How do I move forward when I keep seeing this shit?

[Anonymous]

I am 28 and never had a girlfriend. I missed out on a lotnof developmental milestones growing up. Then I see this shit:

I snapped this photo

I am thinking about creating an online incel diary documenting my experiences.

[Anonymous]

You're still young man. In about 5 to 10 years this is going to start changing. All these women who ignore you, have ignored you. Will start being ignored themselves by the men who currently show them interest. Those ones that get fed up with it will then decide to give you a shot. Then it's up to you whether you want give them a shot or ignore them. I speak from experience man. I let them chase me now. Because now my price is higher. After 40 a guy holds the Trump cards, not women. And we can afford to wait, she can't. Because she knows she's only going to get older and less physically desirable.

[Asker]

I don't want to be the guy a woman just settles with. I don't want to be the Plan B. Fuck that!

[Asker]

... and if I wasn't an option then, why do I want to be her option later?

[Opinion Owner]

I got news for you man. Perfect love doesn't exist. You think at 40+ a guy is going to get a virgin?😆 Maybe if she's got deep psychological problems. At that age you have to accept a guy has already planted his flag on her. Most likely multiple guys.😆 But the question is dud she learn anything from it? If she's talking to you most likely she has. But her past is not your problem. She still has to EARN you. If she doesn't want to, buh-bye.
You can't look at this the way you're looking at it man. Women are not spoils of war. They're people! Just a gender that use very flawed logic when it comes to choosing men which is why so many of them choose so badly. That's why we as good guys got to be the logic for them. And if they're smart they listen. If not she just has to learn the hard way. But it's not your problem.

[Opinion Owner]

Women make mistakes dude. They're human. Just don't tolerate a woman who repeatedly makes the same ones.

[Asker]

But if I haven't been in a relationship myself, why would I give her the opportunity to be my first relationship? Especially if she has been through the wringer?

[Opinion Owner]

Because that's what relationships are. Taking a chance on you. Look at it from her point of view. She's taking a chance on you. She can't know you're a decent guy. You're an unknown quantity.
I never said you shouldn't DEMAND respect from her. NEVER be with anyone that thinks you're not good enough for them. This is why I said I make them chase me. Because when I was younger I had nothing but my word. Now I've built a life single. She has to PROVE to me that my life is better with her in it. Again, if she doesn't want to do that, buh-bye. A guys role in life is service to the woman he loves. But she's still got to earn that love. You have to understand a lot of these women were never taught that in life. a lot of them had some really s***ty male role models. Again this isn't your problem. But as a guy it is your DUTY to 1. Know your worth 2. Demand that she respect herself 3. Respect you. If she doesn't want to do that, buh-bye. You're a guy man KNOW YOUR POWER! These women aren't rejecting you. They're simply too stupid to see your value. When one comes along who does you reward her for it. Not punish her for all the women who didn't.

[DaveJord]

This so funny to me, because I get it brother! Like WTF, right?

[Asker]

Story of my life

[DaveJord]

Tell me about it. lol

[TrueConfection]

Being the kind of guy that secretly takes pictures of other people certainly doesn't add to your appeal.

You need to work on yourself instead of putting the blame on your circumstances and experiences.

[Summeroflove]

Whose that girl looking at you?

[Billlewis]

The first thing I recommend that you do is to try to acknowledge the good things about your situation. If you can successfully trade your feelings of disappointment for the possibility of being excited about other guy's relationships, I think that may help you develop more self confidence and boost your ego. Just a thought.

[Christoff92]

Seeing a beautiful girl of your dreams with a guy. It's tough. But instead of being envy and jealous of other guys winning that girl.

You want to do is built consistent and fearless confidence over yourself. Then you'll see how many girls would actually like you and would also want you to approach them 😏😉😎

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Well, age 28 is when I had my first girlfriend (now ex)

[Truthatanycost]

You've labelled yourself as an incel... thus that becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. When you move beyond identifying yourself through females then that is when you will attract them.

[Anonymous]

Even though I would eventually Escape forever alone status I still feel this way because I feel that my 20s were a waste

[SnowedIn]

What is the picture supposed to show us?

[Asker]

A young couple

[Static_In_The_Attic]

It’s probably his sister!

[thedaffodils]

Why do you think that you are single?

[Asker]

Lack of opportunity. I am no longer in school. I usually work remote. Opportunities to meet single women my age organically are uncommon. Online dating has become the de faco way to date. For an average man, he is screwed. Coupled with my social deficits and standards, it is a nightmare.

[thedaffodils]

I am really sorry to hear that.

[BoopBoopBeep]

You're never going to meet a woman from your home office and online dating is garbage. You work 8 hours a day you sleep 6-7 hours, you have 8 hours a day to go out and do something in your community and meet women. Plus weekends. Find something you're passionate about and do that. In a group. With other people. Even if everyone there is spoken for they'll refer you to their single friends. I participate in a charity 5k/10k/half marathon every weekend. I see a lot of the same people at different races. Last race was 9k people and I had two come up and say they remembered me from former races (I stand out a little since I'm wearing armor). I do a lot of volunteer work and fundraising for animal shelters/charities in the area. You know who else likes animals? Single women. Visit your local museum. Some of them actually have nice cafes there. Higher caliber of woman hanging out there than the trashy starbucks on the corner where the homeless guy craps on the floor once a week... certainly more established in her career field so you're not meeting baggers at walmart. I work remotely now, but when I was in the office (I was in a relationship then) there were a TON of women saying they never meet any single guys and would always complain to me about "where are all the single men" and whatnot. Well apparently they're working from home and complaining they don't meet anyone. So stop! You can do this... but you can't if you're wasting time on some online incel journal. FFS does that sound like something that is going to be helpful to you? You invite a woman over, show her your incel. blogspot. com site and think she's going to gush over your command of the written word?

What are your social deficits and standards? Other than never having a girlfriend.

[In_Trance]

I think i know why you've never touched a woman

[Asker]

Umm... why?

[Asker]

I have lost my virginity. It was 8 years ago. Haven't even kissed a woman since.

[Jltakk]

I feel you, stay strong brother.