Would you date a alcoholic?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Dating someone who struggles with alcoholism or has a history of alcohol addiction can present challenges and complexities. It's important to approach such situations with care and consideration for your own well-being and that of the other person.

Before pursuing a relationship with someone who is an alcoholic or has a history of alcoholism, it is crucial to understand the potential risks and dynamics involved. Alcoholism can have a significant impact on an individual's health, behavior, and relationships. It can lead to emotional and physical dependence, affecting their ability to maintain stable and healthy connections.

If you decide to enter into a relationship with someone who is an alcoholic or in recovery, it is essential to establish open and honest communication. Supporting them through their journey and encouraging them to seek professional help or attend support groups, such as Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), can be beneficial. It's important to set healthy boundaries and take care of your own well-being as well.

Ultimately, whether or not to date someone with a history of alcoholism is a personal decision. It may depend on various factors, such as the individual's commitment to recovery, the extent of their progress, and your own ability to handle the challenges that may arise. It is recommended to seek guidance from professionals, such as therapists or counselors, who can provide specific advice based on your circumstances and relationship dynamics.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

No , but I would date a girl that likes to drink on occasion or likes to drink with me , Alcoholic to me is someone that drinks every day that needs alcohol to function in life I am not that way what so ever , I like to drink beers on the weekends or special occasions to relax and unwind , with friends People that don’t drink at all will call me a weekend alcoholic , which is fine everyone one makes assumptions of someone else so even though I know I don’t get that crazy with it and sometimes I do when I am having fun , that’s something I enjoy and I don’t care what other’s think or say , Cuz I honestly love the taste of craft beers mainly IPA’s , if I get buzzed or a little drunk I know my limits for the most part , Alcohol can fuck with your emotions but it can also help you relax and not give a fuck about shit that you are dealing with , Alcohol usually makes me smile and have fun when I am with the right people so that’s all that matters to me , so if she likes to drink with me and socialize and she is still loyal and honest with me her drinking won’t effect me , if she is drinking and using it as an excuse to go whore around and get into trouble then she isn’t the girl for me period

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

I dated one but couldn't tell he was one. Always so happy go lucky. Then one day he came over and was really upset and remorseful sounding.

It was then that he told me he was an alcoholic. He had a job where he could take his boys in the truck with him. Apparently that particular night scared him.
He said that he is so drunk he doesn't know if the light was red or green - he just went!
I stopped dating him because I didn't want him to get in an accident and kill or disable any of us (I had a son too). No thanks!

Anemone978 · Accepted Answer

No way in hell would I ever even consider it. My parents were both alcoholics and it was a hard life which was scary and traumatizing. I never wanted that life for me or my children! I think it is a disgusting life style and selfish as fuck. That is why as an adult I love my parents but I do not give one fuck about their feelings, if they piss me off I flat out tell them because they never cared about my feelings growing up so why should I care about theirs?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I did. I don't recommend it under any circumstances!

Account · Answer

No. Enough is enough, I am not mother Theresa. Nor am I able to save people who do not wish to be saved. No. I have to put my sanity first.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Hell no unless he’s willing to save himself.

nolabels · Answer

I'm an alcoholic who completely stopped drinking for about 40 years.

I've been retired from working for quite a few years.

A few years back, I took up drinking a little bit of whiskey to pair with my cigars.

I became physically ill two years ago, with the pain becoming unbearable in the early months of this year. The medical community has done nothing to help me.

I've increased my drinking to help the pain. It works.

If drinking becomes problematic for me, I'll stop.

I'd date me.

My wife of 30 years did.

We met when I'd been already been sober for some years.

She's fine with my drinking now.

Apple1996 · Answer

I'm married to a alcoholic and it sucks so bad since it creates a lot of stress and problems.

If I would have known before marrying him then I most likely wouldn't have stayed but stuck here now so I just try to my best to support him in anyway that he needs.

Raaj4you · Answer

I am mature and sensitive enough to understand others feelings. I would give her a chance only if she promises me that she'll drink only on the weekends or on the occasions. If her drinking habit becomes worse then I have to dump and leave her. Drinking, smoking, taking drugs, all types of addictions are a  BIG financial burden  on the person and on the family. Addictions can have serious health complications on women's pregnancy and child birth.

