I’m 4’11 97 pounds and a D cup if a guy said no chunky chicks or flat chicks they gotta be 100 pounds and under and a C cup or better. What would you honestly think of that guy? Pretty shallow yea? I would say so… so why do girls find it completely acceptable to say I won’t date a guy under 6feet? How’s that not just as much shallow?
It IS just as shallow, of course. But in modern society, women are cheered on if they have preferences or standards for men, while men are shamed and guilted if they have preferences or standards (unless the guy is a top 10%er, in which case most women just shut up and do whatever he wants).
Everyone will have preferences - that's okay, but most women today don't really have preferences (a preference is a "nice to have") - they have standards (a MUST have) - and they have long lists of them.
For example, tons of women are only interested in men who are at least 6' tall - that's 14% of men. Then they want those men to have a college degree - already, you're down to 6% of men. Then they want the guy to be making at least 6 six figures ($100,000+) per year - now down to just under 2%. Then, he's got to be fit - under 1%. Then, he can't have a "small dick" (whatever that means to her) - well under 1%. And most women's lists just keep going. What they don't seem to realize is that their standards are so high that there's not a single man on the planet who meets them - PLUS, few if any of those standards have anything to do with the man's morals, values, or life-goals - and THOSE are the factors that determine if you have any chance at a long-term relationship. Is it any wonder why most relationships don't last?
Men have preferences, certainly, but the vast majority of men are willing to look past their physical preferences, at least to some extent, to be with a girl who has the important things: morals & values. Most women today aren't willing to do the same - they think they are all princesses who deserve the very best, and they all want the top actor, the pro athlete, the musician, or just the hot hunky guy at the gym, but those guys have access to the most attractive women (being the most attractive men), and while they might sleep down the value scale to get easy casual sex, they don't date, much less COMMIT down, so they aren't going to take most women seriously - even if they bang them when they're in town.
You being 97 pounds you are a tiny
Little thing lol I would be scared to crush you lol Like your last post about your son , people just have set preferences on what they are into whether they hold to those preferences or not that’s something they have to figure out on their own , I know it’s pretty silly but most people are pretty fucking silly when it comes to shit , it mainly stems down to selfishness, most people are selfish and only think what is best for them , usually people that hold preferences to the max are setting themselves up for a rude awakening when they realize their preferences don’t really mean shit , They usually end up with someone that fits their preference but that person treats them like shit and they end up being dumped etc.. when people limit themselves they are limiting themselves from someone that actually could be amazing to them. Like age , people that hold age is a deciding factor are limiting themselves from someone that could actually rock their world. To me age is just a number , If I see a beautiful girl that catches my eye , her age is the last thing I am thinking about , Now of course if she is under legal age then yes I draw the line there but I like to think I am wise enough not to approach a girl that is under legal age lol But all in all her age doesn’t really matter
To me whether she is older or younger than me , it’s the chemistry and connection and attraction that matters , I have preferences as well but I don’t stick firmly to my preferences if I meet someone that is still beautiful and has a great personality to me , just because I like a girl to have more than a handful set of boobs it doesn’t mean I am not going to be attracted to a girl that has
Smaller boobs , me personally would just approach a girl to meets my preferences over approaching a girl that doesn’t really meet
My preferences , again it doesn’t really matter , it’s the chemistry and connection and the attraction that matters
Is it shallow really? Or shallow only if they don't want you?
It's completely normal to have preferences what you like to see, what turns you on.
It could be immaturity if you reject someone for a physical attribute, if they are otherwise perfect for you.
It's only shallow if that's the only thing you are looking for in someone.
dont think there's anything with having preferences like that, i mean dating/sex is a lot to do with looks so inherently shallow anyways. like you need to find the person attractive unless ofc you dont look good and can't get what you want. as long as he's's hot enough doesn't matter that much
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For every type of person, there are people who appreciate that type of person. Unfortunately, people assume anyone they're attracted to will find them attractive, too, while the ones they're not attracted to won't bother them. Stop focusing on those who aren't interested in you. You don't have the power to turn gay men straight. How would you feel if people constantly told you what you enjoy eating, even though you find their choices disgusting? It's not about being shallow, but being stupid. You're not going to quench your thirst by ingesting sand. Open your eyes and be realistic. You're as likely to change the basic essence of who you are for others as others are to change their basic essence for you. Changes for others tend to be temporary and/or conditional. A person's preference is not a judgement of others; it is a statement of what they've discovered works best for them. Respect others as you'd like others to respect you.
u If a guy is not attracted to a girl with 34B boobs, he can't make himself be attracted. And he isn't doing a girl any big favor by dating her if he is not sexually attracted to her. Some guys are attracted only to petite girls, or girls with blonde hair. It really doesn't matter whether you call it shallow; telling other people how they are "supposed to" feel is rather stupid.
