Why the rate of single men in the US looking for dates has declined?

[Anonymous]

Why are men in the US no longer asking women out?

[Anonymous]

Women and marriage simply don't offer enough benefit to men anymore to offset the risks and costs to them. That's really the bottom line.

I'm sure I'll get called an incel for saying that because incel has just become a term used to shame men who say anything negative about women's behavior.

In the meantime, western society is dying and we're not honest enough to acknowledge the reasons why. It's much more convenient to just complain about "misogyny" and the "manosphere" than to acknowledge and address the actual reasons why it's happening.

[coachTanthony]

Women want a traditional man but don't want to be traditional themselves. Guys are moving on with life.

[Anonymous]

As I've said before, "the juice isn't worth the squeeze". Men's desire is no less than it's ever been. But you have to give men a reason to seek it. The simple truth is so few women are worthy of it anymore. So many women want to get but not to give. In most cases it's just not worth it for a man anymore. Men have always existed to serve women. But in that women have always reciprocated with men. There's nothing wrong with equality. But feminism has given women a twisted view of reality. It has sold them the belief they can have it all. NO ONE can have it all! So now women not only hold men to and unrealistic at best, and impossible standard at worst. But they constantly remind men they are not needed. That she's a strong woman and can do it all by herself. And there's nothing wrong with being independent. But as I said from the beginning. It's always been a man's job to serve a woman. You eliminated a man's primary reason for finding partner. Guys are built for work. It's just who we are! So men have been FORCED to find a new role for themselves

[Anonymous]

In the past the path to happiness was getting married and having a family together. That was the goal for both men and women, and dating was a step in that direction. It was the reason people dated in the first place.

But marriage is no longer the "prize" for guys anymore. Marriage is a lot less appealing for guys for a lot of reasons. We are constantly told marriage is more beneficial for men than women, and married men are happier and healthier and live longer than single men. But we're not so blind we don't see what is actually happening around us. Sure, men (and women) in happy marriages are better off than single men, but more than half of marriages don't last, and many of the ones that do are not really happy. Many stay together for the sake of the children or for other reasons even though they are not happy. Also, many men in the single category have already had heir lives destroyed by divorce, which skews the results of any studies.

If you look at all those divorces you'll see that in the vast majority it is women who file for divorce. Many people still think it usually happens because the man is unfaithful, but studies show in almost half of those cases it was the woman who cheated. But society dismisses those with things like "he was not taking care of her emotional needs".

But infidelity is actually not the biggest reason for divorce. Lack of commitment is (Google it). What does it say that 80% of divorces are filed by women and lack of commitment is the number 1 reason? Women lose interest and are incentivized by a biased court system to end the marriage. That is the scenario in most cases today.

For all of those reasons, marriage is not something most men are willing to subject themselves to anymore, which means most of the motivation for them to date (and make something of themselves) is now gone.

[Anonymous]

I'm so glad I'm not single. It's all about the work the average guy has to put in to getting a date only to be turned down by thirty plus year old mother of 3

[Asker]

😂😂😂😂😂

[NewsReader]

In the 21st century, majority of women have become undesirable. Women are a liability rather than an asset. Why take yourself apart by getting with a woman when you can build yourself up by staying single?

[thorboy]

Women are just the worse. Too childish, immature, ego, fake and must be entertained 24/7.

Plus, do men really need a woman as a sidekick (no homo)? Everything that I have done and can does not require a sidekick. I find sex overrated. Conversations boring. If I need questions answered, I have the internet. If the ride home is too quiet, I play music.

I'm doing good. Most people in relationships live a horrible, life.

[LiamJHayden]

The exchange is no longer seen as equitable.

Men used to trade financial fidelity for sexual fidelity. New Rolls Royce price for a New Rolls Royce.

Now in many cases men are asked to pay New Rolls Royce price for a rusted out Yugo with 500,000 miles on it.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

At the moment, I feel it necessary to tend more to my own needs. I've been melancholic about being alone, rather than seeing it as a opportunity to treat myself well. I also don't see the point in looking any more, all I ever had in response was no.

[virtual_girl]

Working on yourself, upskilling and developing healthy coping mechanisms is an underrated use of your time 👍

[OfMiceandMen]

I think the rate of mental illnesses such as anxiety and depression is at an all time high and a lot of males and females, need to work on their own self well being.

[KrakenAttackin]

@OfMiceandMen. This may be true but it is not the issue being addressed. Men have stopped looking to date because modern women have become monsters. With the list of demands women have for a man, women are more like dating terrorists.

Even homely land whales think they are "10's" who deserve a top tier guy. We are living in absurd times and men are finally realizing their own mental health is better served sans women.

[OfMiceandMen]

@KrakenAttackin I don't think that is entirely accurate, there maybe a small percentage of women that think this way, however, it is mostly men's fear of rejection, it being easier not put themselves out there, and the drama sometimes being associated with relationships. Much easier to take the path of least resistance and much easier to blame that on modern women.

[KrakenAttackin]

@OfMiceandMen. I disagree. You may not realize what young women have become but they are very different from our day.

There is a brutal war on men and anything masculine. Men are called toxic just for being male, are told they are expendable, replaceable, Interchangeable, and otherwise just a commodity. Men have finally received the message that marriage and family represent more danger than pleasure. This is why so many young men are dropping out and simply pursuing their own dreams. It makes perfect sense to me , but the consequences to society are just beginning. History will reflect back to when we let women run things and realize what a disaster it was.

[OfMiceandMen]

@KrakenAttackin If you take a look at what you just wrote and substitute "women" for the most part you will understand what women have endured for centuries. They've always been considered expendable, replaceable, interchangeable and otherwise just a commodity. Perhaps, men are getting a taste of being oppressed by women and they don't like it? Maybe a sexist rebellion something that should have happened years ago.

[Heterosketero]

American woman, stay away from ME,

American WOMAN, MAMA LET ME BE

something something soemthing about a door...

[Vaporvan]

Probably they have given up, have you seen American women?

[Anonymous]

They're probably too busy playing video games, ha.

I don't know, it seems like a lot of guys aren't interested in dating or marriage.

[Vegasrunner]

Anonymous in my opinion men shouldn't even think about getting married until
- At least 35
- Have had sex w/ at least 50 women
- have at least 50k in savings
- have had job, business or career for at least 5 years.
Really no advantages of marriage for men outside

[Opinion Owner]

@Vegasrunner Ok

[Anonymous]

When they say male/men what they really mean is white men/male. Because those are the only ones in this country with the head start.

[Gibbons44]

Virgins found virgins and got married. Others found adult relationships.

[Cubus]

Because women are not looking for dates too.

[Anonymous]

I’ve given up.