Are men often intimidated by women with more relationship experience than them?

[MoonFace2]

[Finchie40]

It’s possible , if he doesn’t have that much experience in relationships, he might assume she isn’t capable of settling down with just one guy , he might assume she is a cheater and can’t be trusted , and assume she is the reason all her previous relationships failed to begin with. People that have high track records of getting around , are usually less trusted than someone that doesn’t have a high track record. It’s just the way it is , it just stems down to that person’s own personal experiences and what they choose to do , You can’t expect a virgin to accept you , if you been around the block a few times. People that had multiple relationships are better off finding someone that had multiple relationships as well. It doesn’t have to be equal but at least you both experienced failed relationships compared to someone that hasn’t experienced much at all

[Anonymous]

Women are all so scary.

[MoonFace2]

How?

[Opinion Owner]

They have more social power than me and they can call you names and it can ruin your reputation if you are not careful.

When I used to be in high school years ago I was really nice a girl, treated her kindly and loved being her friend, but at one point she thought I was getting too friendly with her and she reported me to teacher and I got in trouble and was told to leave her alone. I felt so betrayed and hurt. I was naive at that age, so I left my lesson early.

I stop talking to her and kept my distance. Later she said she was sorry about what she did and to enjoy my holiday. I can she felt about what she did because I didn't mean any harm. At least she realize her mistake there women that will fuck over a guy never apologize for it and act like it was fault for it.

They are scary because they don't realize how much damage they can do to someone because It's not physical pain, but it's emotional scars that makes you cautions around them. It's the same reason why some guys are scared to approach women. I haven't had a situation like that again in my life because I try to keep a distance and don't let women in so easily. I never get too comfortable around them.

[MoonFace2]

That sounds awful. I’m sorry you went through that.

[Nikki1989]

Negative experiences in past relationships can make a man feel insecure or anxious. Some men are truly hopeless at bouncing back after a bad experience.

[mandyfire98]

Some are, you see it all the time. If they even get a hint that a woman has more experience than they do, they lose their minds.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach who dives into the heart-fluttering world of lovebombing and ghosting, I've seen men feel a tad intimidated if they haven't mastered the relationship game. But fear not! It's often more about insecurity or the fear of not measuring up in the romantic realm. Charm your experienced selves and build them up; that dynamic can become quite spicy! 😉 It's all about connection, not competition.

[Apple1996]

Men definitely are because they know experinced women won't put up with their games

[MrOracle]

Why do women think men are intimidated by them? We aren't. Well, okay, there are some really shy guys, and some soy-boy simps who probably are, but for these few, just being a woman is enough.

What women NEVER want to hear or acknowledge is that "experience" makes women LESS VALUABLE as a relationship partner.

Just like women have a long list of things they want and expect from a man because they find those things valuable, and THEY get to decide what they value. Well, it works the same for men - WE get to choose what we find valuable in women.

Men value things in women like:

• Youth (fertility)
• Chastity (inexperience/low body count)
• Loyalty
• Femininity
• Cooperation
• Friendliness (positive attitude)

"Experience" is the exact opposite of what we find valuable. What you see as "experience", men see as "trauma", "baggage", and "unrealistic expectations." When women date a man, and he was tall, but was missing several other desired traits, and had several red flags, she wants her next man to be tall AND have more of those traits and fewer problems. So the next guy is tall, and he's fit, but he's not as handsome, doesn't make great money, and doesn't give her much attention. The next guy isn't as tall, or as fit, but he's more handsome. The next guy isn't so tall, or so fit, or so handsome, but he makes great money. The next guy isn't those things, but pays her more attention. But every time she experiences a positive trait, she starts expecting that trait in the future, plus all the other good traits, all in the same man - but that man doesn't exist. And the more experience she has, the higher her standards are - while at the same time, the LOWER her value is to the next man, and the next, and the next.

Men start the game of adulthood at zero, and they must work hard and build their value - with very few exceptions, nothing comes for free for a man. Women, on the other hand, start the game at 100 - but they can only go DOWN in value from there, and the longer they wait, and the more "experience" they have, the lower their value goes. Women's relationship value can't be improved by things like education, degrees, careers, or income, because those aren't the things men value - those are the things women value in men.

