I started seeing a guy 7 weeks ago. I met him on a dating app. At first I didn’t expect him to want to see me often. #1 he is a good looking guy. # 2 I know he could get any girl he wants. But I’m seeing him weekly. We have a mix of watching movies and sex. But now I’m really starting to like him. I haven’t said to him that I like him and he hasn’t said he likes me. We both haven’t express we want a relationship. I really don’t know if 7 weeks is a little to early to let him know I’m catching feelings. I definitely know that good relationships take him and some men especially good looking men are used to women falling for them. I’m really enjoying what we have at the moment. In past relationships I have been too quick to confess my feelings and jump into a relationship. How long should I wait to tell him? I really don’t know why he can’t just go for another girl instead of me. I could have asked him this but I’m sure he has gotten that in the past.
When should I let him know I’m starting to have feelings for him?
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I meant good relationships take time
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I find what you've detailed here a little strange. If I was seeing a girl regularly for 7 weeks and had already had casual sex on multiple occasions, I'm sure I would be the one saying to her how I am catching feelings.
If he hasn't expressed anything like that you most likely are the side chick slash booty call, shack job, hook-up girl, friends with benefits etc... take your pic.
When you start telling him about your feelings he will either push you away thus confirming this status for you or he will pull you closer b/c he feels similarly.
Here are some of my personal red flags:
If he hasn't taken you to meet his friends or family
If he throws around the LIKE word a lot instead of the LOVE word
If he mainly calls only at Night
If he doesn't stick around to hang after he's spent sexually
If he is hard to get a hold of by text or phone and seemingly random when he does
all of these point to side chick only status. Side chicks don't become girlfriends it's an unwritten rule.
guys don't need to date very long. They know relatively quickly whether the relationship is actually going somewhere or not but they will play along for easy sex for a time before canning you for something better.
I really don’t see how I can be a side piece? # 1 he works a regular job Monday to Friday.. #2 he works as a dj Friday and Saturday night. Where would he have the time to entertain me and his girlfriend? Also this guy is extremely good looking.. doubt that he would be lacking in the sex department with his girlfriend. I don’t know but some guys take time to decide what they want. Especially if they have had a messy break up in the past or women have been demanding
Maybe just comment on things you do together at this stage. Say “I really enjoyed that, thank you”. Or some such thing and see how he responds.
😆😆😆 doesn't really matter at this point.