If a woman is highly attractive but single, should a guy take it as a hint?

[MementoMori777]

cause it makes me wonder, unless they just got out of a relationship then there must be a personality issue or one to several red flags right? or what other reasons could there be? 🤔

[AmandaYVR]

Nah. It's way more complicated than that. Not a red flag. The formula is endlessly complex and ever-changing. There's luck, compatibility, time available, career demands, geography, etc etc etc.

She could have issues, sure. She may have a broken heart, or not trust, or have a rough upbringing that scarred her.

But the outer package is only a small part of the equation. It often gives people more options, more potential choices, but it doesn't make them any easier to be with. And the same goes with guys. And many people don't look past the exterior, inside to the person. Their true personality is often overlooked. Compatibility is tough. Really tough.

[MementoMori777]

yea its just nowadays it makes me wonder but i guess there's many reasons it might be ha

[Alli39]

Dude no. Being single doesn't mean she has a personality disorder. Could be that she ace/arro, could be that she didn't get along with her previous partner due to differences in beliefs or life states and simply hasn't found someone else in the meantime, could be lack of interest/time/energy to date due to other personal, academic, familial, etc commitments, could be she just hasn't met someone she's willing to commit to. Like there's literally a million perfectly valid reasons to be single, most of which are not mental health disorders. Besides, plenty of people with mental health disorders do date & marry successfully.

[MementoMori777]

fair point Alli, that makes sense, im glad there's reasons, my mind can be very persuasive with crap 🙃

[zagor]

No, a lot of attractive women are single, whether by choice or circumstance.

That said, I was at a singles mixer once and this stunning woman came in with a (F) friend. The guy I was talking to at the bar said "I gotta check that out" and went over to them. Very shortly he returned and said something like "She is smokin' hot but crazy af". A short time later, I decided to see for myself and went over to talk to her. I can't remember any other time a 5 minute conversation gave me such a severe headache.

Though I expect a convo with Donald Trump would have a similar effect.

[MementoMori777]

lmao what did she say 😂

[zagor]

I don't remember the details but it was just bizarre disjointed stuff, as if she had some severe disability. I don't mean the kind of stuff someone who was just very shy would say. And she was a beautiful woman by any standard, on the outside.

[MementoMori777]

interesting story bro 😂

[hahahmm]

No. This is like asking, "If a car is parked is this a hint that the engine doesn't work?" Maybe but it could also be totally meaningless. So you have to understand why one woman is more valuable than another and be able to judge that yourself.

[MementoMori777]

correction, think of that car being a sports car, would you assume something is wrong with it if no one moves it? 😂

[MementoMori777]

i know i would

[hahahmm]

I clearly said, "if a car is parked.." Not "If a car is parked for 15 years". So not seeing your point. Also, there's a LOT of flags you can spot about a woman, you just happened to pick one that isn't very good.

[MementoMori777]

then your comparison isn't accurate because that would mean the girl just got out of a relationship if it was just parked, if it was parked for a while then thats time has passed and she was single for a while and im just wondering, not a question im wondering for personal reasons

[hahahmm]

I guess the problem here is that you think all relationships are equally meaningful. Or that being single for a particular length of time is always meaningful. Or that individuals (women in this case) are never single by choice.

[Avicenna]

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Don't overanalyze, show interest.

[MementoMori777]

fair enough, thanks

[exitseven]

Everyone has different life circumstances. A girl could be in a long term relationship for years while going to college and all of a sudden it ends suddenly. Or she has been working on a career and had no time to date. Or had family obligations like an ailing parent. Don;t always thing the worst.

[MementoMori777]

ill try not too lol

[richardcory]

There can be lots of reasons someone is single. I'd never assume something negative. There are cases of attractive women and men who are a bit shy and potential partners take that shyness for rejection

[MementoMori777]

really? thats an interesting observation and i can see what you mean 🤔

[Meropatrick]

I knew someone who was like that. She was veryyy attractive and she never dated Anyone. I remember she said Something like her father cheated on her mom and she couldnt imagine going through a bad marriage like her mother did. So she stayed single

[MementoMori777]

well people can still fuck and be single tho, was she single and wife material tho?

[Meropatrick]

This i can't tell for sure. but in general she was a modest person. I never saw her hanging out with men in a hook up or so. I think if she was fucking while single someone could have said Something because we were tight group of friends and someone would have pointed out that. But in general we were all confused about her not dating

[MementoMori777]

that is good bro, she sounds like a sweet heart and im glad women like her exist 🙂💯

[nolookingbackx]

Maybe sometimes but she doesn't have to be responsible for a breakup. For example I was very hurt and some don't understand that I just want to be alone, at least for some time. It's hard to trust again.

[MementoMori777]

aw well i can agree with you on that, trusting is hard because people have a hard time helping people keep that trust together but i can see your point and many others on here, i hope you learn to trust again and you trust the right person that will return their loyalty to you 🙂💯

[nolookingbackx]

Thank you very much 🤗 But sometimes it could be a red flag, it really depends, we just need to be careful. For example my ex used to be very handsome and single, a girl broke up with him and he acted like he was hurt etc. He seemed to be very kind and all that. I fell in love and with those pink glasses on I thought like why would anyone leave such a wonderful man, something must've been wrong with her. Nope, he turned out to be the toxic one. It's all complicated 😅 All the best for you, you're always so nice!

