Why doesn’t he text me so much? he only send me a heart or kiss emoji everyday and only chats to plan a date?

[Anonymous]

He is online on WhatsApp but he doesn’t ask me how I’m doing or stuff like that very often.. he just send me an emoji every morning and then it would be a couple of days before we actually chat and the chat is usually about planning a date. We’ve been on 6 dates and known each other for 1.5 months.
What should I think? Insight please xx

[spartan55]

Is texting really that important to you?

[Asker]

No. But I would like to know that he at least cares about how I’m doing. Isn’t communicating important? I don’t know. Is this normal behaviour from a guy?

[spartan55]

You say that, but you are posting this, so you aren't happy about it. Sounds like the actual dating is going well, so what's the problem? Guys don't like feeling obligated to be in constant contact. What's wrong with every couple of days?

[Asker]

That’s fine. As long as it’s normal. I was just worried it meant something else.

[Asker]

Should I tell him that im
Waiting until
Marriage to have sex? Or is it too soon?

[spartan55]

Why would it be too soon?

[Anonymous]

He has an agenda that i dont trust

[Asker]

What do you mean? Please explain

[Opinion Owner]

Too many dates in too little time. He figures if he gets you at a high number of dates, you’d feel comfortable having sex sooner than later. he's pushy. I dont like it

[Asker]

One date a week isn’t a lot, is it?

[Opinion Owner]

And he doesn't call you? He think you're just a future booty call

[Asker]

No he never calls me. I made it clear that I’m looking for a relationship. He said he’s not in a rush for one. He says he’s talking it slow. He was sexual with me on our last date but we didn’t have full on sex. I told him after that i think we should take things slower and he said sure whatever makes you comfortable. So at least he respects my boundaries right? I don't know 😭

[Opinion Owner]

Yea but he knows you want a serious relationship and he doesn't. I know his agenda is to keep pushing dates as soon as he can to get laid. Then he will likely ghost. Find better or a backup until you’re ready to let him go. Because I guarantee he has one

[Asker]

I’m not planning on having sex with him. I’m waiting til marriage. I haven’t told him that yet. I think it’s too soon to tell him.

[Opinion Owner]

For future use, ALWAYS tell the guy this within week one. I guarantee this specific guy will be out the same week you tell him. But there are a lot of guys willing to wait. He however does not want a serious relationship so he's not willing to wait and he is wasting your time causing you to miss out on someone who will wait with you

[Asker]

Yeah you’re right. Should I tell him the next time I see him?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes. Maybe he’ll still want to have fun until his replacement comes along. Best of both worlds haha

[Asker]

Why would he need a replacement?

[Opinion Owner]

Someone who is better for you than him. Someone on the same page as you about a relationship and waiting til marriage

[ritxi]

Maybe he prefers to speak to you in person.

[Anonymous]

Can't you actually talk to each other?

[Asker]

We live an hour apart. He doesn’t call me ever, usually busy. I don’t know what to think