In my post graduation class. I have a friend who really helped me get out of my darkest time. And as of human nature I started to have feelings for him and have a deep connection. So I tell him everything about my feelings for him. And in return he said, He really likes me but never saw more then great friend. And can't have more with me, and also feel deep concern for me. As well I am also very very important for him.
And a mutual friend of us, really think me as a great partner to him. But one of our friend who happened to be his childhood buddy. Thinks of me as a great human and wants to be with me in a friends with benefits relation.
Now, I am afraid what should I do? Should I go for it or not? Tell him what his friend thinks? As I am scared to hurt my friend or his feelings (who helped me).
Any suggestions or help... please
And a mutual friend of us, really think me as a great partner to him. But one of our friend who happened to be his childhood buddy. Thinks of me as a great human and wants to be with me in a friends with benefits relation.
Now, I am afraid what should I do? Should I go for it or not? Tell him what his friend thinks? As I am scared to hurt my friend or his feelings (who helped me).
Any suggestions or help... please
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The person who helps us really seriously during dark times really becomes very very special for us as it's rare to find such person in this world. It's natural. But we must understand to differentiate the feelings of gratitude from the feeling of romantic love or any other feelings. You better try to see both things differently.
No matter how much that friend has helped you during your tough days still only and only you have rights to choose the person you want to be with or want to have relationship. No matter by your decision your friends get hurt (he shouldn't as it's completely your right to choose).
Because your friend saved your life doesn't mean he own your life. Try to understand this simple concept. It's two complete different things.
He is not intrested in more so that ends their as for the other friend if u guys are in the same circles don't get into a friends with benefits situation after confusing you intreat to the first guy that would be so fucking messy
So what should I do now. Should I tell the first guy about it all and clear everything so it won't affect future or should I simply reject second guy?
Just reject the second guy
Right... it will be better for us all.. hopefully
How is this complicated?