Guys, Guys would you date a woman much less intelligent than you? What if she’s really bright but not a genius like you?

[Anonymous]

[Effably]

Really bright? Sure!

If she's having trouble communicating at a meaningful level? I do believe she'd simply grow into it. If however for some reasom she could not that would likely be a dealbreaker.

But anyone intelligent enough to be called bright absolutely makes the cut.

[Asker]

Every guy I date says I’m one of the smartest girls they know. But I guess I have imposters syndrome.

[Effably]

Reality is that most guys do not care that much about if you're smart or not. Which is not to say that we are fine dating a mental pebble but rather our considerations about partners are slightly but meaningfully different from women's.

In very general terms women tend to consider what a guy brings to the table. His strengths. His weaknesses. Special abilities. So on. And of course an even heavier focus is put on actually matching each other.

Men? Nearly 100% of our focus is on matching each other. That is why we rarely care if you're a neurosurgeon or waitress. Your income, prestige, status and alike means next to nothing to us. Not absolutely nothing but nearly. If you have it in you to smile at a kid and that will probably mean more than 8 years of studies and a nobel prize to us. You are judged almost entirely on your personality - assuming you pass the looks department. This is why guys just never call any woman a loser. Think about how rare it is that a guy does. Compare it. Its not because we're better people or anything, we're probably worse, but we do evaluate you differently from how you evaluate us.

And so if you want to assess a woman's perceived value to a man you need to change perspective first. Hopefully this was useful and not just a rant.

[Asker]

Definitely. I am a really sweet girl and I have a good heart. I’m maternal and want to be a mother. I’m really soft spoken too so not loud and rowdy and curse. I feel like a guy would be able to feel protective of me and assert himself where necessary.

[D_Bone_Steak]

It really depends... the kind of dumb where some random guy on the phone can talk her into giving her banking information over? The word "nice" was originally meant for people like that. She has to have at least some level of self-defense in her brain or else she becomes a threat to your own safety due to her ignorance.

Also, where is her heart at? I've met some really smart and intelligent women that are just pure cringe because of something like their ego. If I'm like her mental 'challenge' for the evening and she's just set on trying to win every little argument, and in fact she creates the arguments for that purpose... pure cringe.

Intelligence can be great, but who she is as a person can take that to a bad place just as much as to a good place.

[exitseven]

Most of the girls I dated were intelligent, My wife is way smarter than me. However there was one exception. She was as dumb as a post but she had a beautiful singing voice and was really a sweet kid.

[Asker]

That’s my dilemma. I’m very intelligent (an engineer) but there’s a guy I’m dating who went to Harvard and is like top 1% intelligence. We both have really good jobs but he’s way smarter than me still.

[exitseven]

It should not be a competition. It is hard to be an engineer. Graduating from Harvard does not automatically mean you are a genius,

[Asker]

He’s a ridiculously smart guy though. So it makes me insecure at times. Once I dated a guy years ago who dumped me because he wanted someone in the top 1% of intelligence and said I’m not.

[exitseven]

damn, it is his loss.

[Asker]

I think he was just mad cuz I previously dumped him in high school

[exitseven]

I stand by my previous opinion. Its his loss.

[Manab]

It's very hard but depends on how much she likes you. Less intelligent girls don't generally like very smart guys or their lifestyles. Some try to settle with them later in life but never actually like them.

[bean2k21]

Truly intelligent people don't go around comparing their intelligence to others'. That's what weak and insecure people do.

[Juxtapose]

I would consider myself of average intelligence so dating someone much less intelligent than me would be very undesirable.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

That sounds okay but if you mean the kind of stupid to where she can’t tell if she’s a girl then she can eat my dust.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Yes, there is a limit between less knowledge in something and gullible.

[Shamalien]

She doesn’t have to be 100% on my level, but the closer the better

[UniquelyBasic]

Probably not if she was a complete idiot.

[Asker]

. I’m very intelligent (an engineer) but there’s a guy I’m dating who went to Harvard and is like top 1% intelligence. We both have really good jobs but he’s way smarter than me still.

[UniquelyBasic]

But you may know more about certain things that he may not so it could balance out overall. I don't think he really cares as you're still pretty damn smart.

[Asker]

I know a LOT about quant trading. I ramble on about it. My last guy friend I had talked to me for 3 hours once just about something in the space. Lmao

[UniquelyBasic]

I have no damn clue what that is 😂