I slept with a guy at work and sort of have feelings for him, he’s ghosting me a bit and I have to see him at work?

[Anonymous]

So me and this guy hit it off at a few work parties and got on really well at work, we went for drinks a few weeks ago and slept together, he said he’s not looking for anything super serious but never say never, we agreed to plan some stuff and hang out, I want to take it slowly too I just don’t want to be used. He’s been taking a long time to reply, and admits he’s an awful texter (this was the case before we met up anyway) and he’s back on dating sites, again we aren’t exclusive but it hurts! I have to see him and I don’t know how to act or what to do / say? I probably came across needy, however I never double texted him and let him have quite a bit of space, I’m just chatty (he knows this from real life) it all sucks!

[Guy13]

He saw... He "came... and He conquered.

That's good enough unless maybe she wants some friends with benefits arrangement. He obviously is not going to fraternize at work. He probably does not want anyone to get the wrong idea... that you two have a thing going.

[Finchie40]

He got what he was after , and now that he got you , he is on to the next , why you should never hook up with someone at work , , co workers are dangerous , they will become your best friend , tell you things you want to hear to make you feel good about yourself , slowly get to know you personally to get you into bed , then once they do they are done with you , I have witnessed and experienced this sort of thing unfold so many times between guys and girls , sadly more girls ‘ that were already in relationships with someone else cheating on their partners for a co worker thinking he understands me , he listens to me , becoming your best friend so he can stick his dick into you , well hopefully you learned from this to never do that shit again

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Just play it cool for a couple weeks. He probably doesn't want other people in the office to catch on. People are nosey af and small things will make them take notice.

If you respect his privacy, that's your best chance at actually earning his respect.

[Bricealan]

Sex at work has always blown up in my face.

[mathew1543]

He just wanted to have sex with you and he did.

[Anonymous]

This is why you don't date people at work.