Girls, Ladies, what can we guys do to make you feel loved as persons and not just as sexual objects?

[kjs22222]

Many men just show women attention because of good looks or sexual appeal. However, you are so much more than that! You have a heart, an inner character. That is what makes you who you are! That is not to say that your bodily appearance should not be attractive, but men should not treat you as mere toys. In fact, this is why the face is the most beautiful part of the body! It makes you distinct from everyone else! I might see a lot of bodies and not know who is who, but show me your face and I know who you are! Every girl deserves to hear they are loved for who they are, not just the bodily looks and pleasure they can provide. I personally like to think about how I would want my sister to be treated by a man, and try to give that kind of attention to the ladies. It should give them more confidence to have the right kind of love from good men. All women want to be loved, and rightly so, but it is time we men begin showing REAL love, not just our passions. So, any thoughts!

[Anonymous]

First you’d have to quit porn.

Porn disturbs the mind. I as a woman, and long-term porn consumer myself , for most of my teen years, learned that lesson myself.

You being to lose interest on average porn with an adult woman and man. You begin to seek more TABOO subjects and topics of porn. Ultimately CORRUPTING your entire mind and sexuality.

By the age of 19 I quit porn. And I’m a woman. It messed me up. Later I quit it; I admit I did consume it every now and then, and returned to it once in a blue moon.. but I kept my distance as much as I could.

Now I don’t view it, I sleep with my lover or boyfriend or husband or partner. No need for porn.

That’s the first step. Then you can think about a relationship with a woman. And treating them like human being with desires, wants and dreams. People with feelings, emotions and goals. Otherwise you can’t. You’ll constantly think a woman owes you something. That they’re not even sexual beings with their own sexual needs.

The second step would Be assessing your narcissistic personality disorder if you have that.

[kjs22222]

This makes sense: first clear the mind (quitting porn), and stop focusing on yourself, but on others.

[Opinion Owner]

I would also recommend seeking women in normal places of decency. Like a library. Or school, or workplace.

NOT in clubs or bars or parties. Cause those women are likely to be unhinged and r—pe victims. Hyper promiscuous and hyper sexual full of trauma. 😬
@kjs22222

It’s just the truth.

[kjs22222]

That is a really great point too!

[Anonymous]

The world would truly be a better place if all men asked themselves the question you asked us here on GAG👏here’s a mix of general things we want from a man and direct answers to your question.

• Surprise her with flowers
• write her love notes
• Actively listen to her and be there for her
• Remember “no means no”.
• Plan thoughtful dates , make some memories
• always be chivalrous.
• compliment the non physical things ABOUT HER that you admire...
• Don’t underestimate her… don’t mansplain like some
• Good eye contact… don’t just stare at our bodies when talking to us please
• support her ambitions

[kjs22222]

This is good... very practical!

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks! ☺️

[ZamerZ]

Honestly, it's mostly showing interest in me as a person and what I care about. Asking questions, remembering things I like - favourite food, music, movies, hobbies - spending quality time together that doesn't only involve compromises as a couple, but also focuses on stuff I like now and then. I do the same for the guy I am currently dating - I don't need to only do activities we both enjoy, the ones he's passionate about are also important and getting the same in return is attentive and caring.

Other than that, just showing support - not meaning blind support bc he should have his own objective opinion on problems and circumstances, but emotionally being there for me and offering solutions and advice if asked means a lot.

[kjs22222]

This is great! Interest in the person in every way!

[Anonymous]

I read all the comments... They're just telling you what they personally believe and want. Just treat a woman as if she is apart of you. You wouldn't hurt yourself. Hopefully. You get what you put out anyway. People just want to be seen and valued. It's that simple. You don't have to write love letters and do all of that unless that is the relationship you sign up for.

If you want a relationship, ask yourself what kind of relationship. Then ask yourself what 2 people fit naturally into that relationship. Because people will give you advice to the moon on the basis of what they want. It's your life. Not all women are the same and nor men.

[Yoursweetgirl]

If a guy genuiny doesn't see a girl just as a sexual object, it will show and no matter what he does, a girl won't feel objectified by him.
It's hard for me to say what a guy should do to make girl feel like a person cause most guys do that just to get into her pants then.

[kjs22222]

I see what you mean. If a guy treats a girl with respect, he is not going to try to make it obvious.

[Metalbarbie]

Treat her like a human being and right treat her like a queen and make her feel special. Give her attention.
Tell her beautiful words.
Support her Emotionally, Physically, Mentally, Spiritually, etc
Always tell her you love her. Hold her after sex, cuddle with her. Let her know that you are here if she needs to talk and actually hearing her when she does. And sometimes giving her flowers for no reason is an added bonus.

[kjs22222]

Yes, I think we have lost the idea of chivalry in society.

[Metalbarbie]

For the most part

[IslaTheWitch]

You have a heart, an inner character.

we have brains ffs...

[shoeboxcerealcard]

Consciousness*

[Nikki1989]

Stop with all the constant sexual language. It is very rare when any guy talks to me on here without it being sexual.

[kjs22222]

Maybe I am misunderstanding what you mean, but if you are referring to my post, I certainly did not mean it that way. If I did, I would be defeating the purpose of my post! Should I state it with different wording?

[Nikki1989]

No, not you. I am just saying men will say they want to know you, but almost immediately turn the topic to sex.

[kjs22222]

O I see! I thought I misunderstood! Yes, a man can hide his character at first.

[Tamera952]

🤢🤢🤮🤮 Come on man, barf…. Are you for real? …. you’re as sappy as a hallmark card. Let me guess, are you a Mormon or something?

[Anonymous]

Love me and cherish me as the woman I am, but respect me like you would your fellow man.

[Romasona]

Treating her with love and care, listen to her actively and connect with her.