Should I leave his life gradually and silently, or just cut him off and block him?

[Anonymous]

A guy I've been dating has been playing me for 4 months. I feel embarrassed and a fool. The life lesson l have learned:don't ignore your gut or ignore red flags.

[Guy13]

I like to follow the hard and fast "No Contact" rule myself. Block everything and have no pint of access. Clearly this was intentional and designed to hurt you. He knew what he was doing and he will get his one day. Others will respect you more if you go no contact with this guy otherwise you look weak and needy. Good luck with it all !!

[Asker]

Thank you very much

[Asker]

Looking back , without the rose colored tinted glasses on, I can see clearly he did set out to hurt me.

[Guy13]

Yeah, people can be cruel and it sucks we can never fully enjoy one another without attending to every little thing said and done. It is like wtf sometimes with the frustration. trust

[ShiftingMonke]

Both; block him and delete everything associated with him with zero fanfare and fuss. Its the easiest and best way to begin the healing process.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Gradually fast, talk to him and say its over and then end it. I suggest you do that, rather than risk turning him into a stalker if he has unanswered questions he insists on getting answers too.

Make it clear why and then be gone.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Hard to say because I don't really know your situation. I would say the cut him off and block him option though. Metaphor-wise, imagine you just got waxed because you decided to get the full Brazilian option. But the check decided to quit and now you have to rip it off yourself. You can do it quick and just get it over with... or... You can do it nice and slow and start to wonder why you're even alive.

Also, I second the "don't ignore your gut or ignore red flags." Always trust your gut feelings about what is going on. Every time I've second-guessed myself, I just end up feeling stupid for it later... because I was always right.

[D_Bone_Steak]

*chick
Spell correct must've made it check... But I guess it could've been some check chick 😂

[Asker]

Yeah she here. I ignored my better judgement and I'll never ignore it again. I blame myself for the hurt I feel for ignoring signs that he was lying , manipulating me and not genuine with me.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Don't worry... most of us end up learning the hard way. Some never learn... don't be like them. They walk right into bad situations over and over.

[OfMiceandMen]

I look at it as... life is short. I would not be doing the person or myself any favors staying in a relationship that is dead.

Best to cut if off sooner rather than later and just be honest with him and yourself.

[SnowedIn]

No. Be adult about it and just say "we're done". If they persist in contacting you, then you can block them.

[WhitneySnow]

If you’re sure he’s playing you just cut him off. But unless you actually feel in danger at least tell him why first.

[awkwardddgirl]

I think I need more context but I think no contact is better or else you will end up getting hurt. Staying in a bad relationship is worse than being single

[Fireguy17]

cut him off and move on.
You know what the final outcome will be already, so just move on and quit wasting your time.

[abc3643]

In this case, a block is warranted.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Neither Talk To him to end it

[douride2]

Cut him off & block him.

[Jamie05rhs]

Block him and put him on blast.

[eksekskes]

Healing starts when you feel in your safety zone.

[LazerBean]

Cut him off.

[Anonymous]

Just walk away.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Cut it off.

[In_Trance]

Cut him off