Do people get into a relationship with you or fall for you because of your looks or your personality?

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Leapfrog00 · Accepted Answer

There's been times when girls have flirted with me, calling me cute, though that's a matter of opinion. A couple of them told me the first thing they noticed when they fell for me were my eyes. My one Ex had a thing for blue eyes and freckles. I don't have a lot of freckles, but they're noticeable. I wish I didn't have them.

I tried everything to get rid of them. Freckle remover doesn't work either! A waste of 9.95, plus 4.95 shipping and handling! A lot of the girls I dated thought I was funny. Little did they know, I crack jokes when I'm nervous, and I get nervous around girls! For sure!

The best relationship I had was based on personality, She liked me for me and not my looks. I could talk to her for hours. God, I miss her!

TooHot2Care · Accepted Answer

Apparently, I’m a beautiful man ….. no seriously, the last club I went to the bartender thought I was bi because I was fashionable and I quote : “a beautiful man.”

BUT…… I’ve spoken to enough girls to know: Looks don’t mean shit, I usually find success when I talk about poetry or art or get vulnerable.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

It might look like they’re checking out my boobs, but they’re like really just looking past the girls and focusing on my heart and personality because i have like, a lot to offer you know

Mysteryuser123456789 · Accepted Answer

Both

TheorionMage · Answer

Across a club , you don't get exposed to her 'personality',  its her look and style ...  your  approach and HER frame-of-mind determines  what aspect of her personality you experience.  (Either or BOTH... of you may be having an 'off' night.)  Think of the lyrics of Roy Orbison's ballad:  'Pretty Woman'  ~ Ideally, you EACH seek to project the optimal fantasized 'best' impression. Actual experience, either validates or refutes THAT 'first impression'.  You NEVER get a 'second chance' to make that FIRST impression.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Both.
I average looking. I am pleasant and upbeat. They learned of my easy going personality and opens up. they become comfortable with me and we open up and have good conversations. If there is a connection…we continue…otherwise we move on.

MysticAngel5000 · Answer

I voted for combination. I am told by many that I'm attractive. I hear pretty, cute, beautiful, etc. a lot. I've even had some fellow ladies tell me I'm pretty. I view myself as relatively average.

It seems people love my personality as well. I get told I'm kind, caring, a very pleasant person to talk to, I'm understanding, I'm a good listener, a hard worker, and have a good sense of humor.

I've heard that I am also good in bed.

With relationships, it ultimately just depends on the people involved and the timing. Don't give up - there's someone out there for all of us if we want to be with someone. Don't rush it. Just go with the flow and let things come naturally.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

It's a mix of personality and of being impressed by my work ethic. I may not be the most skilled, but I put conscious effort into whatever I do.

Even then, I tend to be very pedantic, and my big brother instinct doesn't always comprehend boundaries. If she's into something just plain wrong and dangerous, she's suddenly baby sister walking on the stove, and I have to pull her off before she gets burned, even if she resents me for it. So flaky women grow tired of me quickly.

NathanDavis · Answer

interest, intrigue, attraction... all that might arise over looks and appearance, yes

but if I end up in a relationship with someone... that is mostly based in our personalities, our compatibility, character, and of course... how well do we along with each other and the feelings that develop from all of that

MementoMori777 · Answer

No one has ever specified into that but I'd assume it's my personality because I attract women way out of my league sometimes and I know that's not from my looks but I know I'm not hideous or they wouldn't even give me a change to express my personality 🤠

ChiTown33 · Answer

I think it's my sweet jumper.😂 The women that take liking to me always seem so random and out of left field. I think it's less me and more them. And what that is I couldn't tell you. Either way I've never really had a relationship because I know what ever drew them to me will disappear as quickly as it appeared so I don't really worry about it anymore.

mandyfire98 · Answer

She's been a mix of both. My looks usually got their attention and my personality is what made them want to actually be in a relationship with me. That and I'm also great in bed 😂😂

dragoblack · Answer

Never been in a relationship, so fuck if i know. Not many women find me attractive for some reasons and 95% of those that usually find me attractive, are usually very unattractive to me. Finding mutual attraction is very hard for me (and my standards are not very high).

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I am a decent looking guy, however, I think it is more my sense of humor and the fact that I listen that makes them fall for me in the end. I am also somewhat intelligent and can carry a conversation.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I have no idea. Girls today tell me I'm handsome but I think they're lying. They didn't know how I was in bed until we started dating. Maybe it's my personality that they liked.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I'm average looks and pretty quirky and eccentric. Sadly I think it is usually because of where I live.

Chrysantenum95 · Answer

Well it usually starts they liking me, if i like them back they don't like me. So it ends on im the only one liking and im the one-sided feeling😩

soe11 · Answer

My look and personality. Respect everyone Communication according to person and nature. Adaptable and adjustable.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Only ever had one person fall for me and truthfully it was so long ago that I forgot her reasons for doing so.

YourExLover69 · Answer

Been complimented in the past by few mainly because of looks. No one is interested in me seriously though

Anemone978 · Answer

A bit of both but more so my personality lol

clampfan101 · Answer

It feels like no one even notices me. If anything I assume it would be my personality, but I’m rather hard on myself. (Also they won’t know how good I am in bed unless they marry me.)

DermalPunch · Answer

All my serious partners have told me it's how I make them feel.

Legendarylegacy13 · Answer

Even on a bad day ladies still like me. I Call it its more than one way to skin a cat. A mix of both.

FreyaRed · Answer

In few relationships I had no one really cared about my personality. Society is superficial and vain, only physical and financial assets really matter.

peedy · Answer

Nierher nobody gets into a relationship with me I am one of the lucky few that get to live their life alobe

mobiusforniner · Answer

I dont consider myself super attractive. But i do carry an optimistic and charismatic attitude, smile all the time and behave with self confidence.

Iron_Man · Answer

It’s a combination of looks personality and character

Jerre · Answer

I think because it’s my personality and being good in bed

spartan55 · Answer

They fall for the complete Spartan package.

Roula2000 · Answer

I like to believe bit a both. No personality looks is just one nighter.

mstoxicprincess · Answer

usually what causes the guys attention are my looks. i am very attractive … my personality is a lot of fun but im also a very complicated girl -as do they say hehe 😜

Nerdvana · Answer

I have come to believe that most of us fall in love with our eyes, before we fall in love with our hearts.

Reddy4it · Answer

I think it’s a combo…

Fuentes · Answer

All of the above except nobody likes me

RavVid · Answer

So I have been told. Don't get it myself.

exitseven · Answer

It is still a mystery to me.

Justneedtokno · Answer

I honestly have no idea why some guys like me

Guardian45 · Answer

What can I say without bragging?

nawtee_me · Answer

You would have to ask them….

Sera10 · Answer

I have a couple guys I just hook up with

LavLavLuv · Answer

A mix of both.. Haha

Wise4myage · Answer

Mix of both.

PointTaken · Answer

I really don't know.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

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