WonderBell99 · Answer

Never. My parents have never tasted even a single drop of alcohol and I’m sure they will not be happy if I drink either. I would not date anyone who makes poor life choices and gives into addictions. I think this is something that they should disclose early on in the relationship.

MrWolf · Answer

That's a No! Never again I would say. Had a terrible experience before few years dating a girl. Didn't know she had a drinking problem till it escalated in a horrible nightmare.

I'd say if they don't do something about it and asmit they have a problem even when you confront them about it. I'd say run away. This addiction ain't a joke sure it's fun the first few times but after the fifth time ain't a joke anymore.

Honest-Matt · Answer

If they showed the discipline and earnest to recover and leave alcohol behind them, yes. But it's probably unlikely in most circumstances. I grew up with an alcoholic mother and to this day deal with it. I have no patience or sympathy for people who allow themselves to stay in that kind of darkness when I pulled myself out or away from it.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I would not, I don't like most peoples behavior when they drink, people that take drugs that includes smoking. Women seem worst in private when intoxicated as the men I've seen were more fun. The drug is masking some emotional crap and that comes out on the person closest to them.

It's not worth it... stay single and get a dog, or get help to get past the drug.

knottywriter · Answer

I would date an alcoholic that is currently getting help. I would not date someone I knowingly observe is an alcoholic who does not try to get help. Any vice that is an addiction to cope with something in their life on a regular basis is not going to be good in any relationship.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

Nope. Been there done that. It won't happen again.

I'm not against someone drinking. But if I see her take a single drink, I will watch to make sure she has it under control. I will also watch to see how she acts when drinking.

Being an alcoholic, or any kind of heavy drinker, is an absolute deal breaker.

Lliam · Answer

Not knowingly, no, unless they had beat it.

The best girlfriend I ever had, though, was a recovering alcoholic. I didn't know it when we first got together. And I know why she became an alcoholic. But she had pulled herself together and was an absolutely wonderful person. I loved her with all my heart.

BoobSlayer · Answer

I would definitely consider dating an alcoholic with nice boobs, as long as I knew their drinking habits were manageable. Sure, alcohol use can be destructive and dangerous, but it doesn't have to be like that. I believe that every beautiful melon, honker, boobie, tit, milker, chesticle, bazoomba, coconut, fiery biscuit, cantaloupe, boom boom, and noogie deserves to be loved. So what are you waiting for? Let's battle alcoholism and slay your milk monsters!

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Nah... I've dated women who you might be able to say came close to being alcoholics, and that was not a good situation. I felt that way, even when I was a drinker.

I actually totally quit drinking about a month ago though, so now it's totally out of the question for me.

Justneedtokno · Answer

I honestly feel like I wouldn’t know an alcoholic until I’m actually like with them. Only signs that I wouldn’t know is if we’re out on the first dates and it’s all they wanna do or they introduced themselves like that.

And honestly, everybody deserves a chance I feel like if they’re trying to keep their sobriety then I should respect that and I said also let them know what I’m working on. It takes true vulnerability to let someone know what’s going on.

Anonymous · Answer

Truth is I did. I didn’t even break up because of it. Long story. She’s a great woman. She really is. Her job… A lot weighed on her. She was super depressed and tormented mentally. I felt horrible for her. She didn’t deserve it. She’s so caring and sincerely compassionate.

She was super funny though and always had great stories. But seeing her cry brome my heart

DizzyDesii · Answer

I can't stand the smell nor taste nor side effects of alcohol. I prefer not to be around it. I can tolerate a light social drinker if he does not drink daily/weekly/monthly but only a few times a year. But ideally, he wouldn't drink at all

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

If you seen me you'd at least totally have sex with an alcoholic.  I can't even keep all the fat chicks off of me.

Anonymous · Answer

Hard to say. The last 3 women I took a liking to ended up in AA. (I'm not saying I drove them to it.) We weren't even dating. But either they were going for problems they didn't really have. Or I can't identify a functional alcoholic. Only one of them even drank frequently. So apparently in my heart I would even though my head says "no I wouldn't". I guess it's fortunate it never worked out with any of them.

Anonymous · Answer

I have in the past. And those people have issues and lots of problems. That’s why they drink themselves to death.

WhitneySnow · Answer

No. Not unless I really liked them for a long time before I found out they were an alcoholic. And even then I’m not sure.