No one is telling women what they can or can't do, but there are consequences to the choices you make, and women with more "experience" are going to be seen as less valuable by men - especially the men they want. The time for a woman to get the best man she can ever get is when she is young and inexperienced, when her value is highest. She can wait longer if she wants, but at the cost of having less value to use to attract men, and thus decreasing her odds of getting the man she wants as time goes on. Youth is women's superpower, and time and "experience" is their Kryptonite.

[MoonFace2]

I respect your opinion. At the same time, I personally think it depends on each person as an individual as to where they rate on the desirability scale. Not entirely just their gender. Other things, like intelligence and kindness matter to the right people, as much as good looks will. I’m not entirely disagreeing with you that men prize youth and virginity, even while they‘re often happy to help give these experienced women their reputations. I think that this is because all men are a little bit sexist. How you have to give them the idea that they’re the ones chasing you, otherwise they think you’re desperate. That’s my opinion. I do actually like and respect a lot of very good men very much. Some who prize virginity, others who don’t. But I still think all men show traits of sexism.

[MoonFace2]

Even the very best and most admirable of men.

[MrOracle]

It's not sexism, it's simply that men and women are different, and have different priorities and desires, just as we have different advantages and liabilities. It's not sexism to recognize these differences, any more than it is sexism to acknowledge that men tend to be better had hard labor and women tend to be better at nurturing. It's just simply true that, generally, these differences exist. It's Feminism that has taught you to see this as sexism, but it's simple reality.

[MoonFace2]

It’s my personal opinion, however, I don’t entirely disagree with you that we’re just different 😊

[MrOracle]

The thing is: there's nothing wrong with being different, and in fact, I very much enjoy the differences! We both have advantages, and we both have disadvantages - they're just different from one another.

[MoonFace2]

So do I 😊. I do know some very good men

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

@MrOracle yep, what you said shoukd be a no-brainer. The thing is nowadays we have tons of weak fatherless perverted simps giving OF and p-hub content creators/304s/thots money for getting that “experience”z. And the attention they get on instagram tinder and tok are greater than actresses on the 1960s or queens of ancient times. Women in their 20s have Goddess status if they dress slutty and post selfies even if they are average looking.

[MoonFace2]

@Oncewildtwiceburned it makes you wonder what the world is coming to, doesn’t it? 😊

[buzzword]

That's a strong indicator that you are bad at relationships and have failed to keep men in your past happy and earn their trust and loyalty. If you were any good, then you would have landed a good man that is committed to you. It's one thing if people are young and uncommitted, it's an entirely different ballpark when you've tried to maintain long term relationships and repeatedly failed. It means that there is likely something very wrong with you that centers around selfishness, narcissism, and an unwillingness to compromising, apologize, etc. That's a red flag. It's not a good thing that makes you superior and intimidating. It's something to be weary of and to keep you at arms length and not get attached to. So you might be seen as a short term fling, but committing to someone like that takes a lot more investigation I guess you could say...

[MoonFace2]

I respect your view but being more experienced doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. It sounds like you’re making excuses and finding red flags to justify a deep seated hatred of women that comes from fear; and possibly baggage of your own.

[buzzword]

Eh look at that, there's the narcissism I expected. Ding ding. Winner winner chicken dinner. That was an easy one.

[BlessedBlend94]

That makes sense and in a lot of cases is probably true. In my experience tho, sometimes it's that a traumatic experience in a girl's life teaches her that abuse is love. So she chases abusive men until she finally finds a man who is all man inside and out and treats her extremely well. Then she finally learns what love is.

And all the while she was and is extremely loyal, extremely pleasant, very respectful, and just generally values the true man she finally found

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

When I was 17 yes, it was intimidating, because I was inexperienced AND because I thought experience had an objective, measurable value of some sort. It has value, but not a measurable one at all, entirely subjective.

