I had a dtr talk to tell the guy I am seeing I want to be exclusive. he agreed but he ended his chat with me on bumble. is he playing me?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy on bumble and after he agreed with me to be exclusive he ended our chat. Now I dont know if he's just playing me. We are planning to see each other tomorrow. What do I do? I am just getting to know this guy after 6 dates.

I feel like he hasn't asked enough about me.

[SteveSmith1985]

Well wait... what makes you think he's playing with you? I am so confused.

So you ask this guy to be exclusive.

He agrees.

He closes his bumble account since he is now exclusive with you.

You are planning to see each other tomorrow.

You feel like he hasn't asked enough about you to... what? To want to be exclusive? But didn't you ask him to be exclusive and he agreed?

I feel like you're finding a problem in a situation where there isn't one. What am I missing?

[Asker]

thank you Steve.

The guy deleted me from seeing his dating account. He still has access to the account and he has not accepted my add request to social media.

[SteveSmith1985]

Well then... yea... there's a problem there.

Ok so first, if you asked this guy to be exclusive... why would he delete you from being able to see his account... yet keep the account? Is this... just the sloppiest-liar ever? Or what? I need some help understanding this. Does he THINK he's tricking you into believing he deleted his account? Is that what's happening?

Also, when you say he as not accepted your adds to social media. That seems weird to me, if you've been on 6 dates, and just decided to be exclusive. I assume you know for sure that he actually uses those accounts (if you added me on facebook... good luck... I might get it in a few years when forced to log-on for some reason).

Assuming that he does use these accounts, then, yea that's fishy as hell.

But here's what I don't understand... WHY would any guy do that. It just seems like such an obviously fishy thing to do, that it's hard to imagine anyone doing that on purpose. Surely the girl he's going on date number 4 or 5 with is going to think it's weird as hell that he hasn't accepted your social media adds. It just seems so obvious, that I can't imagine a guy doing that on purpose (not saying he isn't... simply that it seems dumb. Even for a shitty guy)

So what... do you think... that... HE thinks that you think?

What could anyone's plan be if this were nefarious?

Do you suspect he's just a weird, sketchy, flakey guy?

When you talk about him "playing you" that's possible I suppose (assuming you're having sex already, because if not, then he's not playing you. That wouldn't make sense). If he's playing you though, he's doing an extraordinarily shitty job.

What do YOU think might be going on. It's hard to even come up with hypothetical theories that would make this make sense.

[SteveSmith1985]

I assume... you have his number though... right? Like you do have some method of staying in contact without bumble and social media right?

[Asker]

yes Steve that is right I have his number