Guys, what would go through your mind if a girl 30 years younger than you wanted to go out with you?

[Bethany22]

Would you be weirded out? Disgusted? Suspicious? Or would you actually not blink an eye and just start contemplating whether you are attracted to her and want to go out with her or not?

[OfMiceandMen]

If it were me, it would likely catch me by surprise (turn a bright shade of red) and be looking for the punch-line? However, if she was serious, I may consider it. As long as she was okay with just being friends at first and working on that part of the relationship.

In addition, I wouldn't want her wasting a lot of time on me, after all she would be much younger and I would be concerned she isn't doing things she wants/needs to at her age. I would not want to be holding her back in any way and regret spending time with me.

That being said, as long as the two of them get along and were happy, who cares what other people think. Life is too short to keep trying different relationships and not get anywhere, so if something real can evolve from two people with that age difference, I say let them try.

[OfMiceandMen]

Thanks.🙌

[CoffeeKiller]

Well, she wouldn't have born since I am under 30. But i get it if i was 50 and she was 20. What would go on in my mind is that is she a gold digger? What she sees in me that she can't see in other 20 year olds? Or is she joking? She has a dare to go out with oldest guy she can see in the club? Maybe its a short term attraction which will wane away soon. What would her parents think? What if I say yes and she laughs and says you wish old man or something of that sort?

Basically everything negative since its rare to fall in love with a 30 year older guy than you especially for girls who are having variety of options to choose from.

[OlderAndWiser]

Is this REALLY just a hpothetical question or is there an older guy who has gained your attention?

[Bethany22]

There is an older guy. And he may be around 68 as well :D

[OlderAndWiser]

I'm sorry, Bethany, but I am living with my girlfriend. :) :) :)

Seriously, if a young lady like you approached me and expressed interest, I would wonder if she was genunely interested or just one of those chicks with daddy issues. If I thought your interest was sincere, I would ask you for a date without having any great expectation, but I would give it a chance to see if we actually had enough common interests to keep a relationship going.

[Bethany22]

Thank you for your answer :D Thank you for giving me a chance on a date. It sounds like a fair process of elimination. I don't have daddy issues, I just happen to be around this guy a lot, and I haven't met someone around my age like him. If I had the choice, I would prefer a guy more my age. So maybe I'll wait a little while longer before confessing my interest, just to get to know him better.

[OlderAndWiser]

For most guys, having the attention of a younger woman is flattering, but most older guys know that the odds are that a relationship with that much age gap won't work. And we don't want to end up looking like an old fool.

[Bethany22]

Good to know :D

[OlderAndWiser]

Good luck if you decide to pursue that potential relationship.

[Avicenna]

I‘m thinking she wants a sugar daddy unless she shows otherwise. But I sometimes date women that age.

[Avicenna]

Most women that much younger than a guy will tell him right out they like much older guys so he knows she’s really interested

[TheorionMage]

I will be 72 this October, so per YOUR scenario she'd be 40-ish. I'm still somewhat 'spritely' but maturity offers an unhurried foreplay approach... wherein the journey is AT LEAST as 'pleasurable' as its conclusion and ENOUGH life experience to make it WORTH the journey!

One of my most cherished memories is when the seven yr old daughter of a close friend sweetly asked her mother if my 32 yr old self could "lay down and take a nap with her'. Lest you think she was SO naieve as to not understand her 'euphomism'. When her mother said: 'No'... the little girl then asked, if her mother could 'take a nap' with me. Left to their OWN natural inclinations, even pre-teen children actively seek tactile physical stimulation pleasuring cuddling borne from those with greater life experience.

