Guys would you give a below average looking girl a chance if she were to approach you first and make the first move?

[coachTanthony]

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Who’s to determine what below average is tho? And see why can guys go based off just looks, but if women do, they’re labeled as shallow or only attracted to bad boy types blah blah…
Physical attraction is important yes but you can be attracted to someone for more than just looks… Lola only go so far because I don’t care how good it looks on the outside If it’s shit on the inside, well shit is shit… Anyone, male or female that goes by just looks and not if they’rea fit for you, or that’s all they have found for them, well then don’t complain later when they’re not all you thought they’d be🤷‍♀️

[coachTanthony]

The question is based off looks. Nobody giving everyone a chance to see if their personality is great lol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Well then that’s their loss right🤷‍♀️

[coachTanthony]

If you are just looking for half a package sure lol

[DarkLegacy]

It is women that slate men more for going of looks, one woman even told me i was not allowed to.

[nastyb]

Very true. If you look like shit, nobody would want to get to know how amazing your personality is

[Cynicaldreamer]

I'm just here for the comments. Genuinely curious to hear what men say-

As an "below average" female that yes, has approached and asked out guys on dates, can confirm I still get rejected and/or friendzoned 😂

But go on guys, tell me how you wish women would approach you more: no, you only want women that YOU deem as attractive to ask you out! There's a difference.

[coachTanthony]

I think many guys would see it as a breath of fresh air once in a while.

[Avicenna]

Agreed, Coach, especially if she demonstrates a good personality.

[Guardian45]

What are you doing Saturday night?

[DarkLegacy]

Good to hear, women are only interested in looks these days

[Cynicaldreamer]

@Guardian45 Same thing I do every Saturday night: raiding on WoW, then going to bed early, LOL

[Guardian45]

"raiding on WoW"? Pardone?

[Sasha0426]

@DarkLegacy Wasn’t that always a thing?

[DarkLegacy]

@Sasha0426 No it is a millennial/ gen z thing

[Blueeyes81]

But go on guys, tell me how you wish women would approach you more: no, you only want women that YOU deem as attractive to ask you out! There's a difference.

Welcome to manhood.

[Cynicaldreamer]

@Blueeyes81 I mean this in this nicest way... was that supposed to be a burn?
Try harder.

I've been rejected most of my life- that's why I can joke and laugh about it!
I never said men shouldn't reject women, or vice versa- it's called not being attracted to said person.

A woman approaching a man won't make a difference if he's not attracted to her: is it an ego boost? Perhaps. But no, he's not entitled to date her.

[Blueeyes81]

Not a burn at all. More of a roundabout pep talk. What I was getting at is that when you approach you get rejected. Rejected way more than you'd think. No one tells you that shit when your young. They say just be yourself and the rest will fall in place. But I'll tell you what sooner or later you do get a yes, and even though it may not work out, its worth it. Its not how many times you get knocked down its how many tines you get up. That all sounds cliche but its true.

For what its worth I have always appreciated you. You're funny. Insightful and cynical. And the world needs cynics. Without them there would be no one to curb optimists confidence. How do you think a parachute was created? It wasn't the guy dreaming of flying. I just wish you'd stop being a cynic with yourself. I'm not good with mushy shit but you need to cut yourself some slack every now and again. You make gag a better place. Now I'm off to be a cynic.

[MrOracle]

I'm not that picky about looks - I'm a lot more picky about morals and values and attitudes. I've dated girls who were objectively below-average in looks but were amazing girls, and it was never an issue for me.

[Avicenna]

I always do. If she’s bold and sincere enough to take the initiative, I’ll play along.

[DaveJord]

Serious Tanthony Chelsea Clinton?

Yeah, I would hit it.

[JamesMI616]

I would give any girl a chance if she made the first move. You never know who you will click with. Sometimes a girl you never thought of that way can make a move and all of a sudden I see her in that light. With that said it's very difficult being in a relationship with someone you aren't that attracted to. I don't consider myself anything other than average as far as looks go, so I'm not judging anyone else based on solely looks. On the flip side I have tried something based on just the connection and even though I loved her the sex was never right because the physical chemistry just wasn't there. I believe this led to her resenting me.

[BoopBoopBeep]

If you're talking 3s and 4s, I have at least grabbed lunch and contemplated a friendship with every woman who has asked me out that wasn't overtly racist or suffered from clear and present danger from her hygiene. If you're talking about a 1 or a 2 that may be harder, but I've never been approached by one of those. Several of those did turn into at least "acquaintanceships", though friendships usually were prevented through other means, namely not having enough in common unrelated to her, as you put it, below average looks.