I do look closely at HOW these experiences affected her, that is the most important part, because it means her perceptions are going to be projected onto me a certain way. Positive? Then no problem, if negative perceptions then... I need this precious information to understand how I am perceived :)

[genericname85]

i have a counter question. there's a plethora of respectable and relatable reasons for one person not to choos with another person right? why is "intimidation" the one women always gravitate towards when asking this type of question? is it that they have some deep set insecurity which they are trying to cover by making it the other genders weakness and gaslight them into thinking "not wanting them is not ok"?

[genericname85]

not to choose to be with anther person**

[MoonFace2]

Not in my case. I’m bored, I spend a lot of my time reflecting on a lot of things and I enjoy having discussions about numerous topics, to improve my understanding of others.

[MoonFace2]

If someone doesn’t want me, that’s fair enough. Unless they try to keep me as their plan B. Which has happened too many times to count.

[MoonFace2]

Why so defensive? Are you afraid of women’s sexuality, or your own?

[genericname85]

well if you wanna improve understanding, start with empathy. what are reasons a man may not want to be with that woman you're describing. try to come up with something that lets them shine in a good light. nobody wants to be the "intimidated" person. that's weak and negatively associated. find something good. you'll get better answers that way.

so my answer to your question is: in sociology we have a huge library of solid research and statistics about most aspects of especially heterosexual relationships and families. and it seems to be the case that the more previous partners (especially sexual partners) a person had, the less likely they are to end up in a stable long term relationship. So if you're looking for that, it's the more logical and reasonable choice to look for someone who had not been in many relationships with other partners before you.

[MoonFace2]

Okay, fair comment 😊👍

[genericname85]

"Why so defensive? Are you afraid of women’s sexuality, or your own?" i just read this after my last reply. why so toxic? why try to gaslight others? like i guess that actually works with stupid people but man this sentence just oozes with vitriol and aggressiveness. I don't know if you're aware of that or if that's just what you're used to communication wise but i really can not reccomend this sort of communication if what you're looking for is a pleasant, fruitfull conversation or discussion.

[MoonFace2]

Well, I didn’t get why my question was answered with an attack. So naturally I wondered what it was that made my curiosity into gaslighting men who aren’t into me?

[MoonFace2]

Frankly, I get a bit sick of men with baggage jumping to conclusions about every woman, including the good ones, when we’re just here asking questions.

[MoonFace2]

Some wacko jumped down my throat and when I politely disagreed with him, he called me a narcissist and blocked me before I could comment. I was going to tell him I’ve been tested twice for all personality disorders and didn’t have narcissism.

[genericname85]

well your question WAS an attack. i was trying to reflect that to you because i was assuming you're unaware of it to help you avoid negative responses. because communication goes both ways right and what we sow is what we reap. so take a really close look at what you're sowing.

everyone has baggage and everyone has their own ways of deciding what's a good partner and what's a bad one. i don't see the problem here.

[MoonFace2]

No, you interpreted it as an attack, when it was just a question.

[MoonFace2]

Because you didn’t like the question

[genericname85]

what would have been "just a question" is the following: "why are men not typically choosing to be with a woman with more relationship experience" that's neutral and explorative. you already assumed men are intimidated. you lead the question making men shine in a negative light. your question wasn't neutral and that's not a matter of my feelings or opinions, cause words have meanings we mutualy understand.

[genericname85]

look i'm calling out what you're doing. and i'm giving you the saving grace of being unaware. just take it. don't turn yourself into an asshole xD

[MoonFace2]

I don’t have time for political correctness.

[MoonFace2]

Anyway, it’s just a question. I’m genuinely surprised that I offended you. An attack was not my intention.

[genericname85]

oh. if i didn't have time for political correctness, my answer would have been "men just don't like sluts". but hey. at least i'm doing my best.

[MoonFace2]

Yet they’re happy to sow their wild oats.

[genericname85]

yeah but my point was, that i was intentionally being offensive here. of course you're not stupid and considering our conversation you could clearly see what i was doing so you knew i wasn't trying to be mean spirited, i was trying to show my point. people reading your question don't have that advantage. they gotta see what you asked at face value and that face value is that you choise to portray men negatively right from the getgo. again. that's not my poor insceucre interpretation. that's what words mean and you're doing the exact same thing again that you're doing in the initial question, which is gaslighting people into thinking their opinion isn't ok. which is exactly the thing i'm trying to make you aware of all this time.

