Do non-virgin but emotionally not damaged girls exist?

[Anonymous]

I am still a virgin and never had a relationship. Girls around my age range or even lower virgins are almost impossible and I don't actively look for any. But with women with a past of dating is becoming horrible. On almost all dates they start to bash first their ex-boyfriends, then men in general. Like men are pigs, men do that that to women, men are promiscuous and can't be trusted.

I have never done anything bad to a single woman or had a relationship but every woman turns out to be like this either on first dates or after a few and it's a huge turn-off for me. I had bad experiences with women but why should I feel guilty which I never had done ever?

[Anonymous]

Yes, non-virgin girls who are emotionally healthy and not damaged do exist. It's important to remember that every person is unique and has their own experiences and perspectives. It's not fair to generalize all women or men based on the behavior of a few individuals.

It's understandable that you may feel frustrated or turned off by women who bash their ex-boyfriends or men in general. It's important to communicate your feelings and boundaries in a respectful way, and to prioritize your own well-being and values in any dating situation.

It may also be helpful to seek support from a therapist or counselor to work through any negative experiences or beliefs you may have about women or relationships. A therapist can provide guidance and support as you navigate the dating world and help you find ways to build healthy relationships based on mutual respect and trust.

[EricSummer]

It is quite common that a woman would like to complain about an ex. At least you get some important hints about what she really finds unacceptable. It is better than if she still longed for her ex and wanted to go back to him.

Why is it such a problem for you? Just listen to what she has to say and at maximum add that you also value faithfulness a lot, for example, if the complaint is about cheating. Try to understand her, but do not join in bashing her exes.

And then focus on the two of you...

[Spongebobssocks]

Yes they exist and why haven't you had sex yet?

[Asker]

From a very strict religious family , not allowed to even talk to girls till 18 , then got busy with studies (bachelor's , master's , research) work. After COVID had long sickness , still studying so don't have money like guys of my age range and that's a turn off for a lot of women , and never found anyone interested in me for relationships

[Asker]

Wait , got few relationship or sexual proposal but rejected as I didn't like the girl. I am single for a long time , don't wanna do it just for sex anymore

[Spongebobssocks]

Then its on you. You rejected the girls thats on you. I'm not saying its wrong to decline but dont complain then

[Asker]

So I should have forced myself into sex with girls that I don't even like?

[Spongebobssocks]

again no like I said its not bad that you decline. But if you decline you can't complain about being a virgin

[Asker]

Have you read what I have written at all? I am not complaining about being a virgin. It's like every girl is bitter about there past relationships or men in general and they complain about men doing bad to them.

[Spongebobssocks]

I did read. And no not every girl does that I already answered that parg

[Spongebobssocks]

*part. Its the first thing I answered

[Asker]

Then why you jumped to the conclusion that I am complaining about being a virgin? I am not, I am okay with it. There was too much on my plate.

[Spongebobssocks]

Well you really trying to tell me you are an adult male that is at least 25 years old who is okay with not having sex? Thats extremely rare..

[Asker]

So what should I do, be creepy about it, through tantrums that I have never had sex with?
I have had way more difficulties in my life, perhaps other guys never had to overcome that much in their life. From abusive parents to bullying, to professors who take your work credit, and friends who ditch you after you have saved them from almost getting killed. When you have a life like mine, you just want a good girl. I even miss genuine care from a single person ever. Besises you can't miss something you never had.

[Spongebobssocks]

First off stop conplaining and stop seeing yourself as a victim. Change your language in your head. Instead of complaining say "I get to go to work today", "I get to Explorer the single market" etc. And take care of yourself. Maybe go out to a club , loosen up a bit. Have fun.

[Spongebobssocks]

Thank you for MHO!

[Nikki1989]

Where are you meeting these women?

[Asker]

University, music concert , at a friend's party

[OlderAndWiser]

If EVERY woman treats you the same way, they are either reacting to something you are doing, or you are consistently finding and attacting hostile women. ALL women are NOT like what you decribed.

[Asker]

In just conversation they pull out shot about their ex boyfriends , relationship then men , how am I doing something weird?
I actually don't even had a relationship before or done anything bad to any girl

[OlderAndWiser]

1. Trust me: EVERY woman does not do these things.

2. Either you are having an incredible run of bad luck, or you are doing something that makes this happen. Which explanation is more lkely? I'm not there so I don't see what's happening.

[inhua]

wow the gaslighting and shame tactics

lmao you've done something wrong even when you've done nothing wrong

had the genders been flipped, no girl is gonna accept a guy who bashes his ex-girlfriends and more importantly users here would show her support

[slatyb]

Absolutely. Very few women your age are still virgins. if anyone is emotionally damaged, it's you.