As a woman, is it wise to let your close friend keep in touch with your boyfriend?

[cuteheart48]

[SteveSmith1985]

That depends on the situation.

Do your friend and boyfriend already know each other from before you became a couple? (like, were you all sorta part of the same friend group). Or did your friend meet your boyfriend entirely through you?

I think it really depends on what your situation looks like.

But the very fact that you're asking this question suggests that you don't trust your friend and/or your boyfriend. Something seems fishy about this to you. Now whether or not you're justified... again, depends entirely on the situation. But, generally, if you're bothered by this, then that's an indicator of some feelings of mistrust somewhere deep-down. Otherwise, you wouldn't even think to ask this. You just wouldn't be worrying that it MIGHT be unwise. It wouldn't be on your radar at all. The fact that it is... means you've got a problem with this. Gut feelings aren't always right, but you should listen to your instincts when something seems "off."

I would need to know more about the nature of your particular situation to give you a more useful answer.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Nah...

Out of the women that's tried to test me or get me to do some sexy time with them... a lot of them were women my wife called a friend.

When it was working and I became great platonic friends... that's when the wife would make her disappear.

[sheenagwapa]

me and my best friend and our boyfriends get along fine. i have acivil relationship with my bestfriend's boyfriend. and my bestfriend has a civil relationship with my boyfriend. i think TRUST and knowing your boundaries is important for people to get alinh because some people who act like a friend is actually a snake who just doesn't care about yoy. i like to befriend dignified people, i thinking being close to snakes are a waste of time no matter how innocent they are in front of yoy

[Poppymarie]

My fiancé has my best friend on Snapchat, but they aren’t talking to each other all the time. Although he likes my friends, he is not interested in communicating with them frequently because we have our own separate social circles. We feel like that’s part of a healthy relationship. I trust them both, but I like that I can spend time with my friends independent from my fiancé and vice versa.

[Summeroflove]

Depends. If you have A bad gut feeling. Might be something going on. But you have to only date kr be close friends with someone you trust

[ColHathi]

If you think he likes to cheat and you're somehow still with him in spite of that, but you also don't want him to cheat and you think your friend is the type that likes to cheat with cheaters as well, then in that very specific scenario, no, I don't think it'd be wise. Otherwise I really don't see a good reason as to why it wouldn't be wise.

[Anonymous]

i'd absolutely would NOT be okay with this. because of the fact that when i was in high school my friend stole my crush (she knew i liked him, paraded herself and him around me, pda, etc) and dated him for only 2 weeks. it was a waste and i'm still mad about it. i have no doubt she'd do it again, even if she is "married"

[Anonymous]

Are you confident in yourself and your relationship? And I'm talking about blind confidence. If not then no don't let her talk to him. But it's sign the relationship will fail because you dont know what you're doing. Confident people know what they are doing. Not blind confidence.

[FifiJones]

Two ways to look at it: worst case, you just share a boyfriend. Or, she won't if she's your friend.
Or you can just be independent and forget about friends (if you can handle sex-only relationships or living alone until you marry/start a family).

[LazerBean]

I don't see why that would be a problem as long as they aren't saying anything inappropriate.

[OfMiceandMen]

Boyfriends come and go, if she's been your friend for a long time, you should be able to trust her.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

If you can trust them, if it bothers you, by all means let them both know. Hey, it bothers me if you two communicate.

[brandon1122]

Yeah, why not? I'm friends with my partners best friend

[brandon1122]

Are you worried that your boyfriend will leave you for her?

[JosyJosy]

It is. It's a simple test for the both of them. I trust my friends, I trust my boyfriend. But if something happens, good riddance.

[Adam1978]

Not single female friends. Guys shouldn't be a problem.

[Anonymous]

No. My current friend would bed him, I have a very good taste in men. If I had a boyfriend I wouldn’t befriend thus girl, because I don’t trust her when it’s about men.

[Opinion Owner]

I have some lifelong friends who I trust totally though and I would not worry at all.

[Jdjfjcjj]

That would a terrible move. Same goes for the man.

[Jdjfjcjj]

Some anonymous guy commented, "Are you confident in yourself and your relationship? " and refused replies. Guess he not confident to hear anybody disagree.

Just wanted to point out though that being confident has nothing to do, with opening yourself up to potential issues down the road. There is no reason why the boyfriend and gfs friend need to be communicating themselves

[MementoMori777]

Nah don't let that happen, keep them separate would be my advice

[worldscolide]

It all depends on weather or not you trust him. If you do than there are no issues with it. If you dont, than you should not be with him.

[Rangers]

That's a horrible idea, get rid of them. There's no need for friends when you have a spouse, all they'll do is try to ruin your relationship

[NostalgiaSenpi]

It's kinda weird for close friends of the boyfriend or girlfriend to keep touch with their friend's boyfriend or girlfriend.

[Sweety_Torneeya]

No
Never ever trust a man never.
Keep an eye on him and dont let your friends to be in touch with him.
Men will be men.

[sheena30]

I am not a woman yet, still want to learn to be one though

[Britney04]

If you trust your friends and boyfriend sure. If you don’t trust them why you friends with your friend or still with your SO.