Anyone else in their mid 20s and concerned they won't meet someone before 40?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[Anonymous]

I don’t know I keep writing this sentence at gag often.. but
It’s not mandatory for you to get married and even have kids or do both. What’s mandatory for you is to feel happy and die happy. If happiness for you is to be with someone is a must for you and also have kids then go ahead. Don’t be stupid and set you crazy boundaries too. Also you have to compromise.. yea you read it well compromise.
You can’t always be right , you acne key as have exactly what you want , you can’t always get anything you want.
If you are happy single no kids then that’s great too. I’m not your soul I can’t make you get married etc.

I see some comment here too are so silly like yeah I’m 28 but my alarms clock as in giving birth is going
low etc. This is wrong voicing it your body is listening to what you are saying. Also this thought is very old fashioned already you have to upgrade your brain iOS to 2023.
Why.. Do you know that women at 20 sometimes can’t even give birth they are infertile. My aunt was married at 19 she is 58 now and no kids she was infertile etc so she gave up.
My mom gave birth at me at 42 and here I am looking like a snack. Plenty of women give birth to late 30s. And it’s extremely normal.

[Asker]

" here I am looking like a snack..." LOL, good humour

[Watson2010]

Please I bet you look better then a 21 year old.

[WonderBell99]

I love this lol. This was actually encouraging AND your humor is top notch.

[Sasha0426]

I hate the fact that society wants us to panic if we don’t find someone. Like, why can’t we live and enjoy life? And then maybe somewhere down the road meet someone. Everyone is in such a rush to find someone and that’s all they’re focused on. No one focuses on themselves.

[FilmGuy93]

Nah... I was somewhat concerned about that at your age, but not anymore. I broke up with my ex when I was 27-28, and I was pretty uncomfortable with the dating scene after that. I just turned 30, and now life is basically looking good in that department.

The woman I'm quasi with now made it very clear that she was scared of not finding someone when we had our first date, but it's so obvious that her outlook on life has changed since she met me.

For better or worse, she's very much attached to me.

[Watson2010]

You are old. A 21 year old men is better then you!

[Sasha0426]

@Watson2010 You’re 31. Talk about old 😂

[Apple1996]

@Watson2010 omg you don't have to be mean like that. 30 isn't even that old yet. I agree a 21 year old is better dating wise but that doesn't mean 30 is old or not worthy of dating

[FilmGuy93]

@Watson2010 and anyway, I'll have you know that I was recently told I don't look my age! lol

[Elij1234]

For a man dating in your thirties isn’t all that bad. If you took care of yourself up until that point you might still look like in your mid twenties.

[lightbulb27]

I was like tha, and broke down crying at one point, other times rejected girls and ran from some, and just gave up.

In hindsight, the dark cloud was of my own making...

I'm not saying it's true of everyone, just realize you may be finding people and they have problems, and takes time to work them out.

[Raaj4you]

I regret that I hated girls in school and college. I was completely focused on my career. If I compare myself to others I had less interest in dating and marriages. Though I am not a gay, I am a straight man I was attracted to few beautiful girls in school and college. But I was scared and shy to talk to them. I am a full grown man now, I have gained a sudden interest in dating and marriages. But I am not attracted to Indian girls anymore. I am attracted to white blonde girls. They appear so special to me, When I see them, I feel like I should really start dating, marry and create a family. Men, Women, love, sex are god's beautiful creation. So don't delay dating.

[Asker]

Luckily for you, men can actually seem more appealing to women as they age! They come across more mature, worldly, established, and confident. If you're 30, you have plenty of time to find your perfect blonde match :)

[Raaj4you]

😊☺️but when?

[Valso]

You just described my whole life, basically - ever since I was 22. And I won't meet anyone ever, mostly bc they're all gold diggers and I don't trust them enough. I did meet someone 15-16 years ago, but she WAS a gold digger, so that doesn't count.

[MoniqueTLC]

I'm 28 and I'm pretty sure my body clock's alarm is going off, LOL.

[FilmGuy93]

I've known a few women like that! Y'all get to a certain age, and building a nest just becomes a top priority.

[RandomGuy1030]

And then u read history and all the sluts ur age were put to the sword whenever warriors came through. No one wants u

[MoniqueTLC]

@FilmGuy93 Hahaha I wouldn't say it's a priority but I've definitely reached that point when you feel 'ready' to meet someone you know?

[Haha456]

even if you do meet someone, don't be surprised if you end up single at 40. just because you met someone earlier in life, it doesn't mean you will be married forever. half of all marriages end in divorce.