[MoonFace2]

No actually I saw your comment as an attempt to get a rise out of me. Because you didn’t like my question.

[genericname85]

anyway. i'll mute this question, cause everything that needed to be said has been said.

[Christian_Cartier]

It's interesting. I think what you're saying is true, it is hypocritical for men to place a higher value on chaste women, but then sleep around themselves. But from my experience women don't really care too much about how many women their man has slept with (some do, but not most). They care more about it feeling unfair that men can get away with it. Men, on the other hand, care about it greatly. Ask just about any man and it will be in their top three things their looking for in a partner. Because the male/female cultural values are different, women are (in a way) permitting men to do it.

[Berethor]

I possible, it might even make them masculine, but to me it more about them being dirty.

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/No_Guy_Wants_an_Amazon

[Miristheiss]

I would say no. Grossed out maybe. More apt to treat her like a temporary fling but not anyone to marry and have kids with.

The simps who try to relationship up promiscuous women, those that try to make a housewife out of a hoe, they probably are bothered by it but are too weak to just end it and try for something better.

by the way, "experienced"? You mean loose or promiscuous.

[nolabels]

Yeah, that happens.

Often?
I wouldn't know.

I've been there.
That's all I know on the subject.

I don't think that guys go around talking to other guys about being intimidated by the women in their lives, if you know what I mean.

[MisterWack]

Nope, I don’t care.

I’m currently with my girlfriend and she had more experience in the dating sphere than me though I wouldn’t care even if it was 100 to 1 difference since we love each other & that is all that matters to me & both of us.

[UnusualWeirdo]

Guess it depends, intimidated by a girl who has slept with lots of guys, yes, a girl who has been in good relationships and knows what's she wants, no.

[MoonFace2]

Interesting 😊

[HighValue]

"Intimidated" is just a bs term that low quality women use when they don't want to be held accountable for their poor life decisions.

Either she has bad morals and did casual sex/friends with benefits/ons, or she isn't intelligent and doesn't learn from mistakes if she has too many experiences.

[Anonymous]

Intimidated would suggest that more relationship experience is ONLY a positive thing.

This can work against a woman just as much as it works for her.

A person with a lot of relationship experience could be much more adept at compromise and communication. But they could also be just as adept at manipulation and exploitation.

So I would use the term "WARY", not intimidated. Intimidation suggests that men are some how scared. Smart men are cautious.

[BlessedBlend94]

Often times yes. It depends on the man AND on how the woman treats his lack of experience. Does she value and honor him for it? Does she treat him as a king and value his focus on building himself first? Or does she belittle and degrade his lack of experience?

[BlessedBlend94]

As long as she is respectful to him about it, values him, and doesn't compare him to past partners, then I think any mature man would have no problem in that situation.

[BlessedBlend94]

My very best relationship was with a woman who had been with many men amd a couple women before me. I had dated half a dozen women before her, but was a virgin. If I had been a little more emotionally mature at the time, we would be married right now.

She knew exactly how to respect a man. She knew how to please a man. And she had been with so many assholes that she now understood the value of a high quality man. She recognized the man she had and she knew how to make him happy. And in my case I loved that she kept her "sluttiness" all to me. When we went out on dates she would wear a full length beautiful dress and we would parade the town as king and queen. Then when it was just us, we would explore all our wild desires, with just her and I.

[Lynx122]

I'm not as long as I don't get the feeling they want to use something against me. But I was not a fast bloomer so I pretty much can only date women with more experience than me at this point.

[ArrowheadSW]

I think in college, I was somewhat intimidated by women with more relationship experience. I did a lot of dating but my actual relationship experience was limited.

[lorenzomichael]

No. We just call them Hoes. I think if a girl has been with 6 guys that’s too fuckin much.

[MoonFace2]

Are you a virgin yourself?

