was on a blind date, met him for the first time, he seemed shy and nervous, but I tried to make him feel easy and made myself look casual, I asked him a bunch of questions like 'what's your favorite food? or 'hobbies' etc etc, but he seemed to answer everything with a 'no'... at the end of a conversation he hinted about having kids, but I didn't notice I cause it was something I just didn't think about since I was meeting him for the very first time...
Did this guy just not like me?
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Well, it's difficult to say really. Because being shy and nervous on a blind date seems pretty natural, plus, he could certainly be of a nervous disposition generally.
So someone seeming shy or nervous, or not being able to carry a conversation very well doesn't necessarily mean someone just doesn't like you.
On the other hand, it certainly CAN be an indication that someone doesn't like you. It's really something only you can judge because you saw all the nuances of how everything went down.
Wait... what do you mean he hinted about having kids? I just re-read that and stopped-short. You mean... that he hinted that he ALREADY HAS kids... right? Not... hinted about... kids with YOU..(I'm assuming/hoping).
If it's the already has kids one, then don't worry about it. He's an awkward motherfucker (at least he was that day) It's not on you to have asked about it or anything.
How did the date end? Was there any talk of seeing each other again? Or "I had a great time" or anything like that? How did you leave things? Also... do you like him? It sounds like you kinda had to work hard to make the date as successful as it was. Did he impress you enough that you would even want to see him again?
he didn seem to have any sort of attraction towards me, but only hinted he wanted kids...
didn't.*
Oh ok, I understand the kids thing then. I was worried you meant he hinted about WANTING kids.
Well, if he didn't seem into you, then I think that you're probably in the best position to judge that. And that's entirely possible. I mean, that's definitely a chance you take when you go on a blind date. There isn't necessarily going to be ANYTHING there between you two.
After all, you didn't choose each other, you agreed to go on a date with SOMEONE. The odds that you're into that someone are about the same as the odds you're into anyone (like someone off the street. Anybody).
So to tell you the truth, it wouldn't really surprise me if he wasn't into you. Not because there's anything wrong with you, but because of the nature of a blind date.
On a regular date, two people have to be into each other enough to agree to go on the date in the first place. Which gives it a much better chance of both people being into each other. They started out that way. A blind date doesn't. It's "taking a chance and hoping that the person happens to be someone you're into".
So it's hard for me to try and tell you that he was into you (without knowing more about what happened, and having some reason for thinking so).
At the same time... I think you need to be realistic about how you react to that fact.
I'll ask you again... were you even all that into HIM? Did YOU enjoy yourself? Do YOU like this guy. Do YOU hope for a second date? Do YOU see potential here?
Because, I understand that it might feel shitty to have someone randomly not be into you. But... unless YOU like the guy, then... it doesn't much matter. In fact the feeling would be reciprocal.
That doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with either of you. It just means that you weren't a good fit for each other. That's nothing you should be too bummed out about. You're not a good fit for most people. Neither is he. That's why you haven't found the right person yet. Most guys aren't right for you. Most girls aren't right for him. It's not a huge surprise that you didn't happen to be right for each other.
But where are YOU coming from? How do you feel about him?
he just didn't interreact friendly at all... he was pushy and distant
Alright, so it does sound like maybe he just didn't like you. He sounds like he wasn't anything you were overly excited about either. So, just... let it go as an unsuccessful blind date. That's all it is. It means nothing more than that.
he would revert if he have liked talking to u
revert?