Are guys shallow for being more visual?

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CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

I personally find the idea of men being visual creatures pretty much BS. Ask any man to tell apart lilac and lavender and you will know what I mean. Men simply care about appearance more than women do and actually don't care much to pay attention to detail. Calling men visual because they notice boobs (which everyone does) and the just want to keep staring doesn't make any sense to me.

Men aren't inherently the stupid little horny maniacs that we make them out to be, but society keeps reinforcing such behavior and it does lead men to be shallower. Most don't care to think deeper beyond what appeals to them and even if you try to get them to understand that there's so much more to what they see they will dismiss it as unnecessary. If it's not relevant to THEM they think it's unnecessary, how funny.

This is why you see men so confused about why a woman should dare wear a neon yellow eyeshadow or shave their heads etc, or why women would spend so many years in college when men aren't attracted to that. Even reminding them that there is more to our lives than trying to attract men at everything breath and not everything we do is about them, you're suddenly a man-hating feminist for, alas, having a life worth living for more than just them.

TL;DR: I don't think men are inherently shallow, but we live in a world that rewards men's shallowness.

Sirenboobzilla · Accepted Answer

I think it's pretty unfair to label them as such. Frankly we're just as visual as they are, we're just pickier with what we like to look at. To top it off we tend to have more requirements than they do for dating.

I realize I'm shooting myself in the foot as a woman. But we're not exactly the angels we're made out to be

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

"Shallow" implies something that someone does consciously and either deliberately or wth a conscious disregard for the consequences of their conduct. Do you think that men CHOOSE to be aroused and excited by visual stimuli? You may not understand how that works for men, but your lack of understanding does not automatically mean that men are shallow; it just means that you don't understand. So think about the things about guys that get YOU interested and excited. Now, tell me at what point in your life you decided that those things were desirable and that is what you would seek in a guy? And if you are more interested, e. g., in guys who are tall, does that make YOU shallow or is that just something that you can't control?

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

Women are much more visual than men. Men tend to be visual about the way a woman looks, but women are visual about everyone and about a person's  appearance,  and down to hygiene. They are also visual in the sense of caring how they look/appear in social situations more than men do, which is why females are often more self-conscious in group settings.

hahahmm · Answer

Guys are only shallow about shallow things so if a girl only has shallow stuff to offer, he will be very shallow. If she has non shallow things then many guys will respect that. When a guy is really into you he treats you very differently than the girls who only have shallow stuff.

That said... if you don't want to end up like some females you see who have various problems like say being single moms, DO NOT live your life the same way that they did. Find role models who have the kind of life & past experiences you want and ask them for advice. Best case these role models are mid 20s and older. Don't listen to anybody who currently has a life you wouldn't want to have long term.

DJB72 · Answer

No. We're hardwired to hunt. That means we need to be visually wired. As a species we are predators. Women have similar instincts, just less acute.

A man looks at curves whether he realises or not. He sees how a woman's lips are a different colour - deeper/redder - and her cheeks flush. How her pupils dilate in arousal.

A woman looks at shoulder width to waist ratio in a man. Broad shoulders generally meant a good hunter. Arousal in men is *ahem* more obvious.

So men are shallow for being visual. Women are shallow for wanting to be provided for.

Deal with it. We've been this way for ten thousand years. Both equally shallow in different ways.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Are girls gold diggers for wanting financial security and materialistic for wanting all that comes with money?

You need to understand the human psychology first. Think like a man to understand a man. If you think like a girl while trying to understand the opposite gender, you will understand them completely incorrectly.

And then go on blaming while it was you who thought wrongly.

serious · Answer

No, giving importance to physical beauty, looks is not shallow thinking. It will only be shallow if a man only gives importance to physical looks, attractiveness and completely ignores the personality aspects, the other compatibility factors.

If a man gives importance to both equally then that is not a shallow thinking. That is intelligence.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys aren’t more visual. 😂 That’s what they themselves claim because of their ego. ITS A LIE. 🤡

The more you live life, the more you’ll realize that this is a lie and it’s more the other way around.

WOMEN ARE MORE VISUAL. WOMEN.

@reem12345reem

richardcory · Answer

Nothing wrong with someone wanting what they want. If appearance matters that's fine - for a short term casual relationship. But no one looks the same a 60 as they did at 25, so if someone is looking for a life long companion, they have to be aware that appearance will change, and in that case deciding based on appearance is at least dumb, if not exactly shallow

flautistnaturist · Answer

men are not in fact more visual. men are more hormonally driven to engage sexually. and women are just as likely to respond to the visual signals in men's body movements that a hearty pounding is at option.

orgasmically trained screen time addicts of either standard chromosomal makeup are prone to be more visual, but this is not really more gender related with the advent of sex toys better enabling this process with equal ease between the genders

TrueConfection · Answer

I don't think being visual makes a person shallow. Shallow is when the person doesn't care that the person they're attracted to is completely immoral or lacks good character.

ChillaxingLove · Answer

No. We like what we like. Are movie directors wrong for only wanting actors who can act? Or are jobs wrong for only wanting people who can do the job from experience rather then someone with a degree.

