I've been dating a guy for a year and 4 months.
When we watch TV he talks about how sexy the other women are. He gives his opinions on there looks and compliments them. But it's not just a quick one comment, it's a detailed sentence or two comparing them to other women and how they are not as good looking ad x or z.
This makes me feel uncomfortable. I told him this after we got back together. He apologies and said he never meant to upset me.
2 weeks later an he did the same thing.
He said he likes to wind me up and get a reaction.
I felt physically sick about this.
To me, I've outlined a boundry and he crossed the line.
I would never sit there an look at another man, let alone make any comment on them, simply because its no disrespectful to a partner.
What does he not understand?
Also he is 40 and I'm 29 (physically fit and attractive)
When we watch TV he talks about how sexy the other women are. He gives his opinions on there looks and compliments them. But it's not just a quick one comment, it's a detailed sentence or two comparing them to other women and how they are not as good looking ad x or z.
This makes me feel uncomfortable. I told him this after we got back together. He apologies and said he never meant to upset me.
2 weeks later an he did the same thing.
He said he likes to wind me up and get a reaction.
I felt physically sick about this.
To me, I've outlined a boundry and he crossed the line.
I would never sit there an look at another man, let alone make any comment on them, simply because its no disrespectful to a partner.
What does he not understand?
Also he is 40 and I'm 29 (physically fit and attractive)
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Don’t take this the wrong way, but I think your time is better spent elsewhere. As you said, you set your boundaries and he ignored them. The thing is though, he won’t respect them if you don’t either. It means nothing when you say A but do B. Your boundaries crossed should be a dealbreaker and instead it seems to result in… well, nothing.
Like you told him you don’t like it, he didn’t care yet gets rewards with sex and being taken back. On top of that you’re still dealing with him despite having no title after 4 months. If you value yourself and your presence in men’s lives, then stop settling. Stop compromising your boundaries and and accommodating the deal breakers. Otherwise you will never find the right man, and I can tell you with certainty this man who’s 11 years your senior is not the one. In fact if I were you I’d be wondering why he can’t get a woman his own age.
This is not somthing guys do its domthing idiots do