How can someone approach the dating scene with confidence and authenticity?

[field]

I have a date coming up and I really want to impress her. She's smart and very beautiful and it's our first date. Can you give me some tips?

[kylee2437]

Be yourself and be open to understanding her and what she does without judgment. Embrace someone’s differences as long as they aren’t harmful to you. Plan a good time without looking like you spent way too much effort behind it.

[ShadezMcgee]

Do not try to impress her, this will have the opposite effect. By doing that you are pedastalizing her and making a fantasy of someone you know little about.

Ask her questions about herself, take her some place fun where you guys can interact and take pressure off and relax like mini golf, play darts and pool at a bar, go bowling, etc.

Listen to what she says, if she asks you questions be authentic and honest, don't lie. Do not change your opinions on a stance that matches hers if you don't align with it. Stay true to yourself at all times and check in with yourself through the date to see if you like what you experienced with her. If you did, ask her out again a few days after the date. If you didn't enjoy it or feel a connection, just let her k ow at the end of the date you enjoyed your time but don't see it going any further and leave it at that.

[Anonymous]

' I really want to impress her.'

This mindset is a fail. Most men don't know their own value so they adopt this mindset of placing the woman on a pedestal. When the date should be about you ascertaining what she would bring to your life and whether she was suitable. A woman's life can be elevated simply from knowing a good man. Therefore there are really no tips that can be given to you because you have this mindset and it cannot be gone over night.

[purplepoppy]

If she's agreed to a date she already sees potential in you so don't worry about trying to impress. She already knows what you look like and probably knows most of your downsides but has ranked them unimportant to her.

What she wants is someone who will make her feel good about herself and will have a good time around. So be fun but not foolish, complimentary not creepy, confident not cocky.

[Truthatanycost]

No. Agreeing to a date could also mean she sees potential for a free meal... but yes, he definitely shouldn't be trying to impress her. All women should be taken down from the pedestal!

[Anonymous]

You're ready when you get to the point where you're just kind of like "whatever". Don't get me wrong, I'd like it to work out well. But I know I'm only 50% of the interaction. It doesn't matter if she's not feeling it. So I always go into every date with low expectations and with the attitude that I'm just going to have fun.

[richardcory]

Realize that the goal is having fun and finding someone you are compatible with. Its not some sort of contest you are trying to "win".

[TheMadLad]

Money

show them the dollar bills

[slatyb]

Authority? You don't need authority. Just be polite and PAY ATTENTION. Most importantly, LISTEN when she is talking. If you're bored, then no matter how beautiful she is not for you.

[Nikki1989]

Be charming, funny and show good manners and the rest will be so easy.

[Jltakk]

I hate this saying but "Be Yourself". Just wing it and treat it like you're with your best friend. Be authentic because that is what she will see more than anyone in the future.

[Ceslovas]

Don't try.. to imprrss her at all.

[shades777]

by being confident and authentic