[lorenzomichael]

Sorry to disappoint you honey but I lost my virginity before I was 25 years old. But then again the way I look and my personality I couldn’t blame the chick who took it.🤣🤣

[lorenzomichael]

Correction 15 years old

[MoonFace2]

I rest my case 😊

[Shamalien]

any sentence beginning with “are men intimidated by women” needs to be changed to “are men disgusted and repulsed by women”

Like “are men intimidated by women who do sex work” girl no, we are holding back the puke

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't call it intimidating but it's definitely a personal hassle for me. I don't have a relationship or sexual experience and on dates so far I have seen that women with more, tend to brag about their lavish past adventures or just downright look down on you.

[Billlewis]

I'm intimidated by women, period, regardless of what her experience or any other attributes may be, and that's how it should be, in my opinion.

[superchan2011]

I personally wouldn't be intimated by a woman with more relationship experience than me as long as she's loyal and will be fully committed to me.

[jshm2]

No. But the issues can be around crazy exs, or dealing with a girl that has commitment issues. If not a straight up gold digger

[Cripplingkingship]

Yes because, she might not like me because I am not experienced. But not the fact she is experienced in bed or a relationship.

Also because I hear a lot of women, don't like men with no experience. How true this is, I don't know.

[Fireguy17]

Nope, I like someone with experience.
They know what they want and aren't shy about asking for it.

[bowenw]

I believe that is true because we are worried she is comparing us to guys she has known before, even if she doesn't say anything.

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe at my age. Probably not so much at yours.

[Anonymous]

i'm always intimidated by hot girls, and they usually have more experience than me, cause I've got none.

[MoonFace2]

Naww, don’t worry, you’ll get there.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you, I hope so.

[Ironco]

I'm not, you can learn new things from them.

I never did care about "body counts" either.

We all have a past, just have fun in the present.

[elizamichale1]

When it comes to having a relationship with them... then yes otherwise no

[dsrice071966]

I would think that I would be. I would be nervous if I was good enough.

[MoonFace2]

I’m sure you’d be good enough. You seem attractive and like an honest, grounded sort of person.

[dsrice071966]

Thank you, I don't consider myself attractive,

[MoonFace2]

I think you worry too much. Am I right? 😊

[dsrice071966]

I don't think so, but you may be right

[OfDeath]

No, intimidating is the wrong word. Men generally prefer a partner with less previous sexual partners.

[Pete671]

I;m intimidated but also find it exciting, in that she will probably find my size rather small,,,

[grega239]

No one is intimidated. Just stop.

And no one wants to wife a hoe

[Sonora]

I wouldn't see why. If she likes you and you like her, what difference does it make?

[Crazzyyworld]

Men imagine women as innocent pure cute cuddly thing. Anything break their imagination is run away

[Wiredone]

It doesn't bother me if she's more experienced. Nothing intimidates me.

[Wise4myage]

I think guys who are really shy would feel intimidated by women who are more experienced.

[LiamJHayden]

If I personally did I would not be into older women.

[Nerdvana]

I am not, I actually prefer for her to have relationship experience.

[kaucky1]

If the woman knows it's not her fault getting wrong guys

[SunnyRS]

Not really, I like it actually it shows their confidence and I love confident women.

[Anonymous]

Lmao no, we aren't INTIMEDATED. "more relationship experience" = more baggage which is a red flag, a big red flag

[justabuddy]

It depends more on the type of experience then the quantity. If agirl shows a habbit of unhealthy behavior, it may not be worth the investment.

[Anonymous]

Do you really mean "relationship experience" or do you mean "body count?"

[BruceJender]

What do you mean by 'relationship experience'?

Sleeping around with 50+ men does not constitute 'relationship experience'. That's being a ho.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Not intimidated, sickened.

[Catguy92]

I don't think so but maybe some are.

[noohair]

They have more experience inflicting pain.

[jack1924]

Whiney bitchs are, not men

[MasterKS]

No, i love more experienced once.

[robocop666]

nope all I care about is how they look

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think so.

[Phoenix98]

Nope.

[In_Trance]

Not really

[DtMe89]

Yeah

[AmeerX]

Not really.

[plundo]

Nah i dont think so

[eagle1951]

not really

[Jmmmfi4]

YEAH