I’m single by choice. And I’m 28. I got offered to do modeling, so I have the looks, but it might be a long time before I settle down and find a girl I actually want to be in a relationship with. I’m not gonna lie, but I slept with a lot of women. And I’m currently just having casual sex at the moment. I’m good at sex too, but anyways, I’m scared once I find the girl I want to be with that she won’t want to be with me because of who I am. I rejected a lot women’s offers on being their boyfriend over the years because I just wasn’t in love with them. And I didn’t want them to be upset in the future if I got into a relationship with them because I don’t feel the same way. The whole reason why I started sleeping with women casually is because I was in love in the past, and I got my heart broken, so I stopped caring about finding love anymore. So I’m just enjoying the moment. I’m actually really nice, and I always help others. I actually have a lot of people that tell me that they love me because of my personality (men and women, young or old). So I’m not an evil person. So what do you think?
You’re not a bad person, but your coping and victim mentality is a little concerning. Everyone gets their heart broken. That’s life, and it’s unrealistic to expect to go through life without being heartbroken. Of course, you can sleep with women casually, but to use something that happened to you as the reason would raise a red flag. Also understand that your sexual history may put out of being considered by a quality women with a less extensive track record. At least, you might have to work harder to prove your loyalty and fidelity once you do get serious with a woman.
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A man with a number of partners can be a turn off for me, as i have had only one partner. U say u do modeling, Having a lot of partners while also doing modeling comes off as egotistical to me, but i would hav to know u better in order to make my decisions.
One night stands are so lame dude. Sex without a condom is barely worth it. So much better to connect with someone deeply before sex. I had my heart shattered about 8 months ago and I know the feeling of just wanting to chase pleasure instead…and I think a short phase of that is okay, but don’t let it consume you or you will ward off the good girls
Yeah, they'd see red flags. But you can fix that.
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There is nothing wrong with casual sex or not being ready to settle down yet.
BUT, you're gonna need to address this one heartbreak you had. Whenever you are wanting to settle down, you cannot make the past someone else's problem. And by the way that you seem to feel it effects you, I'd recommend starting to unpack that sooner than later.
You're not a bad person for having sex with people. As long as you're not hurting anyone then there's nothing wrong with it. Be safe, have fun.
Yes, men who are promiscuous and heavily emotionally damaged are a serious red flag.
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