How do you know when to kiss her?

[Anonymous]

How do people know when the time is right? I feel I would need to ask her otherwise I would risk coming off as disrespectful.

First date

Second date

Third date

After 5 dates

After 10 dates

[OfMiceandMen]

I typically wait till the 2nd date. I want to be able to focus on getting to know her during the 1st date. She deserves my undivided attention and I should not be distracted thinking about a kiss.

If you get a 2nd date, then you know she is interested in you and as long as everything went well and she provides me with the right cues, the date could end with a kiss.

If she wants to wait, I am a patient man, so there is no problem there.

[razelove]

I wouldn't worry so much about "how many dates" and more so about the comfort level. If y'all are getting along alright, go in for it. Sometimes you get along with someone who's interested, sometimes they aren't. It's better to know that sooner than later.

It would feel more weird to go on 5 to 10 dates with someone and realize there are no intentions to be romantic or go to bed... Like what's going on there?

[Jemini_Crocket]

Ideally, the first date but that only when you can really feel the spark/chemistry there. And if you don't know if it's really there then it's not (not yet at least) so I'd say the second date is a safe choice.

[Jemini_Crocket]

Thanks for the MHO.

[Pinay_ako]

When it gets awkward and she’s waiting for you to do something and she leans in… go for it!

but if her body language is away from you and she just wants to go, do not even try. 🤣

[AviatorTom]

At the end of any date, if the date went well, a goodbye kiss is a good thing, whether that be the first date or the 100th date. That kiss is telling your date that you're looking forward to seeing them again.

[slatyb]

I kiss a woman when she wants to be kissed. They have always let me know. Sometimes it's the first date, sometimes it takes a bit longer but if there is mutual attraction, I can be patient. On average if there was a third date women were ready for bed.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Personally, if I'm on a date with a girl, we've already expressed extreme interest in eachother and have been wanting to kiss for a while. So I do it the second I see her.

If it's a girl you met online or like a blind date kinda thing, you could still do it on the first date, but only if the two of you have a strong connection by the end of it. Otherwise I'd probably wait until at least the 3rd date

[EricSummer]

It depends on the situation and how well your dates are going. For example, if you are close to each other in a calm situation and just told each other something nice then it could be followed up with a kiss. There are ways to offer a kiss without words, as long as you make sure she has time to withdraw if it is uncomfortable fir her. She should meet your lips the last bit of the way, or maybe she closes her eyes for the kiss.

It's also absolutely fine to ask if you may kiss her.

[Phoenix98]

All women are different you just gotta read the signs, their body language, how they look at you, is there mutual flirting etc.

worst case scenario you go for it and she pulls away. If so just be respectful she’s not ready you can always try again later.

[Titanic1912]

I didn’t vote yet but I’d wait after about 5-6 months of dating. I kissed my girl on the lips during a fall festival at the high school. We both turned our heads at the same time and our lips came in contact. We pulled back and looked at each other and whispered, “Whoa!” But we liked it. We officially became a couple after we kissed good night after a movie date and I asked if she would be my girlfriend. She said yes and we were in a relationship.

[Freyke]

This may sound like a joke but I am being serious. Ever seen a cat or dog beg for food? They give you a certain look, just sit there looking at you. Women also do this. A good indicator if you ask me.
But if you've been flirting both like crazy and the date went well, just do it. At the end of the date. Steal that kiss, be cheecky. Just a peck is enough. The spell will be cast.

[Anonymous]

When I was younger it didn't matter, but now honestly if a kiss doesn't happen on the first date, it's a bad sign and probably not gonna lead to second one. We are adults, we know why we went out, and life can get too busy for second chances and time wasters, so if I like a guy and have a feeling he wouldn't mind a kiss, I just go for it in the right moment. Or just give really strong signals that I want it.

[Cupido29]

I honestly don't understand you.. women.. When the girl I liked told me (after months) that she reciprocated, she told me to give her at least 1 week to think about what step to take (whether to stay friends or get engaged); when we said goodbye that evening she looked at me, smiling, waiting for a few seconds. I knew it was time for a kiss, but I didn't give it, because she told me she wanted time to think about all. She ultimately, after like a week, said that she wanted to remain friends. Do you say that this kiss I didn't give influenced her choice?

[OddBeMe]

I said first date. But everyone is different. The girl I married was/is really prudish about sexuality. Religious uptight biatch gets me all hot.


Back to you. Experience with people will give you more insight into people in general which will buoy romantic insight as well.


And even on the first date, I still think the 90-10 rule is good. Lean 90% in and let her make the decision to hug or kiss.

[AlexisDiani]

If it feels right but you’re not sure, ask. I remember the first time a guy asked if he could kiss me, I wanted to kiss him so bad, when he asked I jumped on him, didn’t even answer. So hot.

[FilmGuy93]

It really depends on your situation, but the big thing to look for is that woman is finding reasons to touch you and snuggle in close. She might press her hips against your's or linger close, just a little too long, if that makes any sense.

[Quackthulu2]

By paying attention to her. It isn’t about x many dates for a kiss and x many more for a hand job. That isn’t how anything works at all.

[QuietVerbena]

You can feel it. And you can read it in her body language. Some girls want a kiss on the first date, others prefer just a hug and a kiss on the cheek. Use your intuition and read her mood.

[RavVid]

I don't think there is a magic number. It is more something you sense. It is not a biggie anyway - if she doesn't want a kiss on the lips, she turn her head so you get her on the cheek.

[exitseven]

I put second date but the truth is that I had no freaking clue about it Most of the time she would try to kiss ME

[Anonymous]

For me, it'd take more than 10 dates. I'm a demisexual and I've never had my first kiss. It depends on the person and their comfort.

Safest bet is to ask, whether verbally or nonverbally is your choice.

[EclipsedMoonlight]

If she keeps looking at your lips, licks her lips... kiss her

[WanderingLoveWizard]

For sure. It's amazing how many guys miss the very obvious signal that a woman wants to kiss.
If she looks more interested in looking at your mouth than the words coming out of it, it's probably time to go ahead and land one lol

[EclipsedMoonlight]

You get it lol

[crossdressingrihno]

You don’t need a check list.
Dating is always about “the moment” and “the moment” doesn’t have a schedule. It’s all about intuition.

[Nikki1989]

I expect a kiss tonight on a first date at least.

[hiyamotherfers]

Totally depends on her attitude. If she is super into you and y'all have been talking for a while then just go ahead and go for it

[pass_the_celery98]

knowing my luck i'd mess up, slip, and hit my face against the wall or something.

[hiyamotherfers]

@pass_the_celery98 nah you would do fine