That being said looks isn’t the only thing guys want. Looks is the application personality keeps you on the team.

Apple1996 · Answer

Its a myth that men are more visual. Men and women are the same amount visual just women can control themselves better so we aren't being creepy like men when we see someone good looking

Anonymous · Answer

If women could feel our attraction towards women, i bet they would know how strong our attraction is visually.

You cannot blame hormones

We are same & differents in so may ways, So we are appreciating each other what we similar at & blaming each other what we differs at.

Berethor · Answer

You saw the men are strong, women are pretty trope? you can call men shallow, who cares?

peedy · Answer

Men a visual because we needed to be when we lived in caves men hunted and fought off enemies it does not mean we are shallow it means we are different nothing right or wrong about it, men have their strengths and weaknesses just like women it does not mean one is superior over the other think of the yin and the yang two different sides coming together to form a whole

HighValue · Answer

Women are more visual than men. More men will date a woman that is physically a 5 or better where as MOST women won't date anyone below a 7. Most guys below a 7 are totally invisible to most women when it comes to dating.

Haha456 · Answer

from my experience, men do tend to be more shallow than women. There is a saying "women fall in love with their ears. men fall in love with their eyes".

Pegases · Answer

Are women more shallow for being more focused on what a man can provide? We are biologically wired to be attracted to certain things in the opposite sex.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes. But is that bad? Shallow people are the reason that beautiful people still exist. If it were not for shallow people, then every human being on earth would be ugly.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No. I could say women are shallow for not being more visual, but women are just as visual as men are.  Every layer adds depth. Looks is still a layer.

boggboss · Answer

That would be like asking is women are shallow for having a materialistic approach to choosing a partner neither are shallow

Adaeva · Answer

Call it what you may. Men have evolved to be more visual and you cannot change their DNA.

Gibbons44 · Answer

It is mostly about brains and fertility/pregnancy. Males work more and earn more so I pay less attention to how moneyed up you are and more to whether you able to get thinking.

Ben487 · Answer

Yes, if you think its shallow that a man would want and prioritize finding an attractive mate than yes men are shallow. I don't think this is shallow behavior.

Manab · Answer

Girls are just as visual as guys if not more, now some will say guys can get money and get pretty girls but I don't think those girls actually care about those guys. They just care about the money they make.

Anonymous · Answer

Men aren't more visual. Both genders are equally visual but women dont want to appear shallow so they dont publicly admit it.

ThomasDavid1989 · Answer

We tend to be more visual but no, that doesn't make us shallow. If it did, women would be just as shallow, for ALSO being visual

AmeerX · Answer

It's just a stereotype. Woman are also visual. They just don't show it like men

Hanrej · Answer

I think both sexes are shallow but men perhaps excuse it less. Also, men arn't really used to relationships carrying any advantages except for sex so they don't look for much else.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Shallow is just a pejorative term meaning straightforward. Men are straightforward, they know what they like.

thatssuppy190 · Answer

Are girls shallow for not wanting to date short men even though they might be taller than them? No, its just biology, we have to accept certain things

Jennz6 · Answer

They are just so full of lust, is that shallow?

Rita669 · Answer

I don't think so, but maybe there is such a person out there, there is such a woman out there, we need to look more at the person's approach and responsibility

clampfan101 · Answer

Being more visual is like a tool. (I imagine you know where I’m going with this.)

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

That's a lie perpetrated on humans at large. Women are visual, too and often more choosy.

Wise4myage · Answer

I don't think so, but I suppose some guys would be.

Anonymous · Answer

People who use the term "shallow" to describe normal human attraction are the ones who are shallow.

Anonymous · Answer

No more shallow than women are for being more emotional.  It's all perspective hun.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know how much brainwashing you have had in school, but this is completely untrue. It is women that are more visual.

Reorx · Answer

I'm anything but shallow. A woman could drown herself in these waters if she's not careful.

noohair · Answer

Are girls crazy for being more emotional? It is your cave person brain and his cave person brain.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

As opposed to women who are more "resource driven"?

Twalli · Answer

Girls pick based on size, which can't be changed.

Anonymous · Answer

Are girls shallow for caring how much money is in my bank account?🙄

Greenbins · Answer

Let me ask you this then... Are women more shallow for want material things from guys?

jjj101010 · Answer

Just think it is different. It’s not a positive or negative

Anonymous · Answer

women are more visual. They just lie and say men are

RavVid · Answer

No we are assessing your fertility.

Drdeeznuts1132 · Answer

No, it's part of our biological wiring.

genericname85 · Answer

sure. nothing wrong with being shallow.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

We all can be but you get over that fast

CB-Raido-Time · Answer

Are girls shallow for being more material?

andy530 · Answer

Nope we can’t help biology

Dat-Alpha-Lion · Answer

Everyone’s shallow if that’s the case.

Anonymous · Answer

Are girls shallow for being visual?

fonduegirl · Answer

It really does

gorydetails · Answer

lol, no.

TallAnon · Answer

Sure, then what?

Anonymous · Answer

They are dogs

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