Third date fail, was I wrong to bring a friend?

[Anonymous]

So, i’ve met a guy on a dating app, when i saw him for the first time, i was not very attracted by his appearance, but by his photos on the app. He was a bit shy and he came visiting me to my city because, we are 1 hour apart. We enjoy our 1st date and we agreed for a second date. I ask him to come to my city, because i was not really ready and sure to go alone to meet him, it was great but i felt like i didn’t ask him a lot of questions. After that, i tried to come to his city, but i’ve canceled a lot on him before to come, because i’ve been hurt in the past by some online relationships and i felt like i need time since i lost a family member.

On the 3rd date, i decided to go visiting him and i brought a friend. We arrived almost 1 hour late with my friend we took the wrong train…During the date, i felt like he was a bit distant, my friend was talking way more than me Honestly, now i regret and feel immature to bring a friend. Because i found him very nice and serious. I don’t travel a lot by train, and he suggested me to take me at the train station and visiting the city on foot, which is very safe.

The next day after our 3rd date, i asked him, if it bother him that i bring a friend, he said to me, not really we didn’t have much conversation, and the distance started to upset him.

Now, it’s been almost 3 months, we didn’t talk to each other i try to move on, but it’s hard, because i was thinking he was maybe the right guy and we could have a great relationship. Sorry for my grammar mistake i’m not a native English speaker. Thank you in advance for your answer.

[Guy13]

There is not other way to say it than this: Get your past relationship issues behind you and stop letting it rule you Present. Those past men still control you till this day.

Secondly, the poor judgment of bringing a friend on a date, which you know is inappropriate, is a result of you not having settled your Past or being in control of your relational Present or Future.

[Lycirian]

I say forgot everything and learn from it. You are young but ask a guy if you can bring a friend with you and tell him why. You asked him after you decide yourself which says that you doesn't care about what he thinks or his opinion is on him.

And forget what was in the past. The only thing that is important is the future. Learn from the past but doesn't take it with you into your future.

[Anonymous]

yes, do not bring a friend on a date with someone and be an hour late to a date. just makes the guy think you're not interested. at all. plus he lives far away, you've only been on 3 dates. no loss here. just move on.

focus on yourself and healing yourself after the loss of your family member. and then try dating someone closer once you're ready.

[Asker]

Thank you for your answer, now i try to move on, we were not that much apart, i feel like i should have come alone, maybe it will work, Now i realize that my friend is not a good one. She seems a bit invasive, we cancel a lot on each other...

[Opinion Owner]

you'll be okay and find someone closer to you who will be a good match. and you'll find another friend who won't act invasive. remember to pick people carefully, you are letting them in to your life which can effect your mental health in a good way or a bad way

[FilmGuy93]

You definitely screwed that up. You have to work passed your old relationship baggage before you'll be able to have a healthy relationship.

[Iron_Man]

Yes it did and you should have told him plus you cancelled to much before

[Asker]

Yes, i've cancelled to much on him, because i was waiting someone to come with me, but i should have come alone, it was nothing to worry about, it was safe. I told him that, i'll bring a friend, at the last minute...

[In_Trance]

yes you were