Human animals learn but one of two ways: the immediacy of firsthand life experience or by visual or aural observation story-recounting which spurs their imaginative fantasies. Such are the roots of concupscient purient voyeurism of 'pornography' and Puritan-based society's stringent prohibitions of juvenile exposure to potentially-physical pleasuring~ "GOD forbid" that little ones cum and learn that physical intimacy CAN provide purposes that DO NOT a priori result in conception. That can be BOTH physically 'safe' and pleasuring. The Polynesian culture pre-missionary-conversion, celebrated their OWN version of 'first communion' of children typically at age seven. Read the documented sociological Huna studies of Maxwell Freedom Long among the Hawaiian geriatric generations: "The Secret Science Behind Miracles" ;)

[nolabels]

A few years ago, I was meeting professionally with a lovely young woman who was 36 years younger than myself.

I was undergoing a medical treatment a few times a week over several months.

She'd get me set up, then, as I was required to be monitored, we'd sit and talk.

I fell in love with her.

Love, not lust.

She indicated the same emotions. We were both already attached to others, so it wasn't to be for us.

If we both hadn't been attached already, I could have seen our relationship going somewhere.

It depends on who the person is, at any age.

[SCARRED]

hi

it would depend on lot's of things

i'm not a spring chicken now

I'm 65 and not in great shape, and not doing really lots of hiking beach trips. and would have to find someone with same likes and interests too. some one that i could love,

and trust and that my family would love too. have had a couple of relationships.

that did not workout rignt un-married no kids and i'm a dog uncle too.

no Golddiggers down to union members raised in a union family.

and like to vote the way i want too

[clampfan101]

As long as nothing sexual comes up, I see no reason to freak out in the least. Plus she’d be less than 10 years old. It’s not uncommon for kids to have little crushes on adults. If a little girl actually asked me out, I’d say something like "No, thank you. I’m way too old for someone your age." It would be embarrassing, but cute.

[StormChaser838]

that means she would be 13 years old, I mean that's not a question I can answer? No 13 year old child will ask a man of 43 to go out with her. Lets try 20 years. I always like to talk with my female companion, as a fellow person and if she is too small, even though she may be 18+ it may become a problem.

[RavVid]

I have to project into the future with an age gap that large! Minimum requirement at all times is that the girl is legal.

I don't think I would blink an eye on the fundamentals per se. Most likely I would think she needs some love and take a paternal attitude as though she was a daughter.

[mgall]

If she's a Western or American women, absolutely not, nor would I recommend them to any man except maybe guys like AOC"s sad little boyfriend. Otherwise no problem. Sorry to sound so down on them, I'm 65. I've seen way to much in my life to think otherwise.

[NathanDavis]

I'll get back to this question... in 30 or 40 years from now...

[abc3643]

That would be nice, but I'd think she's a bit looney and need to get her vision tested.
I also think she'd have a daddy fetish.

[AdithyaR]

Well considering my current age, this person wouldn't even exist.
But if suppose I'm 50 or 60 and a woman that young approached me I would definitely see red flags. My first thought would be why she isn't pursuing guys her own age and I'd be definitely creeped out.

[Phoenix98]

I Wouldn’t pay it any heed since she’d be one years old but I’d be impressed that she could form complete sentences at such a young age.

[Jerre]

If she was attractive to me, I would definitely want to take her out. I have dated girls 18 and up. I may be 51, but age is just a number. I can give them a good as time as any20-30 year old could.

[Jerre]

Thank you for the Like

[FunkyMonkee]

My biggest concern is, is she another gold digger?

[Anonymous]

Obviously that isn't possible right now but if I was much older, the thought "she might just be using me for access to money" might cross my mind but I wouldn't assume that's the case. I'd be more optimistic but aware of the possibilities. I'm more accepting if large age gap relationships (both ways) than most people, so I'm not of the opinion it's wrong or always just one person using the other for money or something.

[ShiftingMonke]

Definitely disgust, and I would avoid that person. Even if I was older, that age gap is gross.

[Lliam]

If I was single, I'd take her up on it. What the hell, why not? I believe in taking advantage of opportunities when they arise.

[Anonymous]

She's playing games. Young women do that with older men 😆😆😆 I never take advances by women under 30 seriously.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Most girls now days could be 30 years younger then me cause I just turned age 55 but it would be fine with me I like younger girls but legal age.