[Chazmatazz269]

Don’t worry. You most likely won’t really know yourself and what you need in a life partner until then anyway. Just don’t disrespect yourself or your potentials in the meantime.

[Apple1996]

I got lucky and married young but I definitely feel for those that are lost in the dating world and worried about not finding someone. It must be rough 😕

[DizzyDesii]

Nah its easy to meet people. Hard to want to stay with people. I’m more worried about conceiving before 30.

[catiecatie]

I’m not going to lie I’m scared! I like this one guy and I hope he comes around but I can’t wait forever too! It sucks!

[BCRanger10]

I did at one point, earlier in my 20s. I had a lot of confidence issues and didn't have any ways to meet anyone.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'm mid 30s and still waiting to meet a match.

[JinRavage]

Try being in your thirties while never being on a date.

[XHopelessRomanticX]

I’m only 29, I’ll start worrying when I’m 39.

[Babygirl_S]

I would if I were living in a Western country. I am grateful to live in India where I have doctors and lawyers interested in me. I will certainly be married before the age of 30.

[RobEdelman]

I go back and forth on this one. I’m relatively confident that I’d be a great partner and make my woman feel very special, but I’ve also been burned enough to not want to feel that pain again.

[Luckycharms12]

Nope don't worry about the future. i live for this moment of course better yourself. But people think to much about past or the future only thing you can control is the here and now.

[Anonymous]

uh 15 years from now? thats a LONG time... don't think too hard about it. it'll obviously happen.

[Anonymous]

No. I know once I look I'll find it pretty fast. It's pretty easy to find someone if you try.

[Asker]

Find someone where?

[Opinion Owner]

Anywhere. The problem with a lot people is they need the perfect opportunity to consider someone. People are everywhere from the moment you step out of your house and the moment you enter the internet. Love is not rocket science. This is how it works:

There is a Law of Mating and it states how well you do in mating depends on a few things. Law is just something that is always true.
1. The demand for what you offer (whatever that is kindness, love, romance, abuse etc)
2. The quality of what you offer (a lot of people are offering sex but it's not all the same)
3. The difficulty there is in replacing you (Do you think Rihanna is easily replaceable? No)

Just worry about #2 and you'll be fine.
Lastly, you have to be seen. Especially the inside if you're not that attractive physically.
People only wants things they are aware of and usually only go after what they believe they can have.

[itsalyssaagain]

In my mid-20s and I’m not concerned I won’t meet someone before my 40s lol

[KostasKouvalis]

I just started my 30s and I'm starting to get concerned about it

[NostalgiaSenpi]

I'm in my early thirties and feel the same way.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

I’m concerned that Noura wouldn’t be with me until a very long time.

[RandomGuy1030]

Who exactly are you trying to meet? A prince? That fantasy that you're a princess isn't serving you well

[Anonymous]

More like I'm afraid I won't be able to meet my boyfriend before 40, but I'm trying my best to make things happen :'(

[LonelyAndBig]

You never had a boyfriend or first love?

[Opinion Owner]

@LonelyAndBig I have a boyfriend right now, I just can't see him right now due to personal circumstances

[Djaay]

Jeez... Feminism sure did a number on all the women.

[captain_voidwalker]

Not realy I just learned to like being alone and the concern went away.

[TheAfrikan]

I know I have too and I will so no panic for me.

[Anonymous]

I was convinced I would be single for the rest of my life at 26. But I was wrong.

[TrillXHippy]

Not gonna say too much and embarrass myself

[Anonymous]

It does weigh on me.

[Jamie05rhs]

You should be. I didn't take it seriously enough.

[boggboss]

Nope

[Asker]

Maybe it's different for women given that their fertility declines around 30-35 lol

[boggboss]

Sure it does but plenty of women still get pregnant in that frame and later

[Asker]

That is true! But still concerning if she desires multiple children..

[boggboss]

I would say people tend to make it more concerning then its really is to be honest

[Asker]

Yes, definitely. You sound like a relaxed, laid-back kind of person!

[boggboss]

Yeah I am no point adding stress to your life on factors u don't yourself control there was a lady at my workplace that was convinced she couldn't get pregnant was in her early 40s late 30s paid for multiple rounds of IUI which failed gave up on getting pregnant then one day had drunk sex with her partner and got pregnant

[Asker]

Totally, we cannot control when or who we meet or whether a relationship will form... And wow! That is a happy (and kind of funny) story! haha