Life has proved me to never say never.
I always liked younger men, same age or younger than me. My ex fiance, being 1.5 older than me, sometimes was jealous of younger men, as he knew I liked younger guys before meeting him.
But having this relationship failed, made me more mature.
My mom (47) told me the other day that I am the type of girl who’ll better be understood and appreciated by older men, who price stability in their lives. I think she wanted to say I am boring haha, she said I am too honest and straightforward and younger men might find it less fun, in my experience I am often liked by younger guys but after my break up, I no longer feel as interested in them, as I did before. Witnessing how my ex fiancé changed overtime, how his life ideals changed drastically, how totally different person he became, I figured I don’t want that to happen again.
I thought about my mom’s words and realized, there might be truth in it, especially now that I’ve grown so much after my break up, I think it’s time I stop paying attention to age.
So, what would I do if an older person asked me out? I’d do the same if a younger person asked me out, I’d say yes, if I found him interesting.
Older man? Reject, possibly report if he's creepy or stalker enough. I've had this happen often and it sucks. Once had a man OLDER THAN MY FATHER ask me out IN FRONT of said father. It was weird as fuck.
Older woman? It's happened. We went out. It was fun while it lasted, but she was still early in her questioning and found out she was asexual (as well as lesbian - she grew up being pressured to present hetero, so when she started dating me, she thought she'd be into sex. Turns out while she is interested in women, she's still not interested in sex).
I love my aro/ace queer siblings (platonically), but I require sex. So I had to let her go.
I do very much enjoy older people. More than folks my age and certainly more than most younger. My friends with benefits are both younger than me, tho, lol.
I guess I'm that older person.
My marriage just opened up and I've had my eyes peeled for appropriate sexual and emotional partners.
I've yet to ask anyone out, but I'm finding that age is one of the last things that I consider when contemplating approaching someone for a date.
My number one consideration is physical attraction. I've made the mistake of ignoring that component in the past. I won't do it again.
Next is style. Will this person likely jive with my life or, maybe somewhat conversely, is it possible that their possibly very interesting style might lead me on new adventures, some of which may be to my liking. Who knows until I try?
From there I try to detect various other criteria that are important to me, confidence and humility being high on the list.
I could add to this story by relating my falling in love a few years ago with a 25-year-old woman when I was 61-ish.
My marriage was not then open, and she was herself already attached to another man.
If not for that, we may have gone somewhere.
Situations happen. People fall in love, no matter their ages.
I have had them hit in me. One at a PGA event and she said had a house on the course. I said no thanks. Another one on a cruise ship gave me her number and invited me to her house. I was with my 13 year old daughter and was wearing my ring. She was a bit drunk. I destroyed the number in front of my daughter as I know she would tell my wife. The woman apologized the next day.
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Depends on how significantly old they are… if he’s my type and the attraction is there, why not?
If he is old enough to be my boss I might say yes but if he is old enough to be my dad then I will say no.
If a 45 or 50 year old woman asked me out I would definitely say yes.
Assuming I'm single, I'd go out on a date with her if she seemed nice but I wouldn't take it too seriously.
It depends on how much older. 10 years older, I would politely decline.
Back when I was single, I'd probably say yes... and see if we have fun on a date
I had a guy 28 years older than me ask me out. I'm 28 years old. But he did it in this weird creepy sly way even though it was obvious what he was doing. He was my coworker and he would try to get me over his apartment by inviting me to things that he made it seem like everyone was going to. But I knew no one at our work was going over his place to hangout. I wonder if he was a secret rapist, he was really creepy and wouldn't take no for an answer. After I quit that job, he got my number somehow and started harassing me. He was trying to manipulate and control me into replying to him because I wasn't replying, I was just ignoring him and I did block him. He was a psycho. Would I date a guy older than me? Five years tops but not much older than that.
I’d go out with that person. It happened to me on the day I met my husband. He was 54, and I was 19. He asked me out, and I we went on our first date. At the end of the date, we had our first kiss. I’m so glad I said yes. Otherwise, we would’ve never married and have kids.
s It would depend on how old he was. Usually I'm attracted to older men, but I probably wouldn't date someone who was, for instance 14 years older than me. For me that's an huge difference. I know I'm not ready to date someone much older than me.
But if it wasn't a big difference, I would give him a chance (assuming that I was interested).
Depends how old. A month after I turned 18 my sort of manager kept asking me out for drinks and flirting with me, I said no because I was not attracted to him at all AND he was engaged. Didn’t stop him leaving me alone & it was very very uncomfortable
Before my experience with an older man I would’ve normally said no but I have been seeing someone who is 12 years older then me and it is honestly the most fun and healthiest relationship I have ever been in. I was worried at first about the age but am so glad I got past it because I would’ve ruined something amazing. So yes I would say yes to an older man
I typically go after a little older men. Shit I dated a guy 14 years older than me. He was a dick so that god that didn’t work out. I’m crushing hard on this one guy who’s only 3-4 years older than me. So I hope that one works out.
Its happened plenty of times. Its cringe. I dont mind conversations with people of all ages. I have acquaintances older and younger than me. But i prefer to date close in age, usually no more than 3 years up/down
I've been with guys older than me and actually prefer it. I've been with guys over 20 years older than me.
It depends, because at my job (coworkers and customers) think I’m 10 years younger for my age. Then again, guy customers who look older than me are actually younger. 🤷🏻♀️
So, it’s kinda hard for me to answer that question.
If somebody was older than me she would probably be on social security. I don't know what I would do. It depends on what kind of shape she's in.
TURN THEM DOWN….
TF? LMAO 😂
If they’re 8 years older. I’m out 🤢🤢
If I was single, it would just depend on if I'm attracted to her or not. I'm not having kids anymore, so dating now would just be about being entertained.
Look if any random person would ask me out i would never accept it. But if i have feelings for her and i know that she also have feelings for me then i would go wid her
Be sure I would at least give it a go, but then, I'm 69... Still, when I was 25 a 12 years older nice woman invited me, and we ended up married for 38 years till she passed away.
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