As a woman, is it wise to let your close friend keep in touch with your boyfriend?

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SteveSmith1985 · Accepted Answer

That depends on the situation.

Do your friend and boyfriend already know each other from before you became a couple? (like, were you all sorta part of the same friend group). Or did your friend meet your boyfriend entirely through you?

I think it really depends on what your situation looks like.

But the very fact that you're asking this question suggests that you don't trust your friend and/or your boyfriend. Something seems fishy about this to you. Now whether or not you're justified... again, depends entirely on the situation. But, generally, if you're bothered by this, then that's an indicator of some feelings of mistrust somewhere deep-down. Otherwise, you wouldn't even think to ask this. You just wouldn't be worrying that it MIGHT be unwise. It wouldn't be on your radar at all. The fact that it is... means you've got a problem with this. Gut feelings aren't always right, but you should listen to your instincts when something seems "off."

I would need to know more about the nature of your particular situation to give you a more useful answer.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Nah...

Out of the women that's tried to test me or get me to do some sexy time with them... a lot of them were women my wife called a friend.

When it was working and I became great platonic friends... that's when the wife would make her disappear.

sheenagwapa · Accepted Answer

me and my best friend and our boyfriends get along fine. i have acivil relationship with my bestfriend's boyfriend. and my bestfriend has a civil relationship with my boyfriend. i think TRUST and knowing your boundaries is important for people to get alinh because some people who act like a friend is actually a snake who just doesn't care about yoy. i like to befriend dignified people, i thinking being close to snakes are a waste of time no matter how innocent they are in front of yoy

Poppymarie · Accepted Answer

My fiancé has my best friend on Snapchat, but they aren’t talking to each other all the time. Although he likes my friends, he is not interested in communicating with them frequently because we have our own separate social circles. We feel like that’s part of a healthy relationship. I trust them both, but I like that I can spend time with my friends independent from my fiancé and vice versa.

Summeroflove · Answer

Depends. If you have A bad gut feeling. Might be something going on. But you have to only date kr be close friends with someone you trust

ColHathi · Answer

If you think he likes to cheat and you're somehow still with him in spite of that, but you also don't want him to cheat and you think your friend is the type that likes to cheat with cheaters as well, then in that very specific scenario, no, I don't think it'd be wise. Otherwise I really don't see a good reason as to why it wouldn't be wise.

Anonymous · Answer

i'd absolutely would NOT be okay with this. because of the fact that when i was in high school my friend stole my crush (she knew i liked him, paraded herself and him around me, pda, etc) and dated him for only 2 weeks. it was a waste and i'm still mad about it. i have no doubt she'd do it again, even if she is "married"

Anonymous · Answer

Are you confident in yourself and your relationship? And I'm talking about blind confidence. If not then no don't let her talk to him. But it's sign the relationship will fail because you dont know what you're doing. Confident people know what they are doing. Not blind confidence.

FifiJones · Answer

Two ways to look at it: worst case, you just share a boyfriend. Or, she won't if she's your friend.
Or you can just be independent and forget about friends (if you can handle sex-only relationships or living alone until you marry/start a family).

LazerBean · Answer

I don't see why that would be a problem as long as they aren't saying anything inappropriate.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Boyfriends come and go, if she's been your friend for a long time, you should be able to trust her.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

If you can trust them, if it bothers you, by all means let them both know. Hey, it bothers me if you two communicate.

brandon1122 · Answer

Yeah, why not? I'm friends with my partners best friend

JosyJosy · Answer

It is. It's a simple test for the both of them. I trust my friends, I trust my boyfriend. But if something happens, good riddance.

Adam1978 · Answer

Not single female friends. Guys shouldn't be a problem.

Anonymous · Answer

No. My current friend would bed him, I have a very good taste in men. If I had a boyfriend I wouldn’t befriend thus girl, because I don’t trust her when it’s about men.

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

That would a terrible move. Same goes for the man.

MementoMori777 · Answer

Nah don't let that happen, keep them separate would be my advice

Rangers · Answer

That's a horrible idea, get rid of them. There's no need for friends when you have a spouse, all they'll do is try to ruin your relationship

Sweety_Torneeya · Answer

No  Never ever trust a man never. Keep an eye on him and dont let your friends to be in touch with him. Men will be men.

worldscolide · Answer

It all depends on weather or not you trust him. If you do than there are no issues with it. If you dont, than you should not be with him.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

It's kinda weird for close friends of the boyfriend or girlfriend to keep touch with their friend's boyfriend or girlfriend.

sheena30 · Answer

I am not a woman yet, still want to learn to be one though

Britney04 · Answer

If you trust your friends and boyfriend sure. If you don’t trust them why you friends with your friend or still with your SO.

Cb142 · Answer

id say that would be different for me but to each there own

pethouse · Answer

It could be great or it could be awful it’s really a gamble tbh

Jrick02 · Answer

That girl has the most incredible big tits!

DevikaButts95 · Answer

Well kinda depends, in touch how?

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, of course.

DermalPunch · Answer

What? Hell no!!

RavVid · Answer

She'll get into his pants if you do.

loveslongnails · Answer

Is that a photo of yourself, or the friend? :)

Wise4myage · Answer

Only if you trust both of them.

mommymommy · Answer

Only if you TRUST both

BrookeS · Answer

Depends on the people

krystek_pl · Answer

in my opinion, yes. it doesn't ruin a friendship

Guardian45 · Answer

Do you trust your BFF & your boyfriend?

Luckycharms12 · Answer

No not really over stepping the line

Dominque44 · Answer

No absolutely not.

XiJinping · Answer

Yes, it is.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Could end badly

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Keep in touch how?

EaterPeter · Answer

Yes but limited

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Sure why not

jackiechanfan · Answer

no!!!

Kmoney100 · Answer

Depends

DeanFreed · Answer

Trust nobody

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