HappyWoman34 · Answer

I am a recovered alcoholic and I would if he was recovered and committed to a life of sobriety, like I have.

Spongebobssocks · Answer

No. I dont drink alcohol myself. But I wouldn't care if he drinks alochol sometimes as long as he can control it.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Only for an evening. It's good to have a shoulder to cry on when you go out once a year and overdo it.

Anonymous · Answer

No, alcoholism drains a person. I don't want to be around someone who's half dead Look at Ben affleck. He's a recovering alcoholic married to jlo but in public the guy looks miserable.

menina · Answer

No. I've seen what alcohol does to people, I've had to deal with it as a child. I don't recommend it.

asphaltrhymes · Answer

I don't drink, just like I don't smoke, I don't do drugs. So I likely wouldn't date an alco, just as I wouldn't date the other two either. 😜

Kaneki05 · Answer

Depends but mostly no. In such cases were I would it's because they are non-violent alcoholics and more functioning alcoholics.

bolverk · Answer

If I knew they were a alcoholic then No, but most alcoholics are skilled at hiding what they are you never find out about their alcoholism until you've been dating them for a while.

FireGodGoesSeeknFire · Answer

Yes. Have and would again under the right circumstances.

hsshannah96 · Answer

No bad idea  my dad is a recovered alcoholic

Phoenix98 · Answer

No I've had my own issues with alcohol in the past, being with an acholic would be the last thing in the world I need.

SassyAussieAddy · Answer

I am a bit of a lush myself but it is a big nope once the sauce starts to control your life.

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

Nooo way I've seen it in to many people and I've seen how life ruining and toxic it is

JazzGirl27 · Answer

Fuck no! My Dad is an alcoholic it’s a trigger for me

Dinklex3 · Answer

Nope. I worked with alcoholics and my dad is as well. No thanks

Nikki1989 · Answer

Social drinking is fine, being an alcoholic is on a whole other level. No, thanks.

God_of_Thunder · Answer

Nope, been there, done that. NEVER  again.

Adam1978 · Answer

No I wouldn't. No self-destructive behavior in my partner.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

I mean ideally I’d date someone who doesn’t drink at all. Although I’ve noticed that’s not so common.

Anastacia1989 · Answer

Nope!!! Never again!!! Been there and done that and it wasn’t a very good experience or a very healthy relationship….. the guy also got super angry when he drank as well so NO!!!

Valso · Answer

It depends. If she's falling asleep like a stone after getting drunk, that will save me the trouble for me to get her drunk to get what I want from her. :D

jshm2 · Answer

That's like asking to date a mentally ill patient

slatyb · Answer

I would not. I might be sympathetic but I'm not willing to spend time dealing with that.

Sexiestjohnson · Answer

Definitely not. Ony because a alcoholic couldn't use "an" before her name😂

Katebfun · Answer

Hello no that's like dating my father. Nope.

runnerboy · Answer

I do not think so. I would try to get her some help however and if she cleaned things up then who knows!

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe. I would t marry her. But I like to drink myself so if she had alcohol even better. We’d have wild sex, I remember those days lol

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

It depends. Is their alcoholism destroying their life? Or do they just like to have a couple after work every day? Being an alcoholic falls under a spectrum. Some people have it under control, others do not.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope, never. I’m never dating no dr—g addict. I saw enough with my own Dad. Try your best to find someone, mostly sane.

annabananna · Answer

No I never would. My dad was an alcoholic so it would be very triggering for me.

exitseven · Answer

I might. If she was nice and was into me I would date her and see how it works out.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Hey I have you know that many of us in the community are already married and neglecting our children by age 19 missy

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Hell no. Someone who abuses alcohol will abuse themselves and those around them

ColHathi · Answer

Probably not. I don't really see that working out.

Curiousperv77 · Answer

No tried that was a mistake and a year off my life. And nothing but me watching a train wreck in slow motion.

Kathy1983 · Answer

No. Don’t get me wrong I like to drink but I drink cause I like the taste. I don’t drink to get drunk.

TheBiggestLebowski · Answer

No, I wouldn’t. At least, not if said alcoholic weren’t seeking help/recovery. Seems like a recipe for heartbreak, coming from someone with a family history of alcoholism.

Anonymous · Answer

1. It's "An" why can't you speak well? 2. And no I would not.

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