[Anonymous]

Would a woman give a below avg. guy a chance if he were to approach and make the first move? No! So, NO! Nobody gives a s*** about your feelings, your effort, or willingness to put it all out there ok. But that's ok that's thier business. Not everyone is going to dig you. He'll, most people might not dig you. But you only need to find one. And if you're ugly that might take a little longer is all. It's been my experience that MOST people are s*** when it comes to relationship regardless of whether they're attractive or not. So just because someone is attractive and the reject doesn't really mean you're missing out on anything. 😆

[coachTanthony]

No but they are approached daily and are numb to it. Apples and Oranges.

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly. Which is why I'm selective about the women I choose to give my time to. I only give it to those women that EARN it. But her perceived past rejections are not my problem. Anymore than mine are hers. If she's not healed she should probably deal with that first. The fact that she finds herself ugly is a problem. And she should probably deal with that before putting herself out there.

[coachTanthony]

Nobody said ugly. Nobody said she perceives herself as anything. LOL This is based off your perspective of what's average.

[Opinion Owner]

No you said below avg. "Ugly" can mean many things. Yes this is based off your perspective of what I meant.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Well, I once approached a guy. It was pretty funny. So, it was my friend’s birthday this January and I wanted to “gift” him a nice guy.

So, we went to a bar, I quickly scanned, found two sexy guys, later on found out - one was Brazilian one German.

Then bought drinks for them and asked the bartender to give them and don’t tell whi it was from, instead say “It’s from the most beautiful girls in the bar, find us.”

They found us soon haha.

We had a great evening, but both of the guys ended up liking me, so it wasn’t like much of a gift for my friend. I had a nice flirt with both of them, felt good after a break up.

[smilelots]

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder ,, what is most important to me is charactor and how we jell get along etc things in common that bring us together not looks ,, so much ,, you can fall in love with anyone if you just see them and whats inside that counts most.. in my opinion

[Astarlessnightsky]

I would give a tree a chance if he approached me first

[coachTanthony]

LMAO.

[RingOfFire]

First I would have to see her official Looks Certification card containing the "Below Average" designation. Couldn't make any decision without the proof first!

[coachTanthony]

LOL.

[Faith18letsgo]

I’m not a guy but I am gay. Sure I would! Honestly even though I’m pretty attractive I don’t care that much about looks like yeah when I first meet someone if they’re hot I’ll be like WOW but after a while I just like them more. Similarly if someone’s not supper attractive I don’t really care because after a while all the things I love about them are the things I notice.

[Esbatmad]

Unlike women in general that have a "looks before personality" policy, I base my choices on what's inside! It is a MYTH that guys only want to be with the most attractive for a physical hook-up only.

But women prove the shallow opposite for themselves when it comes to dating men based on their actions.

[Adam1978]

She will have a better chance then if she sits and wait for me. Because I wouldn't make the move. I know how hard it can be to approach someone so I would at least hear her out.

[Anonymous]

Define below average. Looks is subjective, dude. Stop being so narrow-minded and think out of the box

[coachTanthony]

Be nice or be gone.

[Guanfei]

Girl in the pic isn't below average, far from it. And yes, I would, probably. Considering I'm myself below mediocre.

[coachTanthony]

That’s Hillary Clinton super below avg lol

[Anonymous]

Well most below average guys on here will say no anyway so that makes this post pure trolling and the pics chosen are clickbait.

[coachTanthony]

LOL.

[richardcory]

Looks are not the most important thing. I would not reject a woman I found less than average attraction if she wanted to talk to me

[Pohjolan]

Average is contextual as women in different countries are not equally pretty on average.

Like I might give a under average French gal a shot.

[PointTaken]

I'm not exactly sure what you mean by below average, but yes. I would. I'll talk to her and maybe we would connect. Its mostly about the attitude.

[Jazzy54]

Below average according to whom? Everyone has different tastes and preferences. One man may think a girl is “average” while another man may think she’s absolutely gorgeous.

[coachTanthony]

Obviously according to the person answering the question.

[Jazzy54]

Oh okay. Well, it depends on the man. Again, one man may think a girl is “below average” while another may think she’s absolutely gorgeous.

[coachTanthony]

Exactly right.