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Why do people think dating was easier in the 90s-early 2000s? (Page 2)
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I was not around at the time, but I think it was harder, finding some and commuincating and all that mY have been much harder for pepole
Also we mostly hear from pepole that did meet and grow then pepole that did not that will give a morr biased look to pepole did it easier then even of not true and likely was about. the same just diffrent way
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Over all I think it was harder or the same to how its today just different
Too many guys are flooding women with texts, swipes, pickup lines. They are all using the “knock on 100 doors and one may open”. This causes women to becomes jaded, put off, confused, inflated self worth, beyond picky… a great guy who can’t get noticed is out of luck. I know a great guy who was recommended by a girlfriend of another girl at a wedding event. She immediately blew him off by having him get a drink for her while she disappeared. No one would have done that in the 1990s.
I think the dating apps ruined dating to a degree. Back then it was just funner to meet the conventional way and if you liked the lady, you'd just start dating. Now with the apps, there are all of these pre-conceived ideas of what the "perfect mate" should be.
I was alive then and I think it is easier to date now with all the tools available. But so many people just appear to be lazier or looking for excuses. Now that I think about it. Maybe the issue is that it is too easy. I think so many people feel that they don't have to actually work at being social. It just comes naturally or something.
I grew up and went through nearly all of my schooling in the Midwest. I think I personally felt that individuals were more approachable in the area where I lived. Nearly all of my friends met somebody in person, as did I. No proliferation of online dating or social media at the time.
When I started dating around 2001-2, it was millennial girls and they still had some sense of class and ambition, at least where I grew up. Gen z'er women today are impatient, want instant gratification, live their lives on the phone and in social media, and tend to be way more self-centered. They care more about how many genders there are, what pronouns they want to be called by, and what's in it for me than they do about finding something meaningful to do, or have, be it alone or with another person. Yeah, I know, that's a broad generalization and it's not true about ALL of them, but it sure fits a LOT of them in my experience.
I agree but I think a lot of what you said about gen z applies to some millennials as well. I’m in the same age bracket and I think the millennial girls you mentioned are not like this and tend to be more like gen x. I personally think anyone born before 86-ish should be considered late x-ers
@silvermoon84 Whatever label goes on them, in my neighborhood they were as I described. I guess I was lucky that I didn't choose a lot of "bad" women when I dated. They were all decent people and wanted different things in life, but they didn't expect it to be handed to them, and they had good hearts. Looking back, there are so many good women I could have chosen to be with and likely been very happy and loved, and loved them too.
I believe that the comparison between today's appointments and those of 20-30 years ago is similar to the comparison that can be made in other aspects of life. Today there are tools that allow us to do things much more easily. However, the current social order and popular culture lead people to be increasingly lonely and have many insecurities that were not common before.
It was easier cause the internet didn't get in the way and people were more willing to spend time and learn each others values. Dating now is mostly bidding for attention. No one chooses each other anymore instead we've become slaves to always searching for something or someone "better".
I was alive then, and it was a bit harder to meet someone then.
Where do you meet someone, going to a bar?
There was video dating, before computers, that was ok, but now with sites like eHarmony, It's just lunch, Silver singles, it is easier to find someone.
The whole world is opened up to you, you are matched more with people that share common interests with each other.
It was probably easier still in the 80s, 70s. 60s, and a dream in the 1950s and 1940s. As the relationship between men and women gets more and more complicated the art of dating becomes less and less fruitful.
Well back then women didn’t have rights so I don’t think it was a dream
Women had as many rights back then as they do today. They didn't have as many expectations or financial requirements to do everything by themselfs.
It’s cause of how easy it is for both men and women to cheat now due to everyone having the access to do it in their pocket. Literally. A person in a relationship could easily just go on a dating app and see who’s dtf that happens to live close to them.
We didn’t have this back then
In the 90s you were only competing with people imediately around you, not literally the entire world.
These days you see someone you like and think, hmm, they only live 300 miles away from me, it might be possible to have a relationship with this person; I'll see what the status of their face is.
I was alive, and a teen in the late 90's. Tech wasn't as advanced. It was STILL very difficult. It was different. In some ways easier, some ways more difficult.
I was never really good at it, and wasn't good with girls anyway. I was friendly, I could talk to them if they bothered... but not in a sexy/attractive way.
There was no social apps or dating apps. People met through real life. So yes in a way was. Felt more real. Now dating apps full of ghosts, or people that aren't interested in youm women have way too many choices , while men don't. Best way to meet for women for me as. A school or through Friends.
Because social media wasn’t really a thing , people actually valued each other more instead of constantly being compared , people were more content with their lives over being selfish and think grass is greener
The internet has messed it all up.
Well, technically, it is not the internet that messed it up, as it is just technology. It is we who actually messed it all up.
Unnecessary data is fed to us, just messing us up even more.
What the hell? When I first clicked on this question the screen went white and there was a scene from 10 Things I Hate About You. Then it went back to being a black background and no pic? Another G@G Glitch?
Because you physically were there in the moment, and HAD to have game, to score or more.
None of this "Google me some pickup lines, and memes to post on Tinder" bullshit, that is weakening kiddo dating these days.
it was hard for me, I was a lame horse.
I think it was easier when people lived in communities and didn't ahve unlimited global options with disconnected technology.
Dating apps, the creation of new ideologies, the world being a more fucked up place now where people lack trust with each other. From young women adamantly saying their careers mean more, they are stronger than men/guys to people marrying trees or identifying as some hybrid animal. It’s just a messed up time. I think guys back in the day were more creative and I think young women were more willing to marry. Times have changed.