[MementoMori777]

thank you, i try to spread positivity, it sounds like yoive had your own frustrating experiences and it sucks to trust someone that doesn't return the same energy but i thank god gave you your mindset to where you can detect things and gave you the character to make the decisions that will benefit your health, may god help you find all the love you need to satisfy your wonderful soul. 🤗💯

[nolookingbackx]

You're doing great, keep it up. The world needs more goodness. Thank you very much 🤗 I believe that God is always beside and that every experience makes us wiser. Here is a little dedication: https://youtu.be/FGZYWSfiYbM

[MementoMori777]

thank you, this song is nice, which only gives me the assumption that you'll like this one if you haven't heard it already, last thing i heard this was the most rare vinyl in the world

https://youtu.be/ooU8o78lMgw

[MementoMori777]

my link isn't working, its called Stormy Weather by Five Sharps

[nolookingbackx]

Wow, I love this kind of music! It's great, thank you for sharing.

[MementoMori777]

😁👍

[LostandFound__x]

When I meet new people including guys they’re always surprised I’m single. One guy asked why I was single. The answer goes down to pure luck lol.

[MementoMori777]

still no luck? i thought you found someone already 🤣

[LostandFound__x]

No 😂

[MementoMori777]

😔😔

[belle_kai]

The world today is very sexual and people are really into having sex quickly in a relationship or one night stands. So many people multi date aswell

[MementoMori777]

i personally dont agree with having sex quick in the relationship, one night stands or multi dating, but you are right, there's a lot of this in the world, i need jesus to pick a woman out for me no lie 😂

[alice55]

Usually it’s personality issue though it could also just he that relationship dont interest her or that shés only interested in ons

[MementoMori777]

yep many posibilities 🙃

[alice55]

There's always many possibilities

[MementoMori777]

indeed 😊

[VIVANT]

Not everyone wants a boyfriend or girlfriend

[MementoMori777]

cause they wanna sleep around eithout commitment?

[MementoMori777]

without*

[VIVANT]

Ohhh no I mean like either don’t want to date it have sex or they don’t want to have sex casually & many people expect casual sec in dating. Am so it’s a lot of weeding out which will leave someone single

Being attractive doesn’t lean it’s easy to find someone you like who also likes you. Often esp dot women, the guy is attracted to her but that’s it & for many, that’s not very enticing

Well that’s my in my opinion. I never assume a single person is sleeping around I assume they haven’t met someone they click with. But I don’t sleep around so that’s my view bc it’s familiar.

[MementoMori777]

i wish i could think so clean and healthy, but just cause you are a good person vivant doesn't mean everyone else is but i do like your mindset on it, its healthy, and i hope you are right 🙂👍

[VIVANT]

😂 I’m always shocked at what people are thinking when I’m just thinking the most direct thing. Honestly makes me feel like a complete tool often. But thanks!! 😛

Funny bc I was going to ask you when you say bad sign like in what respect that they won’t make a good partner bc they don’t really get attached to people … I had no idea you meant bc of hooking up.

[MementoMori777]

well its not just hooking up because people can have all kinds of red flag but when someone says they are single cause they wanna be, my mind is like uhhh 😅

your mind is so innocent, i hope it stays that way tbh, not many people with such mindsets nowadays 🙂

[VIVANT]

What other kinds of red flags ? I’m genuinely curious now— you can’t leave me wondering lol 🫠

[MementoMori777]

well there's plenty, like I've seen women with abusive behavior, with aggression, liars, manipulative, there's many toxic trait Vivant 😅😆

[fonduegirl]

Not everyone holds romance as priority in life

[MementoMori777]

fair enough

[BlackJeep]

Highly attractive women don't get hit on as much as you think.

[MementoMori777]

foreal?

[BlackJeep]

In my work, I run into a lot of former models that age out and they all say it's hard to date and rarely get asked out.

[MementoMori777]

interesting, thats kinda unexpected tbh

[LiamJHayden]

Maybe she has standards but usually only gets approached by guys who just want to hook up.

[MementoMori777]

its a fair point bro

[Anonymous]

I used to think like this about attractive guys. But no, maybe they like being single or are shy. Or somebody broke their heart and it takes time for them to trust someone or open up.

[MementoMori777]

i guess so, maybe im thinking too much about it but what are the chances that they are just bad material tho?

[Opinion Owner]

If she does drugs, doesn't care about you, hates her family, doesn't care about others, hates kids/the elderly/animals, laughs at ur pain, is an OF girl, has no morals, breaks laws, etc

[Opinion Owner]

If she expresses any of those then she's bad news

[MementoMori777]

i completely agree, imagine if people had like a barcode on their arm like *boop* and it tells you everything about their personality 😂

[Opinion Owner]

U know who I'd scan 😂🤣🤣

[MementoMori777]

yea for sure, not like you need a scanner to read him but i guess maybe you do 😂

[Opinion Owner]

Scanner for proof 🤣🤣

[MementoMori777]

fosho crumble 😂

[Christoff92]

Sure if her accuracy is towards me. Then I'll slowly but efficiently chat with her.

[hiyamotherfers]

It could be. But sometimes she just could be picky

[Cody20]

Maybe no one has had the courage to ask them and vice Versa

[Anonymous]

Sometimes you are right

[MementoMori777]

fair enough

[Opinion Owner]

But you still need to find out for yourself instead of ignoring the girl

[MementoMori777]

well thats for sure, you can't just ignore someone you are uncertain about lol

[Drewtate]

You should take it as an opportunity.