Is it too harsh to give your partner a deadline to change?

[Anonymous]

I waited for almost 4 years for him to go back to school to get a financially stable job. After all these years. He’s still working minimum wage and 30 years old. I’m in my early 20s and working towards my career goal. I want us both to be financially stable but at this point, I feel like I’m wasting my time on a man who has no ambition. Is it too harsh to give him until June to do something about it? I don’t want to wait any longer tbh. 4 years is already long enough.

It’s too harsh to give him a deadline

You should give him a deadline

[MemeSupreme]

well is he still working towards getting a financially stable job, quit, or it didn't work out? i'm confused on where it went wrong and if you've voiced any concerns from your part to him

[Asker]

I did voice my concern many many times already. It gets exhausting now. He’s not even working towards a financially stable job. He’s just working a low income job.

[slatyb]

If you don't like him as he is, end this. He's not going to change for you. Maybe someday he'll change for himself. If I were you, I wouldn't wait.

[mb120101]

30 working minimum wage? Did he go to prison? Even working for mcdonalds a few years you'll make more than minimum wage

[Asker]

$15 an hour

[mb120101]

I make 17 and i can't afford my own place so i wouldn't put all your eggs in that basket

[Asker]

No he isn’t. I just feel like he isn’t mature enough to think about his future. I just keep hoping he would but at this point I’m really losing hope that he is going to be willing to change. Just sucks bc I loved him a lot

[Asker]

Yeah. It’s going to really hurt if we break up. But maybe it’ll be for the best. I’m going to wait a little longer then that’s it

[mb120101]

Well the fact that he's dating younger women shows older women dont accept it

[gorydetails]

You've been waiting 4 years? lol. Why should he change? You're clearly going to put up with it.

[Asker]

Hoping he would 🙄🙄🙄🙄

[Anonymous]

No. In fact if you're that unhappy it would beneficial for BOTH of you. Because either he changes and you're happy or he doesn't and you can move on, and he can be happy with his life without you nagging him anymore. EVERYBODY WINS!

[Surely]

Nothing wrong with wanting to be financially secure at your age. Is he just lazy or needs a good kick in the butt to get your point across?
What does he do when he isn’t working?

[DarkWinterNights]

People don’t change unless they are out of options.

[Astarlessnightsky]

Love you partner for who he is.

[David4358]

how old are both of you?

[Asker]

I’m 23, he’s 30

[David4358]

give him a deadline, its well past the time he needs to grow up. If he doesn't then you need to move on. you dont need a man child as a partner.

[Luckycharms12]

Ever think he is happy

[In_Trance]

Break up now... deadlines never work

[Greenbins]

No not really