Why do some people take advantage of good people?

[cth2188]

Do you think for selfish reasons? And why do they expect good people to deal with them?

I won't be giving a second chance to someone who couldn't see the value in me when they had me the first time. These people will not have access to me again.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

People often mistake niceness and agreeability with kindness. The thing is, kindness is not always nice. In fact, the type of kindness that many people need may not be nice or feel very good at all.

Kindness can look like being honest with a person about the terrible actions that they’re making, the bad way they are treating themselves, or mistakes that need to be called out. Kindness done may not be nice, but it is done with love and care for the person, even if it’s ugly. That is, so long as it’s not disrespectful.

“You’re an idiot for doing that” isn’t kind. “You made a bad decision by doing XYZ” is. However, some stubborn and hard-headed people out there (like myself) prefer the first version. Raw, blunt, and brutal.

But nice people? Agreeable people? People with rougher personalities just look at them as doormats to be walked over because most of the time, they are. Rougher people don’t respect others who are too nice and agreeable because they are viewed inconsequentially. Like, what are you going to do about it? Cry?

And if any of this reads like I’m a total assh0le, allow me to assure you, dear reader, I was for a very long time. It took almost two years for me to pull my head out of my backside and realize I shouldn’t treat soft people with disrespect or avoid them altogether just because they’re soft. But, unfortunately, that’s how the people in my world treated each other, so that’s how I treated other people. And if you got chewed up, it was your own fault for being weak.

But is that right? Is that just? No. It’s bullsh*t that destructive people use to justify their bad choices and actions.

Solution: Learn when to be nice and agreeable and when to be an assh0le. Never do anything for anybody with an expectation of what you can get out of it. If you’re going to do something for somebody, do it because you want to do it, not because you feel bad for them. If a manipulative person knows they can make you feel bad, they know they can play you like an instrument. All they have to do is make you feel bad, play on your desire to be a good person, and get you to do what they want you to do.

[Sunssong]

I think a lot of people are forced or conditioned by their environments to be abrasive and cold. A lot of faulty thinking.

[cth2188]

Being selfish is an ego thing this is why I'm guarded nowadays

[cth2188]

Fumbling peoples hurt to get what you want

[cth2188]

Heart ❤️ why I don't give my time or energy to people now

[cth2188]

Noone is selfish to be a pos

[Juxtapose]

Sociopaths simply don't care and will use you like an object as long as they can get away with it.