Relationship problems or just confused?

[Anonymous]

I have been dating this guy for a little over a month. We have known each other our entire lives and people have always told us we were made for each other and would end up together one day. Suddenly today I was sitting in class (I have with him) and it was like all the sudden I wondered if we should be together or be friends at all. To be completely honest I was really shocked and confused. Any help would mean a ton to me! Thank y'all so much!

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t say it’s a relationship problem but maybe you’re a bit conflicted.
Just like moving in with a guy, the idea of it can sound so much better than when you’re actually in it. You could be with the guy every day all day and it’s still different than living with him.
My point in mentioning this though is the situation in itself.
For a long time now he’s been who people expected you to wind up with and I’m sure you wanted that as well. But it’s quite possible that he’s better as a friend than a boyfriend, not that he’s doing anything wrong but romantic compatibility.
I could be completely off, but if I’m not too far then it’s not wrong to have those feelings. Just don’t sweep them under the run when they arise, it could be that inner voice trying to speak to you.

[Asker]

To be honest we have both had feelings for each other for a long time. I just don't know what I need to do.

[Opinion Owner]

Right, and that’s why I say that maybe being in a relationship is different than you expected and that is what brings forth those thoughts. Of course I could be wrong and maybe you’re just worried about losing him or something. Whatever the case may be, you should take some time to yourself to get your thoughts onto paper. Like what are the things that make you question everything? Write those down, sometimes seeing it in front of your face helps. You wanna get to the bottom of it ultimately, so you can figure out your next move.

[Asker]

Okay, thank you so much!!

[arodriguez664]

I think it's normal to have moments where you question a decision. What matters is how you react to these thoughts. I can relate because I go through the same thing with my boyfriend periodically. You don't always have to give energy to these thoughts

[Asker]

Okay thank you so much!!

[Anonymous]

It's normal to have doubts and second-guess yourself in a new relationship, especially if you've been friends for a long time before. It's possible that you just need more time to adjust to the new dynamic between you two. On the other hand, if this feeling persists and you find yourself consistently questioning the relationship, it might be worth having a conversation with your partner about your doubts and concerns. It's important to communicate openly and honestly with each other in any relationship, and it's possible that your partner may have similar concerns. Ultimately, only you can decide what's best for you and your relationship, but taking the time to reflect on your feelings and having open communication with your partner can help you gain clarity and make a decision.

[Anonymous]

If you already are having these doubts, it is probably not going to work.

[Asker]

Okay thanks!! Its not that I am having doubts I just don't know what is going on, I am extremely happy but it was like a random time.

[In_Trance]

I wouldn't worry about it