What would you do if an older person of the opposite sex asked you out?

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A lot of questions on here about dating and age gaps. So I wanted to throw a different twist to it and add some action to the question. What would you do if an older person of the opposite sex asked you out? This does not include anyone under the age of 18 by the way. Let's keep it legal.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

Life has proved me to never say never.

I always liked younger men, same age or younger than me. My ex fiance, being 1.5 older than me, sometimes was jealous of younger men, as he knew I liked younger guys before meeting him.

But having this relationship failed, made me more mature.

My mom (47) told me the other day that I am the type of girl who’ll better be understood and appreciated by older men, who price stability in their lives. I think she wanted to say I am boring haha, she said I am too honest and straightforward and younger men might find it less fun, in my experience I am often liked by younger guys but after my break up, I no longer feel as interested in them, as I did before. Witnessing how my ex fiancé changed overtime, how his life ideals changed drastically, how totally different person he became, I figured I don’t want that to happen again.

I thought about my mom’s words and realized, there might be truth in it, especially now that I’ve grown so much after my break up, I think it’s time I stop paying attention to age.

So, what would I do if an older person asked me out? I’d do the same if a younger person asked me out, I’d say yes, if I found him interesting.

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

Older man? Reject, possibly report if he's creepy or stalker enough. I've had this happen often and it sucks. Once had a man OLDER THAN MY FATHER ask me out IN FRONT of said father. It was weird as fuck.

Older woman? It's happened. We went out. It was fun while it lasted, but she was still early in her questioning and found out she was asexual (as well as lesbian - she grew up being pressured to present hetero, so when she started dating me, she thought she'd be into sex. Turns out while she is interested in women, she's still not interested in sex).

I love my aro/ace queer siblings (platonically), but I require sex. So I had to let her go.

I do very much enjoy older people. More than folks my age and certainly more than most younger. My friends with benefits are both younger than me, tho, lol.

nolabels · Accepted Answer

I guess I'm that older person.

My marriage just opened up and I've had my eyes peeled for appropriate sexual and emotional partners.

I've yet to ask anyone out, but I'm finding that age is one of the last things that I consider when contemplating approaching someone for a date.

My number one consideration is physical attraction. I've made the mistake of ignoring that component in the past. I won't do it again.

Next is style. Will this person likely jive with my life or, maybe somewhat conversely, is it possible that their possibly very interesting style might lead me on new adventures, some of which may be to my liking. Who knows until I try?

From there I try to detect various other criteria that are important to me, confidence and humility being high on the list.

I could add to this story by relating my falling in love a few years ago with a 25-year-old woman when I was 61-ish.

My marriage was not then open, and she was herself already attached to another man.

If not for that, we may have gone somewhere.

Situations happen. People fall in love, no matter their ages.

Jersey2 · Accepted Answer

I have had them hit in me. One at a PGA event and she said had a house on the course. I said no thanks. Another one on a cruise ship gave me her number and invited me to her house. I was with my 13 year old daughter and was wearing my ring. She was a bit drunk. I destroyed the number in front of my daughter as I know she would tell my wife. The woman apologized the next day.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Depends on how significantly old they are… if he’s my type and the attraction is there, why not?

ManOnFire · Answer

If a 45 or 50 year old woman asked me out I would  definitely  say yes.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

If he is old enough to be my boss I might say yes but if he is old enough to be my dad then I will say no.

Avicenna · Answer

Assuming I'm single, I'd go out on a date with her if she seemed nice but I wouldn't take it too seriously.

TrueConfection · Answer

It depends on how much older. 10 years older, I would politely decline.

AviatorTom · Answer

Back when I was single, I'd probably say yes... and see if we have fun on a date

Anonymous · Answer

I had a guy 28 years older than me ask me out. I'm 28 years old. But he did it in this weird creepy sly way even though it was obvious what he was doing. He was my coworker and he would try to get me over his apartment by inviting me to things that he made it seem like everyone was going to. But I knew no one at our work was going over his place to hangout. I wonder if he was a secret rapist, he was really creepy and wouldn't take no for an answer. After I quit that job, he got my number somehow and started harassing me. He was trying to manipulate and control me into replying to him because I wasn't replying, I was just ignoring him and I did block him. He was a psycho. Would I date a guy older than me? Five years tops but not much older than that.

sexy_julia · Answer

I’d go out with that person. It happened to me on the day I met my husband. He was 54, and I was 19. He asked me out, and I we went on our first date. At the end of the date, we had our first kiss. I’m so glad I said yes. Otherwise, we would’ve never married and have kids.

menina · Answer

It would depend on how old he was. Usually I'm attracted to older men, but I probably wouldn't date someone who was, for instance 14 years older than me. For me that's an huge difference. I know I'm not ready to date someone much older than me.

But if it wasn't a big difference, I would give him a chance (assuming that I was interested).

sunflower00 · Answer

Depends how old. A month after I turned 18 my sort of manager kept asking me out for drinks and flirting with me, I said no because I was not attracted to him at all AND he was engaged. Didn’t stop him leaving me alone & it was very very uncomfortable

Anonymous · Answer

Before my experience with an older man I would’ve normally said no but I have been seeing someone who is 12 years older then me and it is honestly the most fun and healthiest relationship I have ever been in. I was worried at first about the age but am so glad I got past it because I would’ve ruined something amazing. So yes I would say yes to an older man

catiecatie · Answer

I typically go after a little older men. Shit I dated a guy 14 years older than me. He was a dick so that god that didn’t work out. I’m crushing hard on this one guy who’s only 3-4 years older than me. So I hope that one works out.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Its happened plenty of times. Its cringe. I dont mind conversations with people of all ages. I have acquaintances older and younger than me. But i prefer to date close in age, usually no more than 3 years up/down

mandyfire98 · Answer

I've been with guys older than me and actually prefer it. I've been with guys over 20 years older than me.

