Looking back, does it sound like I was high maintenance with the last guy I saw?

[Anonymous]

28F, I’ve been single for 5 years. I dated someone briefly for a few months when I was 23 & I felt like I was settling with him which is why I’m glad things ended. He knew he was the first guy I steadily saw but wasn’t romantic with me, he knew what I expected on Valentine’s Day (the cliche stuff). Instead he takes us out to dinner & while he did take pay for most things/paid to take me on a cruise for his bday vacation I just felt like he wasn’t into me enough. That’s one example but he was too eager to have sex (wasn’t willing to wait for marriage) & that was another turn off. I’ve been single since bc I’d rather be alone vs feel I’m with someone mediocre. I am convinced I’m going to end up alone considering no one better has come around since

Yes

No

[Finchie40]

Most people Live with the mindset that they want their cake and want to eat it to , I wouldn’t consider you high maintenance I would just consider you someone that really sticks to their preferences, sometimes holding on to preferences a 100 percent can make you a selfish person , meaning my way or no way personality and sadly having that mindset isn’t going to get you far in a relationship, Relationships are about giving and receiving, You can’t expect to Constantly receive without giving in return and vice versa, for Love to grow between 2 people you have to remove your inner selfishness and give back to someone that is giving to you , understanding it can’t just be your way or no way , if you live with that mindset , you will never last in a relationship, because the other person is going to feel like you only care about yourself , what most girls don’t realize is guys want sex from a girl that he adores , sex to him is a gift , No guy is going to spend a lot of money on a girl for nothing in return , he is spending money on her to show he appreciates her and values her , when she doesn’t return the favor of giving him intimacy and affection he feels used , that’s why he left you and met another girl , A girl that knows how to give and receive , When girls have the selfish mindset of it’s my way or no way , me me me , She isn’t going to last very long in a relationship cuz she is only thinking of herself. So again you shouldn’t expect things to be given to you without giving back in return

[Orion76]

Did you ask for any of that? Probably not if the guy does things, pay for things as a way of showing affection or appreciation or whatever reason that doesn’t mean you are high maintenance. In a way we all end up alone at some point but you are still young you never know what’s coming for you.
Good luck

[Orion76]

Thank you

[Orion76]

Nvm lol

[ShiftingMonke]

I agree that you did sound- both then and now- high maintenance. But I am glad that he has likely moved on and probably found someone more in line with what he wants.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't matter, you made your choice and now you live with it for better or worse, that is life.

It is not fair to yourself to judge the choices you make with hindsight.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes, unfortunately. Most girls like you are great people but you just don't understand the difference between having standards and being impossible to please. Sorry; just my opinion!

[Anonymous]

Not enough information to make that determination. Also it's not really CLEAR what your criteria is for a "NON-Mediocre" guy is. So it's not really clear whether you're just smart or whether you're being ridiculous.

[Luckycharms12]

You are watching to much movies. Im real life doesn't work like that it's about give and take you go on about this guy what he didn't do. What did you do that was so great and perfect

[Adogdog]

I don't think you sound high maintenance. I am 27 and single!