If I don't find someone by 30, is it safe to assume I likely never will?

[Anonymous]

All my former friends are married, just about all with kids, some multiple. I am turning 29 this weekend and never even had a girlfriend. I am really bummed about it.

I am really not interested in women with kids or divorced women. I am really wanting a woman where we can be each other's first real relationship. I feel I am just about out of time. I feel before long, I will be lucky to find a woman without kids, and of course, women who are in their early 20s will see me as "old".

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[Anonymous]

Well generally the best women are all married of by 25 my man. So while it's still possible after 25, you definitely dealing with the 2nd tier at that point. I do find your unwillingness to compromise on her being divorced and or having children concerning. Not because I don't understand where you're coming from. But because you're limiting yourself greatly. Odds are by 30 she's been one of these. And you need to consider the thought that if she's been married that she was at least willing to make a commitment to someone. So it's not necessarily a negative. The best advice I can give to you is after 25, take your time! Take all the time in the world to make the right decision. Don't let her rush you. She put herself in this position not you.

[Asker]

Why don't I just aim for a woman under 25? I just don't want to take on the baggage of her having kids from a previous relationship and the fact her own kids will be her priority. I don't believe in divorce, so no on that too. It is hard enough to even accept her having a serious boyfriend before, much less kids.

[Opinion Owner]

Women are human man. They do stupid things some women have to learn the hard way. Some occasionally go as far to marry a sleezeball before they put it together that he's a sleezeball. And some even have a kid or two before they figure it out.
I said take your time vetting her. No, I wouldn't want to marry a woman with a child either. I didn't say just give her pass on this. She's the one who f***ed up. She has to EARN you. She's the one who put herself in the less desirable group. It's now her job to work her way out of it. Again I didn't say give her a pass on this. Don't waste a MINUTE on a woman that doesn't see how this makes her a gamble to a man.
But I'm not going to throw away a good woman just because she's made a mistake or two in life. You don't have to do this. But you're severely limiting yourself by not doing it.

[Drumlin2001]

I was a very late bloomer, nothing till I was 35. I then had short relationship, dated someone else then met my now fiancé (we have two kids).
You can meet someone anytime in life, you just have to be proactive and work on yourself

[sheikalana]

It doesn't mean you will never find someone but chances to find someone after your 30s won't be as easy especially if you're a woman.

[Lyndsielee666]

I dunno. I met mine at 29 and I turned 31 today. Granted I do have kids but it’s possible to find someone 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Asker]

That is the concern. The concern will move from finding a woman that has never had a boyfriend to finding a woman that has never had kids

[BourbonAndBacon]

I had no problem dating women in their late 20s who didn't have kids and I'm a lot older than you. Be someone that a good woman would want to date and they will date you. You attract what you are.