I 19f grew up in a family where I played the role of the most successful child. I was never allowed to talk to other kids who didn't have the same lifestyle (I still did secretly) and I was taught to only date the most brilliant boys. I have a long list of achievements dating from when I was 13, and that made my dating game feel valid. I gave up my childhood working for my father and living with my toxic families standards, and being abused. When I was 15 I met a boy whose parents owned a few local hotels and restaurants, my parents pushed me towards him, and even allowed me to move in with him when I was 16. We dated for a few years, and the entire relationship fucked my head up. I was forced to lose a child, he tried to kill me, he hit me, his family was constantly gaslighting and abusing me verbally, he cheated on me with dozens of people, but I loved him and I thought he loved me. I eventually left him and I had nothing. I was two years behind in college because I was so fucked up, I had no clothing, I even lost my job because of poor performance, and i was depressed for months. I wanted to die so badly. Until I got my shit together. My dad is exiled from my life, my friends are who I choose, I wear whatever I want, I talk to whoever I want, and most importantly I’m dating with no regard to what they have and only who they are. I have an amazing job, I graduate in a year, and my current boyfriend is priceless, he doesn’t treat me like property, he encourages me, and in 1 year of us dating he’s never raised his voice at me. I’m still recovering from the loss of my baby, even though it was forever ago. I won’t have children, I won’t move in with a man or meet his family until we’re engaged, I won’t have sex without birth control. I won’t date unless it’s for love again, I’m already ambitious, I’ve achieved a lot I feel, and I can do that with or without someone.
And want to know the best part of it all?
I never told a soul.
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Good for you, just please be careful
I'm sorry that happened to you, I'm glad you came out of it an even more beautiful and well rounded person. Diamonds are made under pressure.
Just remember nothing lasts forever and it's better to adapt than to stay the same and move on sometimes. Probably more times than not.
I hope you reach your goals.
Wow that's a crazy backstory but I'm glad you've managed to make the most beneficial decisions at the end and you were able to find a caring boyfriend and a better job and better life in general, I'm proud of your accomplishments 😌🙏