Complicated situation what should I do?

[Anonymous]

There’s this guy I have known of for a really long time now. Through extended family members. They keep getting brought up and it feels like that’s a sign. My extended family members already think we know each other but we really don’t.. I really want to direct message him but I’m worried about them finding out.. we have a lot in common and I feel like we are each others match.. I really want this guy.. what should I do

Updates

10 mo

I have the full dm written out but I’m so nervous to send it 😅😅 I really want this to work we are such a good match.. but I’m nervous about his family and mine finding out.. plus I don't know if he will see it cause his account is private 🥲

[BasedBaeBecca]

If you're interested in getting to know this guy better, then I would say, why not give it a try? Go ahead and DM him! There's no need to worry about what your extended family members think or know about it. You're not hurting anyone by trying to reconnect with someone you're interested in. And you never know, it could turn out to be a great connection. So, why not take that chance? Give it a shot and see what happens. You might just end up finding someone who's really special to you. =)

[nolookingbackx]

Message him, that's it. Why would they find out and even if they would, so what? Does anyone check your phone or control you in any way?

[Asker]

They do not check my phone but somewhat control me even though I’m a legal adult 🤣 but they would find out if they ran into each other via work and that would be awkward since I wasn’t honest with the extend family members.. I don't know even what to direct message him in the first place 🤔

[nolookingbackx]

I see. This is awkward but you need to set boundaries and care a little less about what others think. Think about it. You can simply say that you've heard a lot of good things about him and wanted to find out if he really was that cool lol

[Asker]

I’ve tried but nothing works with them! They are good friends with the family and ik we would be an excellent match but I don't know if he will respond 🤔 then if he dose I don’t need his family makings. Big production.. I was gonna try to ask him for his snap to make it less awkward 🤣

[nolookingbackx]

I know something about those controlling parents, some really never change. Do your thing despite this. This is your right and one day you'll move out luckily lol Try or you'll never find out! Fingers crossed

[Asker]

I don't know why but I’m so nervous to send it 😅😅 I don't know if he will even see it since his account is private 🥲 I just don’t want his family finding out yet

[Wise4myage]

I say go for it and do not worry or care what anybody else thinks or says.