I personally find the idea of men being visual creatures pretty much BS. Ask any man to tell apart lilac and lavender and you will know what I mean. Men simply care about appearance more than women do and actually don't care much to pay attention to detail. Calling men visual because they notice boobs (which everyone does) and the just want to keep staring doesn't make any sense to me.
Men aren't inherently the stupid little horny maniacs that we make them out to be, but society keeps reinforcing such behavior and it does lead men to be shallower. Most don't care to think deeper beyond what appeals to them and even if you try to get them to understand that there's so much more to what they see they will dismiss it as unnecessary. If it's not relevant to THEM they think it's unnecessary, how funny.
This is why you see men so confused about why a woman should dare wear a neon yellow eyeshadow or shave their heads etc, or why women would spend so many years in college when men aren't attracted to that. Even reminding them that there is more to our lives than trying to attract men at everything breath and not everything we do is about them, you're suddenly a man-hating feminist for, alas, having a life worth living for more than just them.
TL;DR: I don't think men are inherently shallow, but we live in a world that rewards men's shallowness.
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I think it's pretty unfair to label them as such. Frankly we're just as visual as they are, we're just pickier with what we like to look at. To top it off we tend to have more requirements than they do for dating.
I realize I'm shooting myself in the foot as a woman. But we're not exactly the angels we're made out to be
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"Shallow" implies something that someone does consciously and either deliberately or wth a conscious disregard for the consequences of their conduct. Do you think that men CHOOSE to be aroused and excited by visual stimuli? You may not understand how that works for men, but your lack of understanding does not automatically mean that men are shallow; it just means that you don't understand. So think about the things about guys that get YOU interested and excited. Now, tell me at what point in your life you decided that those things were desirable and that is what you would seek in a guy? And if you are more interested, e. g., in guys who are tall, does that make YOU shallow or is that just something that you can't control?
Women are much more visual than men. Men tend to be visual about the way a woman looks, but women are visual about everyone and about a person's appearance, and down to hygiene. They are also visual in the sense of caring how they look/appear in social situations more than men do, which is why females are often more self-conscious in group settings.
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Guys are only shallow about shallow things so if a girl only has shallow stuff to offer, he will be very shallow. If she has non shallow things then many guys will respect that. When a guy is really into you he treats you very differently than the girls who only have shallow stuff.
That said... if you don't want to end up like some females you see who have various problems like say being single moms, DO NOT live your life the same way that they did. Find role models who have the kind of life & past experiences you want and ask them for advice. Best case these role models are mid 20s and older. Don't listen to anybody who currently has a life you wouldn't want to have long term.
No. We're hardwired to hunt. That means we need to be visually wired. As a species we are predators. Women have similar instincts, just less acute.
A man looks at curves whether he realises or not. He sees how a woman's lips are a different colour - deeper/redder - and her cheeks flush. How her pupils dilate in arousal.
A woman looks at shoulder width to waist ratio in a man. Broad shoulders generally meant a good hunter. Arousal in men is *ahem* more obvious.
So men are shallow for being visual. Women are shallow for wanting to be provided for.
Deal with it. We've been this way for ten thousand years. Both equally shallow in different ways.Guys arenβt more visual. 😂 Thatβs what they themselves claim because of their ego. ITS A LIE. 🤡
The more you live life, the more youβll realize that this is a lie and itβs more the other way around.
WOMEN ARE MORE VISUAL. WOMEN.
Are girls gold diggers for wanting financial security and materialistic for wanting all that comes with money?
You need to understand the human psychology first. Think like a man to understand a man. If you think like a girl while trying to understand the opposite gender, you will understand them completely incorrectly.
And then go on blaming while it was you who thought wrongly.
No, giving importance to physical beauty, looks is not shallow thinking. It will only be shallow if a man only gives importance to physical looks, attractiveness and completely ignores the personality aspects, the other compatibility factors.
If a man gives importance to both equally then that is not a shallow thinking. That is intelligence.
Nothing wrong with someone wanting what they want. If appearance matters that's fine - for a short term casual relationship. But no one looks the same a 60 as they did at 25, so if someone is looking for a life long companion, they have to be aware that appearance will change, and in that case deciding based on appearance is at least dumb, if not exactly shallow
men are not in fact more visual. men are more hormonally driven to engage sexually. and women are just as likely to respond to the visual signals in men's body movements that a hearty pounding is at option.
orgasmically trained screen time addicts of either standard chromosomal makeup are prone to be more visual, but this is not really more gender related with the advent of sex toys better enabling this process with equal ease between the gendersI don't think being visual makes a person shallow. Shallow is when the person doesn't care that the person they're attracted to is completely immoral or lacks good character.
No. We like what we like. Are movie directors wrong for only wanting actors who can act? Or are jobs wrong for only wanting people who can do the job from experience rather then someone with a degree.
That being said looks isnβt the only thing guys want. Looks is the application personality keeps you on the team.
Its a myth that men are more visual. Men and women are the same amount visual just women can control themselves better so we aren't being creepy like men when we see someone good looking
If women could feel our attraction towards women, i bet they would know how strong our attraction is visually.
You cannot blame hormones
We are same & differents in so may ways, So we are appreciating each other what we similar at & blaming each other what we differs at.You saw the men are strong, women are pretty trope? you can call men shallow, who cares?
https://www.youtube.com/embed/A9WZFeA4FzIMen a visual because we needed to be when we lived in caves men hunted and fought off enemies it does not mean we are shallow it means we are different nothing right or wrong about it, men have their strengths and weaknesses just like women it does not mean one is superior over the other think of the yin and the yang two different sides coming together to form a whole
Women are more visual than men. More men will date a woman that is physically a 5 or better where as MOST women won't date anyone below a 7. Most guys below a 7 are totally invisible to most women when it comes to dating.
from my experience, men do tend to be more shallow than women. There is a saying "women fall in love with their ears. men fall in love with their eyes".
Are women more shallow for being more focused on what a man can provide? We are biologically wired to be attracted to certain things in the opposite sex.
Yes. But is that bad? Shallow people are the reason that beautiful people still exist. If it were not for shallow people, then every human being on earth would be ugly.
Call it what you may. Men have evolved to be more visual and you cannot change their DNA.
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That would be like asking is women are shallow for having a materialistic approach to choosing a partner neither are shallow
No.
I could say women are shallow for not being more visual, but women are just as visual as men are.
Every layer adds depth. Looks is still a layer.
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