And the same argument applies to girls who are attracted only to guys over 6' tall.
That guy is shallow... and so are you! I don't know why girls are telling you that you're any less shallow. You're not. It's the same. Pretty off-putting right?
Yes it is shallow, and guys like these are the male equivalent of the "I only date guys who are 6ft or more, drive a Lamborghini, have a six pack, and a 10 inch sledgehammer penis". Looks are literally superficial and should not matter if the person deep down is still a good person.
So unless they have terrible eating habits and they're morbidly obese, can't do basic things like run, sit on one chair, don't need help standing or taking a shit, and don't get tired just by standing for a minute, I don't see any problem dating anyone.
Every person's preference is different. If that is what they like, it doesn't make him shallow, just makes them picky.
A lot of women are that way too.
That just means he would severely limit his possibilities, as a lot of the women that meet his criteria may not find him attractive or meet their criteria.
In regards to the height thing and women, I have met many women who said to me I normally only date guys that 6 ft or taller, yet it didn't discourage them from going out with me There are other characteristics that a guy can have that are more important than how tall he is.
I'm reasonably good looking, pretty smart, easy going, not boring by any means, have a great job/life style, a family man, etc. so a lot of those traits tend to trump my < 6 ft height.
Not necessarily shallow.
Everyone has preferences. Some people are more attracted to certain races, ethicities, sizes, or what have you.
People go on an initial date because they find the person physically attractive. They don't even know them yet. You find out more about their personality, values and interests by dating them.
So it's not that they are rejecting someone with a wonderful personality because they prefer different size boobs or something.
Different people have different preferences, and that's normal. But some people's preferences are way to rigid. And some people ARE shallow.
Absolutely spot on, there are so many double standards with women these days (i blame feminism) and having all these requirements concerning height like you say and appearance. I see what you are doing here but if you did a poll, it would be interesting to see how many hypocrites there are.
The majority of women seem to think it is ok to have height requirements but we will soon be able to test the hypocrisy
They're just boundaries/preferences that must be respected, social media leads people to believe that these things are relative to everyone and then they become toxic about it.
Just because a video displays a bunch of crazy women who reject dudes over being 6ft, doesn't mean the majority of women care about whether a guy is 6 ft (and it's true they don't, in fact they actually just want a guy who is taller than they are most of the time to feel safer). Same goes for dicks, in fact I've had girls that complimented that my 6 inch penis was exactly right for them.
I think our preferences are our preferences. In terms of the guy I think it is reasonable as I don't like fat girls. I think a C cup or better is somewhat shallow as Iike A or B cups. We are going to judge on what arouses us is my point.
With your slender frame and D cups there is a good chance you will convert me.
Breasts-size is clearly less important than height, and tall guys are looking more masculine.
It's obviously shallow with either example. What if the guy checks ALL your other boxes but is only 5'11" ? Do you say "close enough". What if he's 5'10" ? Do you eliminate him even if everything else about him is perfect to you?
And for guys, same thing: she checks ALL your boxes but only has a B cup? You'd be an idiot to let a woman go for that reason.
The shallow thing is that he needed a check list.
Proper love doesn’t need a god damn check list.
Now if he seen someone and was like “nah I’m not into that”I’d be with that but check list is just dumb.
This sounds like a humble brag “im 97 pounds and D cup “ but it’s not she’s for real and she’s 🔥🔥🔥🤤… love ya girl
Nope i wouldn't
Knowing what turns you on, and looking for it, is not shallow.
It's like calling someone shallow because they go i like comedies, so i only watch comedies
I agree it's very shallow for anyone to have those kinds of rules.
yeah that's shallow but i think there's nothing wrong with it. everyone is shallow to some degree and good for you if you know what you want. nobody is entiteled to date you anyway. so you can pick and choose.
Yeah. Shallow af and probably will die with regret :c
Describing your size you sound beautiful but I don't see why a guy wouldn't want to be with you... those guys would be a waste of time to date... someone to care n love you as you are is what you need
He is a tosser! Avoid at all costs. He values a body. Not the personality.
I just got a prom date with a “flat girl” I’m super psyched for it
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