits on something she has gone through more than once. It’s not that men are intimidated by aviation itself. Most of them are insecure… especially when they’re suddenly faced with a woman whose career is driven, demanding, and often comes first. And honestly, that’s fair. Her dream matters, and any man who dates a pilot has to be able to handle being at least tied for the number-one spot in her life… and maybe, one day, earning that place outright. After all, if you care about someone, you should be able to adjust and support her dream - a dream that came before any man entered the picture.

What I’ve learned is that the schedule isn’t actually the challenge. The real challenge is emotional maturity for both the pilot and the partner. When a woman is living her purpose, away at unpredictable times, surrounded by other (mostly men) pilots, working in a field built on competence and pressure, it takes a guy with real confidence and real trust to show up as a partner rather than a source of doubt. Most men don’t struggle because she’s a pilot. They struggle because her ambition exposes the gaps in their own self-worth.

For us, communication is everything. Quality time matters even more because we’re both successful in demanding fields. We value each other not just for the roles we hold, but for the passion and discipline we bring to our work. We share hobbies, we give each other space to grow, and we can talk about what we love without needing to compete.

And yes, the thoughts creep in sometimes. The worry about being second, the moments of wondering what’s happening when we’re apart — but that’s normal in any serious relationship. Ultimately, what anchors us isn’t that she’s a pilot. I’m proud of her for being a PIC and living her dream. But I’m honored that the person she is, the integrity she carries, and the trust we’ve built ultimately led her to choosing me. I trust she feels the same.

Anonymous · Answer

Some women may think that their job level intimidates a man but often it's the traits and masculine energy they adopt due to the job role that does it (often this happens invisibly).

You said 'I feel like they'd respect me more if I said I were a stewardess.'

Only if being a stewardess would demand less masculine traits to succeed at doing than being a pilot would. Ultimately anything that brings more masculine energy, traits, beliefs, actions or movement in any way to a female, will diminish her dating options. The longer this goes on, the less dating options she will have. Therefore ask yourself whether your job demands you adapt / adopt more masculine energy / traits in order to succeed.

Anonymous · Answer

Trust me men aren’t intimidated by this at all. It could be a number of things. First of all you said you’re training to be a pilot to be independent, so that’s a turn off right there. No man wants a girl w that type of mentality. Two a majority of men aren’t interested really in your career or how much money you make. Sounds shitty but yes most men don’t care how much money you make. Third most men know a girl in this field, or a doctor, CEO, high type positions, aren’t going to have much time for him so more than likely they won’t go for a female pilot. Fourth, it could just be their ego thinking as a man they know more than you, which they may not.

Anonymous · Answer

Why do women always use "intimidation" as an excuse when they have bad luck with men? Has it never occurred to them it might be something else?

Put yourself in a man's shoes and consider what it would be like for him being married to and having a family with a commercial pilot. What would daily life look like for that family? What would it be like for the kids? And for the husband?

You need to understand that men and women are inherently different. They want different things from a mate.

Personally I would never be happy in that scenario. I'm not intimidated by it any more than I'm intimidated by a cloudy day, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't choose a sunny day every time.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Your personality might be a bit domineering; I've noticed that airline pilots tend to have rather brash personalities.

In general, women need to get out of this mindset that they are intimidating men. It is a very rare thing when a woman intimidates a man. Most of the time, when a woman thinks she's intimidating men, she's really just being a pain to deal with.

Unfortunately, being a pain to deal with isn't quite the flex that being intimidating would be.

Anonymous · Answer

I wish people would stop thinking men are intimidated by women who have certain jobs or are career driven. It's not intimidation. It's a matter of priorities. Most men are looking for a life partner / wife, and we know that women like that are less likely to be good wives and mothers to our children.

@kylee2437 also made a good point about men and what keeps us happy and fulfilled in a relationship over the long term.

But in any case, it's not intimidation. We just want a woman who will be a good mate and mother to our children, and we want to feel needed just like women do. And regardless of all the rhetoric about gender equality, men and women are and always will be different and have different priorities.

Don't let any of that stop you from being who you want to be, just be realistic about the implications of your choices to your options with men.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Former airline pilot here (regionals). Female pilots are too manly, end up getting fucked a lot on overnights, and tend to be very shitty wives and mothers. The airlines are not a good career for women who want families.

As for being "intimidated", no, it's just female pilots are often lesbians or otherwise overly manly.

melssvdv · Answer

How can the stronger and more powerful (men) be intimidated by the weaker and less powerful (us women)? Stop trying to push your feminist agenda with a subtle message that men need women more just because you are upset cause reality shows otherwise. Equality and feminism are nothing but false promises.

WaterIsland · Answer

So lame and immature by them. For me tho, absolutely not. Also, good for you! Flying is super fun. ✈️

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

A pilot is a pilot & as long as you know how to fly a plane that is all that counts.

inhua · Answer

you're claiming to be independent. men are simply respecting your wish to be independent. has nothing to do with intimidation.

Bricealan · Answer

I respect women who fly, and I know what it takes to get a Single-Engine-Land ticket, and I know how much money I paid and the training I took to get it.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

I would think that’s super cool because it’s a TitanFall 2 reference and is just cool. That’d actually would ALSO be a reference to my second movie because it has transformers that turn into jets

Slay256 · Answer

only men who are intimidated by that are weak men tbh. I don’t really care what profession you do as long as you have pride in what you do i respect you.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

It's a demanding job that often keeps you away. It's probably just as hard to date or keep a relationship with an airline stewardess.

cootjuhh · Answer

I don't know any female pilot to be honest. but i think in general every girl must have her job she wants to have. even if she wanna be rockstar or figther pilot. or ballerina or what else.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Nothing wrong with being a pilot. Go for it! I wish you the best success. 💪

AngryCarl2 · Answer

If by intimidated you mean not going to bother, then yes.

Iron_Man · Answer

No, that’s interesting. My dad was a captain of the airlines commercial.

Anonymous · Answer

I can't see why that would be.

exitseven · Answer

I think it would be hot to date one.

Anonymous · Answer

As long as I don't have to fly with her.

In_Trance · Answer

Nope

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