Do you agree that overweight/fat women can still get dates compared to men in the same situation?

[Anonymous]

If you're a fat guy sorry but you're gonna have to kick it in gear and go to the gym. Women on the other hand really dont have do much and still get attention and dates from men even if they're fat.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Fat guys are usually better boyfriends than skinny guys, so I'm gonna say that's you wanting to be muscular and not understanding why fat guys still have girlfriends when you browse around online.

[Agagagagaga]

Is that your expert opinion? 😂 🤦‍♂️

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

@Agagagagaga If your issue is that fat women get more attention than men, that has nothing to do with the man being fat. That has to do with the societal hypersexualization of women and heavy desexualization of men. The hottest man in the world can't compete with an average woman in terms of attention.

[Agagagagaga]

My issue is that you have an issue with the askers issue.

“ so I'm gonna say that's you wanting to be muscular and not understanding why fat guys still have girlfriends when you browse around online. l

Ah so he’s just a bitter loser incel with unrealistic ideas about women

Because God knows I see a beautiful woman on the arm of every obese man in sight.

Moron. Goddamn. And you’re sooooo sure or yourself. So smug.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

My understanding is that insecure people are the ones that ask questions to see if they’re liked or hated or if there’s another group more hated than them to constantly compare to and protect their ego

[Asker]

In general Ma'am what do women prefer? In general what's going to help men attract women better? Being fat or being in shape

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Being a good person, as I understand it. Being good in bed and having a personality beyond working out at the gym or any singular interest.

[Asker]

Okay at first whats going to attract women in the initial stage? Wether we want to admit to ourselves or not, people care about looks and that's the first thing people notice. Its human nature. After you've passed the attractive barrier then all your other qualities matter (Personality, confidence etc)

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You can look like quasimodo but as long as you know how to talk and don’t smell like a dumpster, you’ll find that you can be quite likable and attractivr

[Asker]

I always take what women say with a grain of salt because far too often what they say they find attractive is very different than what actually attracts them and turns them on. I encourage men to get their asses in the gym and improve their looks because it will also help give them the confidence

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

They recently published a study on the mating habits of incels. To summarize, there were 3 main barriers keeping them from actually succeeding in dating. 1) Their perceived flaws and self-esteem issues. 2) An increased perception of victimhood due to barriers they believe are impossible to overcome, and 3) their misogyny telling them not to trust the opinions of women as they believe all women are dishonest and deceitful. Maybe you should look up that article on psychology today

[Asker]

Its not victimi hood, its just being self aware about how things actually work and having a better understanding of how to navigate the dating world. I dont expect the media to say anything else other than incels are bad and dangerous. The media is powerful and can convince people that something or someome is bad. By the way do you know what misogyny means? Because that word is losing its actual meaning and just gets thrown around all the time now. And just because i don't trust what women say they find attractive, versus what actually turns them on doesn't mean you hate women lol

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Believing that women are naturally deceitful is indeed a bias against women, AKA misogyny

[Asker]

Men are deceitful too but for other reasons

[Asker]

Both genders are guilty of this

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

So you’re saying you’re not a misogynist, just a misanthrope

[Asker]

If that's what you want to call to try and dissect my mind set sure. But going back to the orginal point, men should become the best they can physically because it will definitely help.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Men should be the best they should be period, whether that’s a muscley guy, or a fat guy, as long as they know how to not only be a good person but how to make the lives of those around them better.

[Asker]

In general they should what works. In general men that are shape are generally attractive to most women. You should be doing something that guarantees a higher chance of succeeding not decreasing it by being out of shape or fat. In general women want men that are fit or in shape

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

What is the point in talking to a woman about it, then?

[Asker]

What?

[LazerBean]

Of course, men are notorious for having low standards and screwing anything that resembles a female.

[Asker]

I don't think its low standards. I just think men and women are simply different and hardwired different

[LazerBean]

Keep coping

[Asker]

Its not coping. Women have this dumb idea in their head that men and women are hardwired and programmed the same way. We're not. We're very different

[LazerBean]

Classic ramblings of a bastard child

[Asker]

And here ladies and gentlemen is an ignorant person that wants to believe men and women are hardwired the same

[LazerBean]

Your opinion of mena intelligence and morals is really low, and you really need to check your internalized misandry. Just because you're a retarded slut with the self control of a monkey does mean all men are that worthless and inferior.

[Asker]

Do you know what the word misandry means? And a man that sleeps around a lot is not worthless. Where did i say that?

[LazerBean]

A man who sleeps around is objectively worthless as a father and spouse, therefore they are in fact worthless except for being used for their money. So saying that all men are sluts is the same thing as saying allen are worthless. Very misanderistic of you to say all men are worthless.

[Asker]

You may think that way but society as whole doesn't. A man that sleeps around a lot is not going to judged harshly like a woman that sleeps around a lot. Men that sleep around have to earn it. Women are the gatekeepers of sex and men that get laid a lot can't do so if the women doesn't say yes

[LazerBean]

Is that why the bastard children like yourself that are produced by whore men are disproportionately failing to thrive and have such high criminal stats? Attracting female whores does not make male whores any less of a disease to society.

[Asker]

What's with the insults? I haven't been rude to you nor do i act rude when you have an opposing opinion or view. I challenge your views but never hurl insults. Men will never be considered whores even if that's how you think

[LazerBean]

Facts are insulting? Wow that's a serious you problem. I see all you can do is complain and deflect when the facts that refute you are presented. Keep coping whore.

[Asker]

"Is that why the bastard children like yourself that are produced by whore men are disproportionately" a bastard child is a child who's father disappears and is a no show in the kids life. My father is still with my mother after 20 years of marriage. That was an insult by you, not a fact

[LazerBean]

If you aren't lying, then I apologize. Usually when men have the morals of ghetto black men it's because they are fatherless. I guess yours was just really shitty even though he stuck around. So now that you're done deflecting go ahead and explain why bastard children are disproportionately failures and why men with higher body counts have less marital satisfaction.

[Asker]

You're making assumptions based off of my beliefs and something that has been a part of society for years and years. And now you're making the claim that men with higher body counts can't have stable relationships? Bro 💀

[LazerBean]

You mean beliefs that have been growing in coincidence with illegitimate childen and broken families? And actually I'm just regurgitating known statistics. Not that yoi care about stats.

[Asker]

You've just been throwing insults. What actual stats? When it comes to hook up culture (debatable if that even exist). Women are effected by it more

[LazerBean]

I mean it doesn't take a genius to see what whore men have don't to children in the African American community, but since you can't put two and two together here are the links

www.fatherhood.gov/.../e000002005.pdf

ifstudies.org/.../does-sexual-history-affect-marital-happiness

[Asker]

Part of that problem is the men women choose to let impregnate them

[LazerBean]

Yeah, for sure. That's what I've been saying, women whores choose worthless whore men instead of ostracizing males whores like they are supposed to.

[LazerBean]

Whores of one gender could not exist without whores of the other gender.

[Asker]

Whos the gatekeeper of sex?

[smashleyy]

no. I’ve dated a guy with a “dad bod”. If anything men being over weight is more acceptable

[Asker]

If men are trying to attract women, generally what do women find attractive? A guy that's in shape

[smashleyy]

Why ask for peoples opinions if you’re just going to disagree with everyone that doesn’t say yeah

[Asker]

Is there a rule saying i can't disagree?

[smashleyy]

There’s a thing called just remaining neutral

[Anonymous]

No, that is a myth.

[Asker]

Lol go on social media right now and look at the fat chicks get attention from men in the comments. "Yas queen" "You sexy 😍" "I wanna take you out"

[Anonymous]

Its all about personality,