FictionalCharacter · Answer

It depends, because at my job (coworkers and customers) think I’m 10 years younger for my age. Then again, guy customers who look older than me are actually younger. 🤷🏻‍♀️

So, it’s kinda hard for me to answer that question.

exitseven · Answer

If somebody was older than me she would probably be on social security. I don't know what I would do. It depends on what kind of shape she's in.

KingslayerC · Answer

If I was single, it would just depend on if I'm attracted to her or not. I'm not having kids anymore, so dating now would just be about being entertained.

Vikkrram · Answer

Look if any random person would ask me out i would never accept it. But if i have feelings for her and i know that she also have feelings for me then i would go wid her

mstbooblover · Answer

Be sure I would at least give it a go, but then, I'm 69... Still, when I was 25 a 12 years older nice woman invited me, and we ended up married for 38 years till she passed away.

God_of_Thunder · Answer

I've dated women older than me, more than once, and would do so again.

cosmosis181 · Answer

What few people I associate with, are all significantly older, as in, another generation (s). I'm more than welcoming. I don't have any of that social media crap anyway, and aren't the party type. I'm also extremely well traveled. We'd fit.

rosemilk · Answer

i'd say no because i'm already taken. i also don't want older guys. i'd prefer someone closer to my own age.

electromagnetic · Answer

The closer to geriatric care the better.  I think I’d be flattered if anything. I’d let me know I’m with someone but we can all happily hang out.

Dinklex3 · Answer

If they’re over 34 then I just say no thanks. I’ve only had one older person (40) recently hit on me and I ended up ignoring him.

Thatpearl26 · Answer

Well it depends how much older. If it’s 5 years older or less, sure. But I think more than 5 years is pushing it.

Ninania · Answer

I've been hit on by men older than my parents, and every time I've politely declined. I don't mind an age gap, but no more than 20 years for me.

RingOfFire · Answer

I am not attracted to women of my age group or older in a physical sense. I am more attracted to younger women. So I don't think I would accept if romance is the intent.

Anonymous · Answer

TURN THEM DOWN…. TF? LMAO 😂  If they’re 8 years older. I’m out 🤢🤢

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

If they're attractive, and seem worth a try, sure why not?

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Well I be creepy out if a 40 year old flirtted with me.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I always dated much older men anyway.

4ngelic · Answer

i'd very politely reject them, dont want to date someone much older

Apple1996 · Answer

Nah I'm not into guys who are older than me. I'd turn down the date

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

If we get along good and they aren't too far from my age, I might give it a try.

sheikalana · Answer

I would have to refuse I already have a partner. But if I was single and the guy was good looking why not?

NamerOfStars · Answer

If I was interested, I'd agree; if not, I'd decline politely.

SolitarySolace · Answer

It wouldn’t happen but if they were attractive and someone I could see myself with I’d be cool with it

TaureanBull81 · Answer

Depending on whether I was also attracted to the older woman then and she had a nice personality then I'd probably say yesssssss 😊👌

Raaj4you · Answer

I would definitely go out with her. I would like to get advice from older men or women. I like it when older people share their life experiences.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I've dated older women. Usually they are quite interesting.

DiegoO · Answer

I follow a rule. If she is not old enough to be my mom, all good. If she is not young enough to be my daughter: all good.

LavLavLuv · Answer

If i like him...

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

When it comes to love, age is nothing but a number, so why decline the date? Most of my girlfriends were older than I.

Anonymous · Answer

sometimes i find older men attracted but i would never date them. i like to stick to guy my age (max. 3 years older than me)

Anonymous · Answer

If I was attracted sure. There was this one older dude oh man. He was 🔥. Wish he asked me out.

magiusX26 · Answer

these days, same as any other age group, decline emphatically.

kerrieK001 · Answer

It happened to me and I went for it and now he's my boyfriend.

DaddyDiablo · Answer

Be very nervous and shy n accept wtf this is only a once in a life time opportunity!!!

annabananna · Answer

I would say I’m married but I have been on dates with older men. It’s not something I mind.

TheSimFans · Answer

it depends but is little bit old but not too older

Anonymous · Answer

Age wouldn't bother me, it would only matter if I found her attractive or not.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

I’d be open to it if I found her an attractive woman. If she’s around your age, I could definitely do that. I wouldn’t wanna date someone old enough to be my mother though.

Anonymous · Answer

I would mostly be surprised that a woman is actually talking to me

clampfan101 · Answer

As long as her age is close enough to mine, I don’t care wether she’s older or younger than me.

Guanfei · Answer

I wouldn't care much about the age. Up until a certain point I suppose.

Greenbean27 · Answer

If I have chemistry with the girls I would accept it.

nawtee_me · Answer

Since I am not into older women, I guess I will be the one asking a younger woman out.

Manuel2 · Answer

Happen many times to me. I go along with it and enjoy the free good rides.

shades777 · Answer

hit it and quit it if she was clean, in shape and sexy.

Qtyebb · Answer

Yes I would but other factors would be highly considered; like if I’m attracted to you in other ways

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