Have you ever dated an asexual person-how did it go?

[vishna]

In my last relationship, my partner had a lower sex drive than I did-and it really hurt our relationship.

It made me feel unattractive and over time I stopped wanting sex. We didn't last very long after that.

Now a man is interested in me and I was scrolling through his social media and saw he came out as asexual but he hasn't told me this yet. I'm concerned if it can work, not simply because he's asexual, the old me would have tried to make it work, but because I know what it's like to be sexually frustrated, I don't want to be there again. I'm also confused as to why he hasn't told me yet.

Have you ever dated an asexual person, if so, how did it go?

I'd also love to hear opinions from people who are asexual.

I am not asexual and my partner is-intimacy was NOT an issue

I am not asexual and my partner is-intimacy WAS an issue

I am asexual and my partner wasn't-intimacy was NOT an issue

I am asexual and my partner wasn't-intimacy WAS an issue

Everything else

[the_imperfectionist]

i'm asexual and really, im loved. its pathetic really. the thing is that you may speak to someone who is asexual, but they study the opposite sex enough to know what exactly drives them wild. it depends on the person he is, nothing for you will substitute sex but there may be something that you like about him so much that you dont want to let him go. the other dude u spoke to may have been asexual, boring and on top of it, doesn't know u well enough to fulfill your wishes, but dont make it all about sex, cause then your already setting your relationship out to fail. he prolly hasn't told u yet because he's either scared of your reaction, 'waiting on the right or appointed time' or doesn't think its a big deal.

[PrincessPie]

I’ve always usually had a lower sex drive than my partner as most people I’ve been with have all been extremely high.. but I could never date a asexual I want someone I can desire who also feels same way about me it wouldn’t work.

[Anonymous]

I am asexual, but not aromantic. I only had one girlfriend. At first, she said that she would respect my asexuality, but later she kept trying to seduce me and at one point tried to force herself on me. I kept telling her that I was asexual, but apparently she thought it wasn't a real thing that I was just depressed or something.

I don't think I will ever date anyone with a sex drive again.

[vishna]

That's so messed up of her!
Do you find it difficult or relatively easy to find other asexual people?

[Opinion Owner]

We make up only about 1% of the population :( In my entire life, I have only known other asexuals. One male and one female. I am heteroromantic so I can only see myself with a female and she moved away a very long time ago. Not that we were that close to begin with.

[Opinion Owner]

*two other asexuals

[vishna]

Yea, I felt like you might say something like that :/ Are there dating sites specifically for asexual people, so you can get to the point?

[Opinion Owner]

I have never seen any :/ besides, what are the chances of finding another asexual that lives nearby, isn't aromantic, and that clicks with my personality to the point of developing mutual feelings? I know I could try to date someone with a sex drive again, but I am just too scared because of what my ex did to me.

[vishna]

What's aromatic? I'm sure it can work out, dating is hard in general, when you're 1% of the population, it's even harder, but keep trying :) (sorry if I'm annoyingly optimistic, just a personality trait)

[Opinion Owner]

Aromantic means being incapable of feeling romantic love. Some asexuals are also aromantic and some aren't. And it's fine.

[vishna]

Sometimes I think I'm aromatic then :/

[ladsin]

I don't think that would work out. I'm bisex, have a high sex drive, and am not interested in polygamy or anything. So yeah...

[vishna]

I'm like you, I have a pretty high sex drive... also, like why would you not tell someone something that important early on ya know :/ ugh dating is so time consuming and disappointing at times.

[ladsin]

Mm. People are afraid. It's troublesome because it can only lead to problems in the future.
Sexual compatibility is obviously important.

[ZeussLightningBolt]

I had a crush on a Nicaraguan girl once.
She would've been perfect for me, even invited me to come on vacation with her.
But than she told me she doesn't want to have sex AT ALL. It was a real deal breaker and I decided not to pursue her because of it.
Yeah being sexually frustrated sucks.
How long has it been for You?

[TacosRAwesome]

I'm not asexual, and my first partner might have been (said he was waiting for marriage at the start, then it switched to wanting a friendship like relationship towards the end. Implied I'm a ho when I said its stupid ). Second one stopped being sexual during the last 6 months probably due to depression, so I left.

[RedThread]

Nah but I've dated someone who was sexually assaulted in the past so we didn't do anything sexual because of that. I had no issue with it and I was patient with her but she eventually ended the relationship because she wanted to get help.

[SquareWave]

Sexual compatibility is a big deal in a relationship, and will cause problems if you have very dissimilar sex drives. Ditch the 'asexual'.

[0112358]

It was soul crushing and caused me persistent relationship issues. I'd never ever ever date an asexual.

[Hans222]

Had to vote E, I'm single.
I've heard asexual people on TV but I've never met any...

[Jjpayne]

I have not dated a person officially yet...… but I am planning on soon...

[ChocoLada]

Nah, asexuals don't date, that's called friendship.

[Anonymous]

Yes it didn't work out because we are both a-sexual.

[vishna]

What didn't work about it out?

[Opinion Owner]

We were more like just brother and sister who very occasionally had sex.

[0112358]

Isn't that what you wanted?

[Opinion Owner]

@0112358 it's hard to explain to a person who is not a-sexual, I enjoy the intamicy of sex and being in love and having a man who loves me an desires me sexually but being with an a-sexual guy is like being in a relationship with a brother.

[vishna]

Not trying to be intrusive, but do you initiate sex and how often do want sex/have it?

[Prof_Don]

I predict you’re going to have the same issue if not worse! Asexual people have zero sex drive

[Anonymous]

Back when I was dating, I think the only terms that existed were "heterosexual" "homosexual" "it" "transvestite" (and of course the slang terms for those words)... and of course, that stuff wasn't being pushed in the Public Schools.

[OldDad]

I am asexual but not by choice. Id rather be hyperhererosexual.

[Clarke498]

Don't have a girl, but if i did, it would be hard to not be after her all day

[madhatters4]

i have never dated or known an asexual person

[madhatters4]

although i do wonder about my cousin. she is 36 and seems to have had no interest in romantic relationships for as long as i've known her

[MrMansonsPocketPssy]

I don't think I could.
xx
~ Mrs Manson

[Charlotte_May]

When we were kids we didn't have asexuals

[jacquesvol]

I never even met one who behaved like that.

[llorando]

Can't say that I have.

[_Senpai]

Nope

Never have, never will.

[Ad_Quid_Orator]

I have not